Questions tagged [marriage]
marriage, marrying, the state of being married; more specific tags are `wedding` and `intermarriage`
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What constitutes Halachic intercourse during Niddah? [duplicate]
Specifically when it comes to forbidden relationships during niddah and/or the following "clean" days, what constitutes an act of sexual intercourse punishable with Karet?
Presumably, a ...
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Is there an age difference limit for marriages in halakha?
What is the biggest age gap permitted by halakha between a man and a girl/woman for them to get married?
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Is there a sefer that is m'laket all of the sources from Chazal relating to marriage?
I have read several different sefarim that are related to marriage - Binyan Bayis, the new sefer by Rabbi Schaeffer, the kuntris from R Wolbe - but is there a sefer that has all of the midrashim, ...
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Kohen Gadol and marriage
We know that a Kohen hedyot may marry a woman who is not a giyoret, gerushah, challalah, or zonah (Lev. 21:8) and that the Kohen Gadol may only marry a betulah (ibid. 13).
Given this, what would ...
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Is there anything wrong with getting married to have intimacy?
Is it halachically wrong to marry a woman to have a physical outlet and with mutual understanding that this is the purpose until a more suitable candidate arrives? This practice is found in Islamic ...
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Can intercourse mean marriage even without any actual marriage?
If two people have intercourse, can it sometimes be considered that they are now married on some level, or in any sense? I don't remember the sources, but there is a concept that a man gives a part of ...
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If the Torah tells us 36 times to love the stranger where did the sephardic minhag of not marrying geirim come from?
To my understanding, the Syrian Jewish community of New York adheres to an "Edict" forbidding marriage to a convert. If the Torah tells us 36 times to love the convert where did this ...
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I need to know if it is the ketuvah of my parents, what does it say? Dates, names, etc
I have to travel to Israel and they ask me for a marriage certificate from my parents or grandparents I have this document but I don't know if it is and I don't have anyone who can translate it for me,...
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Could Solomon be a married father at the age of 11?
While the Bible specifies the age of accession for most of the kings of Israel and Judah, Solomon's age is not given. In his dream at Gibeon Solomon describes himself as a נער קטן which may be part ...
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Why did Sarai & Abram have the slave Hagar?
Why did Sarai & Abram have the Egyptian slave/servant girl (שִׁפְחָ֥ה) Hagar? Was it custom for newlywed Hebrew couples like them to have servants?
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Marriage clarification!
I was once told, that marriage clears one’s sins, though I doubt it’s that simple.
Could someone please explain to me the actual perimeters. Does it need to be a kosher wedding, does the Chattan and ...
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Tzafenas Paneach and the conversion of Rus
I heard in a shiur once that Rus' and her sister Orpa's conversion to Judaism was pending. Meaning, when they married Na'ami's sons, they converted. However, since they converted for marriage, it was ...
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According to Halacha, are there rules for practicing celibacy, living a life as a monk or nun? Or is it simply prohibited? [duplicate]
Having children (or being "fruitful") is considered the first mitzvah and commandment, and is considered an "obligation" according to Halacha - but are there any rules for those ...
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Tefillah when marrying almana
I've heard there exists a formal Tefilah to be said when marrying an almana where one asks mechila from the first husband who was niftar. Would someone know where this tefilah can be found as well as ...
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Do commentaries address/question the morality of Leah and Rachel's actions against Yaakov regarding switching places?
Leah switches with Rachel to marry Yaakov (parashat ויצא). Following this, Yaakov is surprised (to say the least!), Bereshit 29:25:
וַיְהִ֣י בַבֹּ֔קֶר וְהִנֵּה־הִ֖וא לֵאָ֑ה וַיֹּ֣אמֶר אֶל־לָבָ֗ן מַה־...
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The twelve months not necessarily be observed? [closed]
According to various rabbinic sources, after an engagement twelve months (one year) must follow for effective coexistence (Nisuin): Talmud, mKetubot 5,2; 57b; mNedarin 10.5 but also Mishneh Torah, ...
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Why would Sarah need to convince Hagar?
Asking for someone else. Rashi on the parsha, Beresheet 16:3, brings a midrash from Beresheet Rabbah 45:3 which says:
"And Sarai, the wife of Abram, took Hagar the Egyptian, her maidservant (...
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For those who hold that David sinned, how was he allowed to ever marry Bat Sheba?
I might be erring here, but IIRC adulterers can't ever be married.
For those who hold that David did sin, how was he allowed to marry Bat Sheba?
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Sefer recommendations for a couple to learn? [closed]
I want to start learning with my significant other. Was curious if anyone has any positive experience with a Sefer that would be good for a couple. If so, please recommend!
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What does Judaism teach about men marrying a widow?
I'm interested in what the teaching of the Jewish religion is on a man marrying a woman who had a deceased husband? Is there further considerations in regards to whether the widow has children. A ...
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Can a man nullify a woman's vow that was made before she became his wife upon hearing it?
In Bemidbar/Numbers 30 a man is allowed to cancel his wife's (and daughter's) vow after it comes to his attention. If the woman made the vow previously (in her father's house or from a previous ...
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Does the scope of "נערה/Naarah" used in Mishle/Proverbs 31 include wives and/or concubines?
In Mishlei/Proverbs 31:15 it states:
She riseth also while it is yet night, and giveth food to her
household, and a portion to her maidens.
וַתָּקָם, בְּעוֹד לַיְלָה--וַתִּתֵּן טֶרֶף לְבֵיתָהּ; ...
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Chosson leading the bentching
Can a Chosson lead the bentching excluding the Sheva Brachos? I ask this because I understand that other people lead but let’s say the Chosson was in a restaurant and wanted to make a minyan for Sheva ...
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Does halacha allow married couple living under the same roof with parent(s)?
A long time ago I heard a rabbi saying that the halacha forbids married couple living with their parents, not even in the same city.
I want to know if that is true and if someone can provide a source ...
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Unisex names on a ketubah
In Israel there are many names that are unisex; used for both men and women. What is the halacha regarding using a traditionally boys name for a girl and vice versa with regards to writing those names ...
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Jewish clergy to marry inside his congregation?
Does the Halacha allow a single/ widow(er) member of the congregation to flirt and date with the single/ widow(er) rabbi/ cantor of the same congregation in hope of a marriage ?
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Since Marriage is a Positive Commandment. Can one refrain from getting married?
I’ve been struggling with this question and have found some sources that allows one to refrain from positive commandments especially if they are not available to him.
The big one being “Marriage” so ...
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An Ashkenaz-Sefaradi couple is getting married, can they reuse their mezuzot?
An Ashkenazi and Sefaradi (Edot Hamizrach) are getting married. They each have available mezuzot from previous houses they lived in, written in Ashkenazi (Beit Yosef) or Sefaradi (Vellish) script.
Are ...
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Sources in Gemara that a person should not marry a convert?
The Gemara says in Pesachim 112b that a person should not marry a convert. The Gemara is clearly implying a marriage between a female convert and a Jew who is not necessarily a Kohen.
Are there any ...
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Why does God appear to Avraham about Sarah’s laughter?
In Bereshis (Perek 18) why would God appear to Avraham regarding Sarah’s laughter and not appear to Sarah herself? Isn’t one’s relationship with God personal, not necessarily involving one’s spouse?
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Hypothetical, what should a wife do if she discovers her husband is uncircumcised?
Circumcision is an integral part of Judaism. That being said, there really isn't an "inspection" to verify someone is circumcised. Unless the individual is a convert, there isn't a ...
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Chuppah, Kiddushin in ברכת אירוסין
Why do we say על ידי חופה וקידושין, mentioning chuppah first when kiddushin takes place before chuppah (nisuin)?
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Where in the mishnah/written Torah does it explicitly say that women are supposed to go to the mikvah to complete niddah after menstruation + 7 days? [duplicate]
I realize this is a fundamental aspect of Judaism and I know that the menstruation + 7 days rule is straight from Leviticus, I'm just curious what the source is in the Oral/Written Law for the mikvah'...
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Why is it that you are not allowed to be intimate with your wife during niddah, but you are allowed to eat food prepared by a niddah?
I understand the basis from Leviticus for prohibiting intimacy during the niddah period.
The answers to this question say that there is no issue with eating food cooked by a Niddah because "even ...
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Are you allowed to "spill the seed" when your wife is pregnant, post-menopausal, or otherwise infertile? [closed]
I'm assuming you are not allowed to, but why not? Or is it not even possible to do so if your partner is infertile?
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Marriage between Shifcha and Kohanim
I know Kohanim have certain restrictions on whom they may marry. My question is, are Kohanim restricted onto a Shifcha?
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If your wife requests intimacy in a niddah state, may you refuse?
In general, my understanding is that you are not supposed to refuse your wife intimacy. However, it is also expressly forbidden to engage in intimacy while she is in a niddah state. Does the latter ...
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Is it possible to build a mikvah for personal use as an orthodox Jew?
For example, if your wife would prefer not to use a public one and wants to install one in your house? Is there anything to be aware of if you're considering doing this?
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In Judaism, is marriage a requirement per Genesis 1:22, 2:18 and 2:24?
[Genesis 1:22 JPS] And God blessed them, saying, "Be fruitful and multiply, and fill the waters of the seas, and let the fowl multiply upon the earth."
[Genesis 2:18 JPS] And the Lord God ...
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Halachot when the groom has been previously married
Are there any differences in halachot or minhagim in the wedding ceremony or sheva brachot when the groom has been previously married (and divorced), but the bride has not been?
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Can a Jewish man who had a vasectomy marry a Jewish woman?
Rambam lists the prohibition to castrate a man or animal in the negative mitzvah #361. The previous negative mitzvah (#360) Rambam lists that it is forbidden for a castrated man to marry a Jewish ...
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Spitting in the eye - Insult or Resolution?
I apologise if this question is a non-starter but I noticed the following scenario in a couple of sources I came across, and I was intrigued if there was anything more to it.
The two sources which I ...
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Why didn’t Yaakov marry both sisters simultaneously?
This might sound strange but the effective Jewish Halacha allows for marrying multiple women at once:
נוֹשֵׂא אָדָם כַּמָּה נָשִׁים אֲפִלּוּ מֵאָה בֵּין בְּבַת אַחַת בֵּין בָּזוֹ אַחַר זוֹ - A person ...
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What Biblical couple is the standard for happy and healthy marital relationships?
On Shabbos, we bless our kids with Brochos to grow like our forefathers/mothers. When my kid announced that he's getting married I exclaimed "may God put your marriage like..." and got stuck ...
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When is a wife categorized as a moredet?
I understand there are two main reasons that a wife would be categorized as a moredet
She refused to be intimate with her husband to cause him distress
She refuses to be intimate with her husband ...
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Can a 3yo girl be Halachically asked for consent to marry?
וַיֹּאמְרוּ נִקְרָא לַנַּעֲרָ וְנִשְׁאֲלָה אֶת־פִּיהָ׃ - And they said, “Let us call the girl and ask for her reply.”
Rashi: מִכָּאן שֶׁאֵין מַשִּׂיאִין אֶת הָאִשָּׁה אֶלָּא מִדַּעְתָּהּ (בראשית רבה):...
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Why was Rivka asked for consent after closing the deal?
Then Laban and Bethuel answered, “...Here is Rebekah before you; take her and go, and let her be a wife to your master’s son...” ... The servant brought out objects of silver and gold, and garments, ...
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Why isn't there a source for a widows time limit?
The Mishnah in Ketubot 57a says:
נותנין לבתולה שנים עשר חודש משתבעה הבעל לפרנס את עצמה, וכשם שנותנין לאשה כך נותנין לאיש לפרנס
את עצמו. ולאלמנה שלשים יום
One gives a virgin twelve months from the ...
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Why is the law not enforced, that a couple must divorce if they have no children after ten years? [duplicate]
Jewish law says that if a couple has no children after ten years of marriage, and the man is not allowed to take a second wife, they must get a divorce so the man can remarry and try again to fulfill ...
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What is Judaism's take on dying a virgin?
I take it from the Torah that G'd commanded mankind to procreate and that pre-marital sex is forbidden and all that, But what happens with people who either choose to remain unmarried or otherwise ...
