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Honor thy Father and Mother

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Consequence of filial mitzvot with parents and children both converting

A person who converts loses his halachic connections to his family (see the gemara at the bottom of Yevamot 48b as well as Yevamot 98a). What happens to "filial mitzvot" (e.g., filial ...
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Who comes first, father or teacher?

The Rambam writes [based on Pirkei Avot 4:12, Keritot 28a and other places]: Just as a person is commanded to honor and revere his father, so is he under an obligation to honor and revere his teacher,...
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Halachic obligation to honor narcissistic mother and or father

What are the halachic obligations are to honor a mother or father that are a narcissist? An adult child may be trying to separate from emotional abuse and codependent relationship but this can often ...
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Does Yom Kippur atone for the transgression of (not) honoring parents?

Following my previous question division-between-interpersonal-and-god-related-mitzvot (please read the background): Does Yom Kippur alone atone for the transgression of (not) honoring one's parents as ...
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Grace after meals - mentioning one parents/spouse if no longer alive

In the bensching (grace after meals/birkat hamazon) we have the following verse among the הרחמן's: הרחמן הוא יברך את אבי מורי בעל הבית הזה ואת אמי מורתי בעלת הבית הזה אותם ואת ביתם ואת זרעם ואת כל ...
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What is one allowed to do during time that one was kavua to learn torah?

Specifically, I was wondering if the mitzvah of kibbud av va'em is docheh setting aside time for learning torah. For example, if one has set aside time for learning torah and a parent asks their child ...
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How should one prioritize honoring parents in comparison with other laws? [duplicate]

In prioritizing the law, how does a person honor his parents if his parents are law-breakers? For example, if a man's father is a murderer, would the man choose to dishonor his father by handing him ...
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Why Long Life For Honoring Parents?

The Torah writes in Shemos (20:12) כַּבֵּ֥ד אֶת־אָבִ֖יךָ וְאֶת־אִמֶּ֑ךָ לְמַ֙עַן֙ יַאֲרִכ֣וּן יָמֶ֔יךָ עַ֚ל הָאֲדָמָ֔ה אֲשֶׁר־יְהוָ֥ה אֱלֹהֶ֖יךָ נֹתֵ֥ן לָֽךְ׃ (ס) Honor your father and your ...
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How much help can a kohen's wife get

At the very end of Orach Chaim 128:45, the Rema says: אסור להשתמש בכהן אפי' בזמן הזה דהוי כמועל בהקדש אם לא מחל על כך It is forbidden to be serviced by a Kohen even in our current time......
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Did Moses ever meet his parents after the separation?

IIRC the Biblical narrative, after being born, Moses spends 3 months at home and then moving to the royal palace. His mother continues to breastfeed him for a certain period of time but then the link ...
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If someone does a sin that both his parents and the Torah prohibited, did he do two sins?

For example: Someone tells his son not to steal, and it says in the Torah not to steal. This kid goes out and steals anyway, and his parents find out. Is he chayav for both stealing and not ...
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Gentiles and Kibbud Av V'im [duplicate]

I wondered if anyone knew the reason that kibbud av v'im is not one of the Noachide laws? Seems like a pretty universal ethic that should be applied to everyone. Why isn't it? Does anyone know any ...
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Elder care, Shalom Bayit and Honoring parents - which has priority?

I'm asking this question as a follow up to my other question - Honoring a parent vs. Shalom Bayit - which has priority? The main answer given in that question indicates that honoring one's parents ...
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How demanding should parents be of the honor due them?

The Shulchan Aruch says: It is forbidden to burden your children by being particular about them honoring you. [This is so that] you will not pose a stumbling block before them, rather you should ...
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Lack of opportunity for a mitzvah being a good thing

Rabbi Yochanan said fortunate is he who has no parents (Kiddushin 31b) - because it is almost impossible for someone with parents to honor them appropriately. I have heard that Esther succeeded at ...
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Respect for the Torah vs Respect for your Parents

I recall seeing that Kibbud Hatorah takes precedence over Kibbud Av. Does it? If one's father openly denigrates the Torah is it acceptable to chastise him & if the comment is made in front of ppl ...
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Common denominator of the Mitzvot whose reward is "lengthened days?"

To my knowledge, there are 3 mitzvot in the Torah that explicitly state that the reward is lengthened days (long life): 1) Honoring one's parents (Exodus 20:12) כַּבֵּ֥ד אֶת־אָבִ֖יךָ וְאֶת־אִמֶּ֑ךָ ...
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Honoring parents - before and after Shabbos

In the Decalogue (Parashas Yisroh): Keeping Shabbos is called Zachor (positive Mitzvah) It precedes Honoring parents Honoring is a positive Mitzvah (כבד). In Parashas Kdoshim it says the "opposite" ...
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Is one obligated to do professional work for one's father or Rav?

If a father / a Rav asks his son/student to do a professional job for him, like fixing a PC, painting a room or replacing a faucet in the kitchen, and they pay all the expenses but not the wage, Is ...
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Does anybody link being Kadosh to honoring parents?

I've asked a lot of questions about the seemingly inferior position of the Mitzvas of honoring parents in Judaism despite its importance, and this is another one: The Torah clearly annexes being ...
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Is listening to one's parents considered honoring them or fearing them?

Kiddushin 31b sets down the basic obligations of honoring and fearing of one's parents (brackets follow Rashi): איזהו מורא ואיזהו כיבוד מורא לא עומד במקומו ולא יושב במקומו ולא סותר את דבריו ולא ...
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If giving tzedakah money to parents is a "disrespectful matter" (Talmud, Kiddushin 32a), is giving tzedakah to other relatives a bad idea as well?

My question is going to be a bit complicated so stay with me before you mark it as a duplicate. In my previous question Is giving money to parents considered a tzedaka?, I received answers that it's ...
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Are there situations where a child is permitted to refer to their parent by their first name?

(This question addresses the prohibition of referring to your parents by their first name) Other than emergency situations (medical, hospital etc) are there instances where a child is permitted to ...
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How does Kibbud Av V'Eim work for a child of divorced parents?

How does Kibbud Av V'Eim work for a child of divorced parents? (not referring to a case where one tells him to break Shabbos and the other tells him not to) What about a regular case- like they ...
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Why does Rashi interpret Chizkiya’s dragging Achaz’s bones differently in different locations?

The Braisa says (Pesachim 56a, quoted as Mishnah 4:8): תנו רבנן ששה דברים עשה חזקיה המלך על שלשה הודו לו ועל שלשה לא הודו לו גירר עצמות אביו על מטה של חבלים והודו לו [...] The Rabbis taught: ...
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Must one honor a parent who is liable to capital punishment?

I was recently reading something about whether or not it would be right for this woman to show up to her father’s funeral who was a convicted murderer. She did not want to, and people were discussing ...
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Is someone allowed to enter into a church to please his father or save a life? [closed]

Let's suppose that someone is a Jew by conversion (Ben Noach) and his father is Christian. If he goes to church (assuming that in the church they practice idolatry by worshipping the trinity) just to ...
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Is a child forbidden from seeing old baby pictures/videos of their parents where the parents might be naked?

I forget the mekor (if anyone remembers that'd be great), but I remember learning that a child is not allowed to see their parent naked. Not a parent yet myself, but our generation has lots of family ...
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Is there a condition under which a child can be exempt from honoring his father?

This is a serious question seeking sources that discuss the topic. I speculate that a father that regrets his son being born, does not support him, does not teach him Torah or Mitzvos etc., is ...
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How האב\הרב שמחל על כבדו is done practically?

This is a follow up to "The meaning of “האב שמחל על כבדו כבדו מחול”?. We learned that (acc. to Rashb"a) the father's מחילה על כבודו totally invalidates the Mitzvah of Kibud Av so the son is not ...
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The meaning of "האב שמחל על כבדו כבדו מחול"?

This is a follow-up question to "does-mechilah-invalidate-kibud-av". The Gemmorah in Kiddushin 32 states: "א"ר יצחק בר שילא א"ר מתנה אמר רב חסדא האב שמחל על כבודו כבודו מחול" Translating מחילה ...
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Does Mechilah invalidate Kibud Av?

Following the question: "no-bracha-on-kibud-av-vaeim", some tried to say that the Sages did not set a Berocho for this Mitzvah as the father can be Mochel and there's no Mitzvah in such a case. ...
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Reason for Yaakov not rushing to meet back his parents?

Follow-up to "yaakovs-lack-of-kibud-av-while-in-haran": Why Yaakov had no plans to see his parents when he returned from Haran, instead he buys a piece of land in Shechem, then moves on and only ...
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What constitutes "מאכיל ומשקה מלביש ומכסה מכניס ומוציא" in honoring parents?

Here's the source (Kiddushin 31b and Shu"A). Comparing to Shabbos, for example, the 39 Melachot are extensively detailed and each spans tens of pages. However, for those 6 "Melachot" of Kibud Av, ...
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Reason for Yaakov's [lack of] Kibud Av while in Haran

The Gemmorah (Megilla 17a) mentions that Yaakov was punished for not honoring his parents for 22 years in Haran (but not for the 14 years at Ever's Yeshivah). His punishment was that his son Yossef ...
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Is a convert's biological son obligated in "kibud av' (honoring his father)?

This is the reverse of this question, in a sense. Suppose that a Gentile intermarries and he has a son who is Jewish. Later, the Gentile converts. Is the biological son ever halachically obligated to ...
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Is a child allowed to circumcise his father?

Assume that the father is a Gentile who married a Jewish woman. The child, who is Jewish, obviously, becomes a mohel. Years, later, the father decides to convert, so he needs a brit. Is the son ...
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Is one required to honor his deceased father's wishes if in conflict?

I had heard that when there is a conflict of requests between father and mother, a son should defer to his father first. Does this rule apply if the father is dead but the mother is still alive? I.e.,...
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Do I need to honor a grandparent?

Do I get reward (or am commanded, presumably) for honoring a grandparent? Is there some direct opinion like that out there in the Talmud ?
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Why a married woman is exempt from honoring her parents?

Although the wife should listen to the husband and make her best to please him, it is not a Mitzvah at all, and there are no DeOraytah obligations on the wife toward her husband (Rambam Ishut 22-24). ...
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Repaying care expenses for a parent from inheritance

This is a practical question, looking for existing Shu"Ts that cover this scenario: A child takes care of his old and dying father for a couple of years - he feeds him, pays for a nurse, housekeeper ...
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Distribution of כבוד אב between kids

Imagine a family of parents and 5 kids sitting at the Shabbos table and the father says - "I'm thirsty - bring me some water". All the kids are immediately obligated in כיבוד אב D'Oraysoh and the ...
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Blessing "אשר חלק מכבודו" on father or Rabbi?

The Gemmorah in Kiddushin (30b) brings the idea of the analogy between honoring Hashem and honoring one's father (and mother). "ת"ר נאמר (שמות כ, יב) כבד את אביך ואת אמך ונאמר (משלי ג, ט) ...
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Similarity between Eisov and Dama ben Netina for honoring parents

Eisov = Red = Edom = Romi (Rome) Eisov excelled in honoring Yitzhok (B"R 65) Dama B"N was a senator (? or a general) in Rome's province in Ashkelon (according to Yerushalmi) דמא is the letters אדום He ...
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Eisov not wearing his best clothes for Yitzhak's blessing?

Eisov wore his best suit (the "royal robe" he took from Nimrod, who took it from Adam etc) whenever he served his father Itzhok (Bereishis Rabboh 65, 16). He kept it by his mother Rivkah's: ...
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One who pays for learning Torah gets all the respect

When discussing precedence of honoring one's Rabbi vs one's father, Poskim (see "Psakim and Teshuvos" by Aharon Katz on יו"ד ר"מ for the list) note that if the father (or someone else) pays the Rabbi, ...
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Honoring female Rabbis - sources [duplicate]

Sorry I'm stuck with this topic... I am looking for sources on various Halakhot of honoring female Rabbis (knowledgeable women that tech Judaism). My basic assumption is that as many rule that כיבוד ...
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Why father that teaches Torah is equal in honoring to divorced mother?

Here's another tricky question about Halakhot of honoring parents (Shu"A ר"מ-רמ"א). I rewrite it to change the line of thinking. THe Gemmorah (Kid 30b, also Mishna Kritus 6,9 "**האב קודם לאם בכל מקום"...
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No Son's obligation to bury his parents?

I've been studying the Sugya of honoring the parents for almost a month now, and only today I stumbled upon Shu"A רמ"א that exempts converts from obligations to engage in burying his gentile parents. ...
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Do the Gentiles have "Three partners in man" and why they exempt from honoring parents?

The Gemmorah in Kiddushin 30b states (: "שלשה שותפין הן באדם הקב"ה ואביו ואמו" There are three partners in the forming of a person: The Holy One, Blessed be He, who provides the soul, ...
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