Questions tagged [kibbud-av-veim-honoring]

Honor thy Father and Mother

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A father Changing a minhag - any impact on a grown child?

I was reading some questions about changing minhagim and I began to wonder -- if I took on my father's minhagim when I grew, and then, later, he changed a minhag because he learned something new, or ...
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Distribution of כבוד אב between kids

Imagine a family of parents and 5 kids sitting at the Shabbos table and the father says - "I'm thirsty - bring me some water". All the kids are immediately obligated in כיבוד אב D'Oraysoh and the ...
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Parent dying overseas - visit now or attend funeral?

A person lives far away from a dying parent and cannot afford more than one visit. What do the halachic sources say about when they should visit? Should they visit the parent immediately and miss the ...
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As the מזמן, should I say “ברשות אבי מורי” before “סבי מורי” or the other way around?

When eating with my parents at my my grandparents' (father's parents) house, if I am asked to be מזמן, should I say “ברשות אבי מורי וסבי מורי„ or “ברושת סבי מורי ואבי מורי„?
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May one install a web cam to check in on an elderly parent?

With a friend, I discussed the idea of installing a web cam to check in on an elderly parent who lives in her apartment alone and is serviced by a Gentile aid. The children are concerned that the aid ...
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Why a married woman is exempt from honoring her parents?

Although the wife should listen to the husband and make her best to please him, it is not a Mitzvah at all, and there are no DeOraytah obligations on the wife toward her husband (Rambam Ishut 22-24). ...
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Honoring parents - before and after Shabbos

In the Decalogue (Parashas Yisroh): Keeping Shabbos is called Zachor (positive Mitzvah) It precedes Honoring parents Honoring is a positive Mitzvah (כבד). In Parashas Kdoshim it says the "opposite" ...
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Respecting or using your father

In shulchan aruch yora daiya 240.6 היה צריך על שום דבר בעיר ויודע שישלימו חפצו בשביל אביו אע"פ שיודע שגם כן יעשו בשבילו לא יאמר עשו לי דבר פלוני בשבילי אלא יאמר עשו בשביל אבא כדי לתלות הכבוד באביו: ...
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Buying kitniyot during Pesach

I have tried, with difficulty, to find good Halachic information about kitniyot on Pesach for those who eat kitniyot (there's plenty of information for those who don't), specifically about whether it ...
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What would be the Torah view on Kibud Av vEm when requested to constantly cater to them?

If a parent regularly asks to be accompanied to multiple places by car during the day and this would use a large portion of the day, is the child required to fulfill this all the time even if it ...
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Using someone's mother/father's disliked name for ritual purposes

Closely related to this question, what happens if someone's mother or father doesn't/didn't like her or his name, and the child now either needs a MiSheBerach or is called to the Torah? What name ...
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Lack of opportunity for a mitzvah being a good thing

Rabbi Yochanan said fortunate is he who has no parents (Kiddushin 31b) - because it is almost impossible for someone with parents to honor them appropriately. I have heard that Esther succeeded at ...
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Common denominator of the Mitzvot whose reward is “lengthened days?”

To my knowledge, there are 3 mitzvot in the Torah that explicitly state that the reward is lengthened days (long life): 1) Honoring one's parents (Exodus 20:12) כַּבֵּ֥ד אֶת־אָבִ֖יךָ וְאֶת־...
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Why does Rashi interpret Chizkiya’s dragging Achaz’s bones differently in different locations?

The Braisa says (Pesachim 56a, quoted as Mishnah 4:8): תנו רבנן ששה דברים עשה חזקיה המלך על שלשה הודו לו ועל שלשה לא הודו לו גירר עצמות אביו על מטה של חבלים והודו לו [...] The Rabbis taught: ...
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Eisov not wearing his best clothes for Yitzhak's blessing?

Eisov wore his best suit (the "royal robe" he took from Nimrod, who took it from Adam etc) whenever he served his father Itzhok (Bereishis Rabboh 65, 16). He kept it by his mother Rivkah's: "...
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Visiting a sick parent who doesn't want visitors

If one's parent is ill, one would probably want to visit. It is, it seems, some level of mitzvah (though it isn't explicitly on the Rambam's list of 613, it is included under some other general ...
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Honoring a wicked father who has repented - How is he still considered wicked?

The Shulhan 'Aruch (Y"D 240:18) writes that one is obligated to honor his father even if the father is wicked (actually, it says that a Mamzer is obligated, but I believe that the implication is that ...
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Similarity between Eisov and Dama ben Netina for honoring parents

Eisov = Red = Edom = Romi (Rome) Eisov excelled in honoring Yitzhok (B"R 65) Dama B"N was a senator (? or a general) in Rome's province in Ashkelon (according to Yerushalmi) דמא is the letters אדום He ...
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Mitzva of Tzedaka for Pikuach Nefesh

Let's say one has a relative/parent who needs a life saving operation but does not have the financial means to pay for it or even get a loan, is one required to sell his property to help them?
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Does anybody link being Kadosh to honoring parents?

I've asked a lot of questions about the seemingly inferior position of the Mitzvas of honoring parents in Judaism despite its importance, and this is another one: The Torah clearly annexes being ...
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Is one required to honor his deceased father's wishes if in conflict?

I had heard that when there is a conflict of requests between father and mother, a son should defer to his father first. Does this rule apply if the father is dead but the mother is still alive? I.e.,...
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Getting a parking ticket in order to help a parent

My mother asks me to help her carry in some stuff into her apartment. I can't find a legal parking spot. Does the mitzvah of kibud av vi'eim require that I double park and take a chance at getting a $...
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Is one obligated to do professional work for one's father or Rav?

If a father / a Rav asks his son/student to do a professional job for him, like fixing a PC, painting a room or replacing a faucet in the kitchen, and they pay all the expenses but not the wage, Is ...
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How האב\הרב שמחל על כבדו is done practically?

This is a follow up to "The meaning of “האב שמחל על כבדו כבדו מחול”?. We learned that (acc. to Rashb"a) the father's מחילה על כבודו totally invalidates the Mitzvah of Kibud Av so the son is not ...
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The meaning of “האב שמחל על כבדו כבדו מחול”?

This is a follow-up question to "does-mechilah-invalidate-kibud-av". The Gemmorah in Kiddushin 32 states: "א"ר יצחק בר שילא א"ר מתנה אמר רב חסדא האב שמחל על כבודו כבודו מחול" Translating מחילה ...
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No Son's obligation to bury his parents?

I've been studying the Sugya of honoring the parents for almost a month now, and only today I stumbled upon Shu"A רמ"א that exempts converts from obligations to engage in burying his gentile parents. ...
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Is Eved Ivri obligated in honoring one's parents?

A tough question that I could not find anyone mentioning. The Gemmorah in Kiddushin 30b says a married woman is exempt from honoring the parents as "whereas with regard to a woman, it is not in her ...
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Do you have to follow all of your parents' wishes after their death?

I am not sure what the extent is of honoring your parents after their death. Do you have to honor all their wishes (except for those that violate Torah law, which you would need to disobey even while ...
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Who should adopted children honor?

Are adopted children obligated to search for their biological parents so they can honor them? The Talmud implies that an adopted son is not obligated to honor his adopted parents: "Rabbi Aha ben ...
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Esau, Edom, Rome and the Jews

In parshat Devarim, Hashem tells the Israelites to leave the Edomites alone and bypass them: "You shall not provoke them, for I will not give you of their land...because I have given Mount Seir to ...
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Why does the Torah not include a specific command to love one's parents?

This related M.Y. answer explains that there is no specific mitzvah to love one's parents and the concept is incorporated in the mitzvah of loving one's fellow. There is a mitzvah to love the convert,...
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Kibbud Av V'Eim versus Prevention of a Mitzvah

The Mishnah (BM 32a) says that one may not listen to his father if the father tells the son to do something prohibited, such as becoming tamei by entering a cemetery. The Gemara derived this from the ...
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If giving tzedakah money to parents is a “disrespectful matter” (Talmud, Kiddushin 32a), is giving tzedakah to other relatives a bad idea as well?

My question is going to be a bit complicated so stay with me before you mark it as a duplicate. In my previous question Is giving money to parents considered a tzedaka?, I received answers that it's ...
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Are the children obligated to [care to] heal their parents?

We have found a Rabbinical regulation of obligating a husband to care (at least financially) for his wife's health. While we're obligated for honoring our parent [by caring for them, feeding and ...
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Reason for Yaakov not rushing to meet back his parents?

Follow-up to "yaakovs-lack-of-kibud-av-while-in-haran": Why Yaakov had no plans to see his parents when he returned from Haran, instead he buys a piece of land in Shechem, then moves on and only ...
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What constitutes “מאכיל ומשקה מלביש ומכסה מכניס ומוציא” in honoring parents?

Here's the source (Kiddushin 31b and Shu"A). Comparing to Shabbos, for example, the 39 Melachot are extensively detailed and each spans tens of pages. However, for those 6 "Melachot" of Kibud Av, ...
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Reason for Yaakov's [lack of] Kibud Av while in Haran

The Gemmorah (Megilla 17a) mentions that Yaakov was punished for not honoring his parents for 22 years in Haran (but not for the 14 years at Ever's Yeshivah). His punishment was that his son Yossef ...
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One who pays for learning Torah gets all the respect

When discussing precedence of honoring one's Rabbi vs one's father, Poskim (see "Psakim and Teshuvos" by Aharon Katz on יו"ד ר"מ for the list) note that if the father (or someone else) pays the Rabbi, ...
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Why father that teaches Torah is equal in honoring to divorced mother?

Here's another tricky question about Halakhot of honoring parents (Shu"A ר"מ-רמ"א). I rewrite it to change the line of thinking. THe Gemmorah (Kid 30b, also Mishna Kritus 6,9 "**האב קודם לאם בכל מקום"...
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Blessing “אשר חלק מכבודו” on father or Rabbi?

The Gemmorah in Kiddushin (30b) brings the idea of the analogy between honoring Hashem and honoring one's father (and mother). "ת"ר נאמר (שמות כ, יב) כבד את אביך ואת אמך ונאמר (משלי ג, ט) כבד את ה' ...