Questions tagged [marriage]
marriage, marrying, the state of being married; more specific tags are `wedding` and `intermarriage`
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Marrying through a messenger without knowing whom?
Based on the basic idea of marrying through a messenger (Shaliah) both by a man and a woman (Kiddushin 41).
First, the bride and the groom say to the messengers: "go bring me any man/woman". So one ...
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Is a non-Jew forbidden to his father's ex-wife?
A Jewish man and his father's wife are forbidden to each other forever, even after his father dies or divorces her. (Issurei Biah 2:1)
A non-Jewish man and his father's wife are forbidden to each ...
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Can a Cohen marry a single mother?
Can a Cohen marry a single mother (who has had relations once in her life, for example, and the child’s father is Jewish)?
The single mother fits all other requirements as well as being a bat cohen.
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Asking the husband about the wife אַיֵּה שָׂרָה אִשְׁתֶּךָ - what are the views of contemporary poskim?
Rashi on Braishis 18 (9) says
We learn that a person should ask in his lodging place of the husband
about the wife, and of the wife about the husband
The Shulchan Oruch Horav says
One may ...
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Non-jewish woman converting for marriage [duplicate]
If a non Jewish woman converts in order to marry a Jewish man are their children still considered Jewish? Even though the mother is converted and not raised in the religion.
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Should you not rejoice with your spouse also?
"וְשָׂמַחְתָּ בְּחַגֶּךָ אַתָּה וּבִנְךָ וּבִתֶּךָ וְעַבְדְּךָ וַאֲמָתֶךָ וְהַלֵּוִי וְהַגֵּר וְהַיָּתוֹם וְהָאַלְמָנָה אֲשֶׁר בִּשְׁעָרֶיךָ׃ "
You shall rejoice in your festival, with your ...
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Does second wife Kiddushin hold nowadays Halachicly?
To elaborate the question of "Can-a-jew-be-polygamous".
If a married Jew makes Kosher second Kiddushin:
Do they hold legally (קידושים תופסים, she's married and needs a Gett to be divorced)?
Can ...
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"She may marry any Jewish man"
My friend showed me her conversion document. The last sentence was [almost identical to the following]: "She may marry any Jewish man except a Kohen."
Why would the conversion document go out of its ...
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Jewish view on unrequitted love
I know that traditionally, Judaism doesn't put much emphasis on 'love' as in experiencing those romantic feelings and it's rather focused on building a big Jewish family, having a compatible partner ...
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History of chattan & kallah classes
A common practice in some segments of today's Jewish world is for brides and grooms to attend "Chattan/kallah classes" where the attendees receive instruction and advice on relationship dynamics and ...
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Can a Jew be polygamous today?
Polygamy is allowed by the Torah but outlawed in the countries where Jews live. So, because of Dina dmalchuta dina, Jews cannot have more than one wife. Rabbenu Gershom imposed a ban on polygamy for ...
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Why is a Moaviyah acceptable to marry?
The pasuk (Dev 23:4) says that a Moavi and Amoni cannot marry into the Jewish people. The stated reasons are that they did not provide bread and water (as mentioned in Dev 23) and "he" hired Bil'am.
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Can a woman who commits adultery do teshuva and return to her husband?
Suppose a married woman goes her own way and leaves (but not divorces) her husband. She engages in sexual relationships with other men.
But after a year, she realizes the error of her ways and does ...
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Source for an ideal Shidduch based on proximity
A Rebbi of mine in yeshiva said in the name of Rav Ruderman z"tl who referred to a Chazal that a person should ideally try to marry someone from the "same מבוי (street), if not then the same שכונה (...
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Does a Jewish woman have a responsibility, according to halacha, to get married?
Does a Jewish woman have a responsibility, according to halacha, to get married?
My question references the halacha.
The other question does not reference halacha, and neither do the answers ...
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Marriage in the world to come? [duplicate]
As I understand it, in Judaism the soul waits in gan eden until the messiah comes and the people are resurrected ushering in the era of the messiah. Will there be marriage in the world to come during ...
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Shalom Bayit vs. Making shabbat bread [closed]
If someone has the option to fix their marriage and save it or make bread for Shabbat (which would put fixing the relationship on hold) which one should be the priority?
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Fate of female captive children from Midian given to Elozor and the Leviim
Bamidbor 31 (18) allows the female captive children from the war with Midian to be kept alive. From them there had to be a 'tax' of one out of 500. One half of these was to be given to Elozor Hacohen ...
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How a father is allowed to cause embarrassment to his underage daughter?
In Ketubot 40b the Gemara says that we see that the father gets his daughters (child) embarrassment and degradation payments from the fact that he can marry off his daughter to someone horrible, ...
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Can a father marry off his daughter for nissuin or only arusin?
In the Torah a father is given the right to marry off his daughter before she's an adult. Does this work even for nissuin (the second stage of marriage) or only arusin?
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Is a Jew allowed to marry a non-observant Jew?
Is a Jew allowed to marry another Jew who is generally unconcerned with observing Judaism?
On one hand, the first Jew's observance could be negatively affected by the second Jew's non-observance, and ...
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If the Kesubah was read immediately following the birkas eirusin, before the kedushin took place, must the bracha be repeated?
If, at a wedding, the Kesubah (marriage contract) was read immediately following the birkas eirusin, before the kedushin took place, must the bracha be repeated, because of the hefsek (interruption) ...
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Did many / any women remarry in the desert or after first entering Israel?
Follow up to this answer that states that women were excluded from the decree of dying in the desert.
If their husbands died and they didn't have children, I assume that they wanted children. Thus, ...
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Sources on how to make one's wife happy
Are there any seforim or sources how a man can make his wife happy outside the bedroom and especially inside?
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How could Kayin have married his sister, if it was prohibited?
The Rambam writes in Melachim uMilchamot (Ch. 9) that six different mitzvot were given to Adam. One of these mitzvot is the prohibition of incest and adultery.
The Gemara (Sanhedrin 38b) says that ...
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If two Jewish sisters marry one's son to one's daughter, are their descendants all mamzerim forever?
I've heard that the children of two sisters are like siblings spiritually. If a woman gives her son to marry her sister's daughter this is forbidden, correct?
Does this make the union incest and the ...
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Can a Shliach for receiving a get be מקדש the same woman with the service he is doing for her?
If a woman appoints a shliach (messenger) to receive her get for her, can the shliach be מקדש her with the service he is doing for her by receiving her get for her, and thus the moment he takes her ...
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What is the "good of marriage" in Jewish thought?
In Christian philosophy, many ancient philosophers such as Aquinas and Augustine speak about the "good of marriage." Marriage is "good", they argue, because it leads to offspring, chastity and ...
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Lesbian adulterer
Today morning I was reading the newspaper, when a film review called The rabbi and his daughter caught my eyes. Eventually it turned out that it was reviewing a recent, not really kosher film. Putting ...
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Can a man purchase the wife off a husband?
Marriage in Judaism is technically a purchase of a woman with at least two witnesses. So, I was wondering if it's technically possible for man A to negotiate the purchase of the wife of man B (to then ...
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Applying Pesachim 49a's prohibition of marrying the daughter of an "am ha'aretz"
Inspired by a previous question that I asked, I viewed Talmud Bavli Pesachim 49a which says that a person should sell everything he owns in order to marry the daughter of a Talmid Chacham and by no ...
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Child marriage today
Suppose that in their infinite pubescent wisdom, a 12-year-old girl and a 13-year-old boy decided that they wanted to get married, somehow acquired a kosher ring and witnesses, performed kiddushin, ...
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Concept of a zivug with multiple wives
From what I understand, a person has a zivug. Whether that means they will for sure marry them or whether it simply means there exists an “ideal” partner somewhere, how does this work when people of ...
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What is the implication that Hashem is identified as our husband?
What is the implication that Hashem is identified as our husband? Why use a term that many cultures or humans define as a "sexual partner"?
Isaiah 54:5
"כִּי בֹעֲלַיִךְ עֹשַׂיִךְ ה' ...
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Married to the Torah
People say the Jewish nation is married to the Torah. Where does it say that? I've heard its a Midrash, a Zohar, and a Gemara in Sanhedrin, but I haven't managed to find them.
(I know we refer to ...
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Onanism and age
If "spilling seed" is a sin for a man because it prevents the creation of a new life, can a man who has not had children make love to his wife if she is postmenopausal (ie, incapable of making a "new ...
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How should a man and a woman behave after their divorce?
Is there any advice, recommendation or requirement for a behaviour after a divorce? Specially when a man wants to take a second wife, and his first wife got married and divorced meanwhile.
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Was Dan born out of wedlock?
I've heard that Dan was born out of wedlock. Is this true? Could someone provide me with a source for this information?
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Source wanted: Talmudic story of either Tanah or amorah with many children dreading and not enjoying maritial intercource
I heard this story of a Tanah or Amorah who had many children (possibly 11) but it was said he didn't enjoy intercourse with his wife. This was his opinion on how one should approach the subject of ...
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When Affinity Arayos (Kurvah) started?
We have two types of Arayos: Consanguinity (blood relationships, like mother or sister) and Affinity (blood relationships, like in-laws).
Consanguinity Arayos were forbidden for gentiles also (See ...
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Conditional marriages
I've read that there was some type of dispute between a french rabbi and a lot of European ones in the 1900s (http://www.icar.org.il/conditional-marriage.html) so I was wondering how could anyone say ...
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Does anyone hold you can make a stipulation on Nisuin
There's a parsha of T'nai (stipulation), that applies to various kinyanim, halachic changes in status. The third chapter of Kiddushin has many cases of tenai when it comes to Kiddushin.
I'm wondering ...
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"Stay away from doubt" in Kiddushin - why not if you can?
This is an overview question on Halokhos of Kiddushin in general.
Many many ways of Kiddushin result in "Kiddushin in doubt" ("מקודשת מספק"). Examples:
Omitting "to me" in "Harei At Mekudeshet..." ...
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Was Hagar Abraham's second wife or his pilegesh?
In Genesis 16:3 it is written:
"So Sarai, Abraham's wife, took Hagar the Egyptian, her handmaid, at the end of ten years of Abraham's dwelling in the land of Canaan, and she gave her to Abraham her ...
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What exactly do the Noahide Laws establish regarding the Gentiles' sexual conduct?
I’m an Italian son of Noah.
If I understand correctly, the Noahide Laws certainly command the following four prohibitions on sexual conduct for the Gentiles:
Adultery
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Custom of groom stepping on bride's foot?
I have seen some Orthodox weddings in which the groom steps on the bride's foot. What is the source for this strange custom?
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Was Rabbi Akiva exempt from his conjugal duties?
The Gemara (in Kesubos 63a) says, “When Rabbi Akiva returned, he brought twelve thousand students with him. As he approached his home, he heard a certain old man saying to [his wife], ‘Until when will ...
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What is a "Binyan Bayis fund"?
Sorry, but, yet another unfamiliar marriage-related question...
One of my distant cousin's daughter is engaged. Her mother told me that in lieu of sending gifts towards a bridal registry, she has ...
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What are Chattan or Kallah classes? [duplicate]
I guess I'm becoming more "outdated" regarding the current "frum fad".
A shadchan as well as a few young boys and girls told me that at some point between engagement and marriage they must attend a ...
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Can a Jewish Woman marry a Non Jewish Man?
I heard a Jewish woman can marry a non-Jewish man because Jewishness is through the mother and not the father.
Are there any sources saying it's allowed?
