Questions tagged [marriage]
marriage, marrying, the state of being married; more specific tags are `wedding` and `intermarriage`
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Source for an ideal Shidduch based on proximity
A Rebbi of mine in yeshiva said in the name of Rav Ruderman z"tl who referred to a Chazal that a person should ideally try to marry someone from the "same מבוי (street), if not then the same שכונה (...
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Can a witness at Kiddushin have had committed inconsequential crimes?
I remember hearing in the name of Rav Moshe Feinstein that a criminal who-- by normal and objective standards-- should be invalidated from testifying can still be considered a Kosher witness if his ...
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When did a Jew last marry a woman captured in war?
What is the last recorded case of a Jew marrying a woman captured in war, as allowed by the Torah [Deut. 21:10-14]? Anybody more recent than King David, as mentioned in Sanhedrin 21a and Kiddushin ...
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Are relations permitted with one's wife who does not safeguard Shabbos?
One who transgresses Shabbos publicly has the status of a Gentile (Shulchan Aruch Y"D 2:5 and Shulchan Aruch Harav on it). Furthermore, Jews are forbidden from having relations with Gentiles.
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Why does the Kohen Gadol need to divorce his wife in such a complicated manner?
On Yom Kippur, the Kohen Gadol must be married to exactly one wife. We are also concerned about her passing away.
So the Gemara suggests that he gives a get to one wife on condition that the other ...
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Does a Kohen have to be concerned about the surname of a potential mate?
In this question various surnames are explored that are strongly associated with being a Kohein. Some of them are rather unambiguously chosen simply because the chooser wanted to indicate their status....
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Must you love your wife more than your friend?
The Rambam (Hilchus Ishus 15:19) writes:
כן צוו חכמים שיהיה אדם מכבד את אשתו יתר מגופו ואוהבה כגופו
The Chachamim instituted that [each] man should respect his wife more than himself, and love her ...
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How is yefas to'ar fair to the woman?
At the beginning of Ki Seitzei (Devarim 21:10-14), the Torah permits a soldier at war to take a woman from the captives as a wife, but only after he shaves her head, grows out her nails, removes her ...
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Kohen in a non-Kohen-specific prohibited marriage
If a Kohen marries someone forbidden to him as a Kohen, (1) she becomes a chalalah, (2) their children are chalalim, (3) if she dies he can't go to her funeral (Rashi Emor 21:4), and (4) she can't eat ...
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Tefillah when marrying almana
I've heard there exists a formal Tefilah to be said when marrying an almana where one asks mechila from the first husband who was niftar. Would someone know where this tefilah can be found as well as ...
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Is a non-Jew forbidden to his father's ex-wife?
A Jewish man and his father's wife are forbidden to each other forever, even after his father dies or divorces her. (Issurei Biah 2:1)
A non-Jewish man and his father's wife are forbidden to each ...
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Process for a rebellious wife?
In the talmud the Rabbis discuss a "rebellious wife" who refuses to sleep with her husband. The husband is given recourse to deduct from her ketubah (marriage contract). This is discussed in tractate ...
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Jacob's Dual Names and Wives
The third Patriarch's birth name was Jacob. He is given another name, Israel, in Genesis 32. Jacob had two primary wives; Leah and Rachel.
I have heard the idea that the Rachel was the betrothed ...
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Death penalty convict status
If a Jewish woman is married to a Jewish man, and she has been sentenced to death or declared a resident of a Rebellious City, but not yet been executed, is she considered technically "dead" to the ...
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Why were Jews allowed to commit incest?
Amram married Yokheved, his aunt, Yitzkhak married Rivkah, his cousin, Yehudah married his daughter-in-law, etc. Why were they allowed to commit incest even though it is prohibited in the Torah. And ...
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Why does Siddur Avodat Yisrael not contain piyutim for a wedding?
Levush HaHur (minhagim) records what seems to have been the widespread ashkenazi practice to recite certain piyutim on the shabbat of a wedding. (I assume this means where the chupah takes place on a ...
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On the halachic level, does the sexual intercourse between a Jewish man and a Gentile woman married to a Gentile man constitute adultery or not?
I am an Italian noahide.
As is known, the Torah prohibits marriage between Jews and Gentiles, and in general sexual intercourses between them. There is, except for my mistake, the exception ...
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Source for Arizal Marital Advice
Rav Ezriel Tauber's To Become One (p.46) quotes a story about the Arizal who told a husband, "This is your tikun, the way you can repair a fault in your spiritual self. In a previous existence the ...
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What is a "Binyan Bayis fund"?
Sorry, but, yet another unfamiliar marriage-related question...
One of my distant cousin's daughter is engaged. Her mother told me that in lieu of sending gifts towards a bridal registry, she has ...
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Marriage and p'ru urvu
An answer here states:
The mitzva of Pru Urvu covers only marrying someone believed to be
fertile.
And one here:
"The mitzva per se of pru urvu means: "marry someone who is able to
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Does the Conservative Movement uphold restrictions on marriage for Kohanim?
Does the Conservative Movement restrict kohanim from marrying divorcées and converts according to halakha?
I have never heard of this coming up for Conservative Jews and most Conservative Jews that I ...
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Why is dreaming of getting married considered a disturbance?
I know that this is a pretty mystical question, but is anyone able to provide an explanation as to why the Shulchan Aruch (OH 288:5) says that seeing oneself get married in a dream is considered bad ...
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What's the Halacha on Kohanim that lie to marry converts or divorcees?
What's the Halacha on Kohanim that lie to marry converts or divorcees?
Are they permanently unable to regain their status if they divorced the forbidden relationship or are they able to regain ...
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Looking for info about the issur to marry chassidim
In the early days of the "war" between the misnagdim and the chassidim, some of the leading Rabbis of the misnagdim made some sort of public cherem forbidding marriage to chassidim. Are there any ...
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Chuppah by a Zivug Sheini (second marriage) and the "main" kinyan
It seems that the prevalent minhag by a zivug sheini (second marriage) is to have the chuppah inside (as opposed to the minhag of (at least) the ashkanazim to have the chuppah outside.) What is the ...
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Kol Isha Yabia Omer 1:6
Chacham Ovadia writes in Yabia Omer 1:6(end of section 7) different opinions on listening to a woman's voice without knowing what she looks like. He brings the gemara in Berachos 57b that says: three ...
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Does a Man's other children indicate anything about his wife unable to have children for 10 years?
If a man has a child from a previous wife, but has not fulfilled the Mitzvah of Piriah Veriviah and divorces his wife because they were unable to have children for 10 years, does his demonstrated ...
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Is it permissible to create a prenuptial agreement regarding nonmonetary issues?
Is it permissible to create a prenuptial agreement that includes clauses about things other than money? For example, it is common in the United States for a marrying couple to come to an agreement ...
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Saying Harei At Mkudeshet Li
If someone gives a girl a ring in front of a group of Jews and says "Harei at mkudeshet li" while they are dating does she now need a get to marry someone else after they break up?
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Is there a Jewish source for the saying: "only the father knows when the wedding would take place"?
The website below describes what is apparently an ancient Jewish wedding custom, in which it was apparently said that "only the Father" of the groom "knows" when the wedding would ...
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When is a wife categorized as a moredet?
I understand there are two main reasons that a wife would be categorized as a moredet
She refused to be intimate with her husband to cause him distress
She refuses to be intimate with her husband ...
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Is an "Ateret Chatan" only for Chassanim?
I really like the kind of atara for a tallis that has rows of metal squares (like this). On this link, it is called an "Ateret Chatan" and the description says "A popular addition to a tallis for a ...
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Question about shidduchim and finding your bashert?
I know this is kind of a weird and long-shot question, but are there any Torah sources which mention signs (simanim) that a person is about to find their bashert? And are there are any sources which ...
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How much help can a kohen's wife get
At the very end of Orach Chaim 128:45, the Rema says:
אסור להשתמש בכהן אפי' בזמן הזה דהוי כמועל בהקדש אם לא מחל על כך
It is forbidden to be serviced by a Kohen even in our current
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Is there ever a case that the groom can get back the money he used for the wedding
Halachikly the groom is the one who pays for the wedding (last paragraph on this page Igros Moshe 7 even ezer 4:92:1 and can the bride's family force Sheva Brachot )
Is there ever a case that the ...
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What's on Kiddushin Rabbi obligatory check-up list?
IIRC, a Rabbi that makes Kiddushin takes a great responsibility (forgot the exact wording of the Gemmorah), at most he can be allowing Arayot, at least he can make the blessings said in vain.
As the ...
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Marriage between followers of different Hasidic courts
I know that high-profile marriages between followers of different Hasidic courts occur -- such as the Belzer Rebbe, Rabbi Yissachar Dov Rokach and one of the Satmar Rebbes, Rabbi Aharon Teitelbaum ...
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Why the Megillah does not mention Ester marrying Achashverosh?
The Megillah (2.16) mentions taking Ester into the Palace, loving here [more than other girls] and crowning her as the queen but no mention of the marriage or being Achashverosh's wife:
וַתִּלָּקַח ...
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How come Torah does not have a distinctive word for "wife"?
[Edited] In Bereshit, Torah says the woman will be called Isha, that comes from Ish and is parallel to Ish. Later, Torah says Adam gave to אשתו a new name Chava. Now אשתו appears (out of nowhere) as "...
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Is it better for someone to look for a reason they are not a kohen or not get married?
Person a is an "older" baal teshuva (30-40 years plus) and grew up knowing he was a kohen. Being a kohen means that at his age there are not likely to be any baalas teshuva women he can marry and ...
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Reform Wedding No Ketubah
What is the status of children born to parents that had a Reform wedding without a ketubah prior to their birth?
Are these children considered the product of unmarried parents?
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Is a pilegesh the same as a handmaiden?
I'm confused as to whether what the actual relationship to a man a pilegesh actually has in Jewish Law. I've seen conflicting sources: (1) Hebrew school taught a pilegesh is a secondary wife (...
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For the recent approval of pilegesh in the circumstance of a married man unable to procreate, is kiddushin required?
Recently a Rabbinical Court in Jerusalem approvied a pilgesh in certain situations where a man cannot reproduce with his wife.
The Vilna Gaon and others (including Jerusalem Talmud, possibly Bavli ...
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The hupa itself, people holding or self standing, square or circle
I was told it is a segula to hold the 4 sticks of the hupa (square) so it seems it is preferred
But now I see a new (to me) minhag that they have fancy self standing ones, sometimes in the shape of a ...
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Unmarried man teacher of children
I see from
The Shulchan Aruch Even Ezer 22.20 and from
Shulchan Aruch Harav, Hilchois Talmud Torah, perek 1 halocho 13
that single man should not be a teacher of children (under 13) becouse of the ...
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May one hang Torah passages or ketubah in the marital bedroom?
I understand that one is not supposed to store holy books in one's marital bedroom, unless they are covered. I gather that this is due to the fact that marital relations occur there, and there is a ...
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If there were no other Jews around is a Jewish woman permitted to marry & have children with non Jews?
If a Jewish woman lived on an island without any other Jews & she was unable to leave or convert any of the locals, is she permitted to marry & have children? Would there be any difference or ...
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An Ashkenaz-Sefaradi couple is getting married, can they reuse their mezuzot?
An Ashkenazi and Sefaradi (Edot Hamizrach) are getting married. They each have available mezuzot from previous houses they lived in, written in Ashkenazi (Beit Yosef) or Sefaradi (Vellish) script.
Are ...
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Can a Yefat Toar be taken from nations who are ineligible for marriage?
My understanding is that a Yefat Toar (Devarim 21:10-14) is forcibly converted and can be married.
The Torah prohibits marrying people from certain nations such as Egypt and Edom for a number of ...
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Kohanic in vitro Pregnancy
I have the following theoretical questions, from many I’ve met and even a real case of someone very special I met in a hostel in Israel.
My assumptions are between parentheses after the list item.
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