Questions tagged [marriage]
marriage, marrying, the state of being married; more specific tags are `wedding` and `intermarriage`
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Why were Jews allowed to commit incest?
Amram married Yokheved, his aunt, Yitzkhak married Rivkah, his cousin, Yehudah married his daughter-in-law, etc. Why were they allowed to commit incest even though it is prohibited in the Torah. And ...
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Halachic extension of the Giving of the Torah and marriage analogy [duplicate]
The sages frequently liken the Giving of the Torah at Mount Sinai to a chuppah (wedding ceremony), where Hashem is symbolized by the chosson (groom) and the Knesses Yisroel is symbolized by the kallah ...
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Bride wearing a veil during wedding in Halacho [duplicate]
I am curious about the historical origins of brides wearing veils in Halacho. Additionally, I am interested in the earliest documented sources of this custom; and, if available, any notable inquiries ...
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Relationships and Intimacy [closed]
A girl (21) recently confessed her love for me, and she’s a nice girl, but she’s not a virgin. I approach all possible romantic relationships very seriously with the intent of marriage, and I don’t ...
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How is it that Yaakov Avinu was permitted to marry Zilpah, because she was the sister of Bilhah and Leah already had 4 sons?
How is it that Yaakov Avinu was permitted to marry Zilpah, because she was the sister of Bilhah and Leah already had 4 sons?
According to Bereishit Rabbah 74:13 Bilhah and Zilpah were also daughters ...
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What's the etymology of the Hassidic term "b'sho'oh" for a chaperoned quasi-date?
I've heard in the Hassidic world, if two families decide that one's young fellow should meet the other's young lady, the couple has a brief, chaperoned, meeting, known as a b'shoh (spelling?), to ...
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Married couples never sleeping in the same bed
I have heard that many Orthodox married couples never sleep in the same bed, even during the times that they are permitted to each other. Coming from a non-Orthodox background, this seems shocking to ...
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Saying Harei At Mkudeshet Li
If someone gives a girl a ring in front of a group of Jews and says "Harei at mkudeshet li" while they are dating does she now need a get to marry someone else after they break up?
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Child marriage in Halacha
Are there any contemporary halachic authorities who say that despite the Jewish age of maturity is 13 (bar mitzvah) for boys and 12 (bat mitzvah) for girls that child marriage (under the secular age ...
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40 days before the formation of the fetus
I know chazel say 40 days before the formation of a fetus a bas Kol goes out and says "bas ploni lploni" I was wondering in the language of the bas Kol, why does it say "bas ploni ...
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Did early biblical figures like Isaac abstain from intimate relations until marriage?
In biblical accounts, several figures, such as Isaac, are noted to have married at a relatively older age compared to today's standards. Isaac, for instance, married at the age of 40. Given the ...
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Concept of a zivug with multiple wives
From what I understand, a person has a zivug. Whether that means they will for sure marry them or whether it simply means there exists an “ideal” partner somewhere, how does this work when people of ...
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Can a woman who commits adultery do teshuva and return to her husband?
Suppose a married woman goes her own way and leaves (but not divorces) her husband. She engages in sexual relationships with other men.
But after a year, she realizes the error of her ways and does ...
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Can gentile couples be forgiven for adultery?
Are noahide couple partners allowed to "forgive" adultery (as a consumated act described by rambam for noahides)?
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Kings of Israel and the prohibition of "many wives"
The Torah explicitly states that kings should refrain from having many wives (Devarim 16:17):
וְלֹ֤א יַרְבֶּה־לּוֹ֙ נָשִׁ֔ים וְלֹ֥א יָס֖וּר לְבָב֑וֹ וְכֶ֣סֶף
וְזָהָ֔ב לֹ֥א יַרְבֶּה־לּ֖וֹ מְאֹֽד׃
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Does an older widow have to wait before re-marrying?
There is a concept that a widow should wait several months after her husband dies before she remarries in order that the paternity of any children will be obvious.
If the widow is obviously beyond ...
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Is the marriage contract valid upon the death or the divorce of the spouse?
I had a specific question related to the Kiddushin and death contract.
In the schools of Halakha, is the marriage contract considered "void" or "cancelled" or "paused" at ...
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Can two people who are asexual get married?
The situation is a couple where both the man and woman are not interested in consummating the marriage, but they want to get married because they are in love and they want the companionship. How would ...
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Balancing privacy of spouses' relationship with revealing important information to others [closed]
In general, the Torah places a lot of supremacy to the spousal relationship in marriage, compared to other relationships, and one must generally put one's spouse first over almost any other commitment,...
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Wives of the Shevatim
Do any midrashim etc detail the names and background of each the wives of the sons of Jacob?
I know the book of Jubilees does, but that is not considered 'canonical'.
Besides that, I only know of the ...
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Origin of wedding rings [duplicate]
Where did the custom of giving wedding rings originate?
Was it always a part of Jewish custom, or was it adopted by other cultures, and if so, how come it is so important that we have Halachas ...
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Why strangulation for adultery?
The Torah tells us which relationships are forbidden and what the punishments are. Some of them are cut off from the people, some are strangled, some are burnt, killed by sword others are stoned. The ...
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'Plonis' in Poskim on Nedarim 20
This page on Nedarim 20 is discussing the stringency of a husband avoiding thinking of other women during sex.
https://dafyomi.co.il/nedarim/halachah/nd-hl-020.htm
When it comes to the Poskim ...
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Angels of impurity before marriage?
I cam across an article here stating that before we marry, each person has an 'angel of impurity' attached to them from birth.
https://www.dailyhalacha.com/WeeklyParasha.asp?ParashaClipID=754
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Would marriage and divorce for Gentiles be invalid for being an appropriation of Jewish commandments?
I've read somewhere that God gave the law of divorce to the Jews but not to the Gentiles, quoted some rabbinic opinion about it, didn't say which one. Is there anything to that effect in the Talmud? I ...
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Four counted as dead & Agunot
Nedarim 64b relates of the Gemara: "it was taught in a baraita: Four are considered as if they were dead: A pauper, and a leper, and a blind person, and one who has no children."
Could one ...
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marriage halacha between noahide couple [duplicate]
My girlfriend and I are noahide and we live together. We want to get married in December, but currently we refer to ourselves as boyfriend/girlfriend, not as married or engaged. By Jewish law, would ...
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'Hole in sheet' myth VS Nedarim 20a,b and Gur accounts
First, sorry to rehash this old canard.
Second, I'm aware this topic has been addressed here:
Origin of myth about the hole in the sheet?
However, that addresses R' Yose ben Chalafta's behaviour, and ...
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Mamzer from non-Jew
If a Jewess married to a Jew has a child from a non-Jew is that child a mamzer?
Is there agreement amongst the poskim about this?
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How widespread is the belief that Adam had a first wife?
I have heard of that the idea that Adam had a wife before Eve comes from Jewish tradition, and also about the idea that this wife was Lilith. From what I can tell the story of Lilith and the story of ...
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Why did the R' Akiva marry the wife of Tyrannus Rufus?
The gemara in Avodah zara 20a brings a Baraisa that says,
ואף רבי עקיבא ראה אשת טורנוסרופוס הרשע רק שחק ובכה רק שהיתה באה מטיפה
סרוחה שחק
דעתידה דמגיירא ונסיב לה בכה דהאי שופרא בלי עפרא
We know that ...
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Passion or affinity in search of a spouse?
What is the Jewish position regarding the status of the beginning of a marital relationship? Should you look for the person with the greatest possible affinity with you or should the component of ...
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Kohanic in vitro Pregnancy
I have the following theoretical questions, from many I’ve met and even a real case of someone very special I met in a hostel in Israel.
My assumptions are between parentheses after the list item.
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Can a woman time intercourse to avoid conception?
Can a woman whose husband already has children refuse sex with him on days she may be fertile with the goal of not conceiving?
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Can a Yefat Toar be taken from nations who are ineligible for marriage?
My understanding is that a Yefat Toar (Devarim 21:10-14) is forcibly converted and can be married.
The Torah prohibits marrying people from certain nations such as Egypt and Edom for a number of ...
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Is there a name for the timeframe when a wife is permissible to her husband?
Is there a name for the time when a woman can have sex with her husband?
The Torah tells married couples not to have sex during the period of niddah, when she menstruates until right before the moment ...
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Who has final say, husband or wife?
I have heard (and read) it said in Shalom Bayit classes and books that a husband should defer to his wife in matters to do with the home - how to decorate it, whether or not to invite So-and-So, etc. -...
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May a couple forgo relations out of convenience?
In my chassan classes I was taught that it is important to have relations on the night a wife returns tahor from the mikvah. I do not know the source of this idea. My question is: May the couple ...
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Can a Jew who grew up Conservative have an Orthodox wedding?
Suppose there was a Jewish man, let’s call him John.
John comes from a Conservative Jewish family. Both of John's grandparents, on both sides, were married in Conservative synagogues.
Today if he ...
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What is the meaning of the story of demon doubles?
Every man and woman that is born has a demonic double also born in the world of hell ruled by Samael, the Evil One. The world of hell is in all respects identical to the world of humanity. If you were ...
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Why does Siddur Avodat Yisrael not contain piyutim for a wedding?
Levush HaHur (minhagim) records what seems to have been the widespread ashkenazi practice to recite certain piyutim on the shabbat of a wedding. (I assume this means where the chupah takes place on a ...
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Applying Pesachim 49a's prohibition of marrying the daughter of an "am ha'aretz"
Inspired by a previous question that I asked, I viewed Talmud Bavli Pesachim 49a which says that a person should sell everything he owns in order to marry the daughter of a Talmid Chacham and by no ...
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Why did Chiya bar Ashi separate from his wife?
In the gmara kidushin 81b according to the translation http://www.dafyomi.co.il/kidushin/points/kd-ps-081.htm the following story happened.
(h) Whenever R. Chiya bar Ashi would fall on his face in ...
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Is anger OK for a husband?
The Gemara says that
וא״ר חִסְדָא תּוּקְפָא בְבֵיתָא כִי קַרְיָא לְשוּמְשְמָא אִידִי וְְאִידִי בְאִיתְּתָא אֲבָל בְגַבְרָא לֵית לָן בָהּ
And Rav Chisda also said: Anger in a house is like a worm in ...
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What is permissible on "anything-but" night (סמוך לוסתה)?
Please see here for the source that on the night of a woman's expected menstruation, anything other than "relations" proper is permitted.
What acts are included under this permission? Put another way,...
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Sheva Brachos at a Bris
If a Chosson & Kallah during the first week they got married attended a Bris, should the assembled recite Sheva Brachos after Bentching?
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Sexual Relations with a married woman that's asur to her husband
Is it ok for a man to have relations with a married woman who's already been unfaithful to her husband?
Is there still an isur kareth?
Or since she's already prohibited from being with her husband and ...
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Can co-parents-in-law marry? For example, a husband's father and a wife's mother (but applied to Judaism)
Same question as here but for Judaism. I don't see how a married couple's becoming step-siblings is any different from step-siblings' become a married couple.
Suppose Alice and Bob are widows (or ...
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Could Solomon be a married father at the age of 11?
While the Bible specifies the age of accession for most of the kings of Israel and Judah, Solomon's age is not given. In his dream at Gibeon Solomon describes himself as a נער קטן which may be part ...
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To return to G-d from their sins via teshuva? Yoma 86b
In a previous post the question is asked how Hashem could remarry Yisrael if in Devarim (24:4) it is written that it is assur to remarry a divorcee after she strayed with another husband?
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