Questions tagged [how-to]
Questions about the practical advice regarding how to apply Judaism in real life. NOT for questions regarding p'sak halacha (practical halachic advice) -- consult your local Orthodox rabbi (CYLOR) for that.
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How to make oneself regret a sin?
As we know, regret is part of teshuvah. However, sometimes even though we understand logically that what we've done is wrong, we may not always sincerely regret it. In such case, two questions arise:
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Best way to explain to my boss that I cannot attend a team summit because it is on Rosh Hashana or any other Jewish Holiday
I have a team summit which unfortunately falls on Rosh Hashanah and I will not be able to attend.
It is not mission critical that I be there - it is more for team building but still the team spent a ...
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Accounting and accountability for (machatzis ha)shekel tax
Every civilian male is required to contribute money annually for the purchase of public sacrifices. The sacrifices must be publicly owned, as defined by having been bought with public funds. (cf. Ra'...
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How to feel about not liking Gemara?
Is there any literature discussing the idea that someone could simply not like learning Gemara or find it very difficult and painful to learn?
I'm looking for sources that discuss how to respond to ...
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how to get the Youth to come to shul
I had a long conversation someone in their early teens and we were discussing as to why children don’t want to come to Shul although there are youth services etc and we narrowed it down to one ...
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A better way to warm up food on shabbat morning
When warming up food on a hot tray on shabbat, most poskim do not allow one to put the food directly on the hot tray, but rather insist on a plate or inverted pot or pan be placed on the hot tray and ...
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Breaking in new retzu'ot* [duplicate]
I got new retzu'ot this Sunday from a fellow user of this forum, a sofer and my chevrutah. However, these new retzu'ot† are much harder than my old ones were when I got them. How would one go about ...
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What should one do if he're not sure he counts toward the minyan?
Ploni is a convert or descendant of a female convert from denomination A. He wishes to join a minyan of denomination B, which is stricter. He is not sure whether the congregation considers the ...
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How to cook with a metal disc on a treif glass top stove?
The Star-K gives this advice for kashering a glass top stove: https://www.star-k.org/articles/articles/kosher-appliances/2931/kashering-glass-corning-halogen-or-ceran-cooktops/
The sentence that I am ...
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Tefillin care- perspiration
Those of us who live in hot climates often sweat profusely during davenning. Talit are obviously an aggrevating factor. In my case, this is already discoloring the bottom of the shel rosh beit of my ...
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Cleaning a Torah Scroll
Our shul recently had a sofer in to look at our newer Torah scroll. He suggested to the Rabbi that we clean the scrolls regularly, which we have never done. So we did it a few days ago, about 20 of ...
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What are the Sephardic responses during weekday shacharit?
During the repetition of the Amidah, during Ata Kodesh, Sephardim say "emet". And during Yivarecha, they say "Yehi Ratzon". However, these may be shared by nusach Ashkenaz, so is there is a list of ...
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Shofar odor cleaning recommendations [duplicate]
How do you remove the odor from inside a shofar?
I have already tried hydrogen peroxide.
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Advice to Destroy Anxiety
At times, it is possible for one’s connection to Hashem to lower a bit, resulting in a lack of Emunah and anxiety. (Shall it not happen to anyone!) What are some ways to destroy anxiety? Can you list ...
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Recommended program/method for creating sourcesheets?
I have seen many sourcesheets provided by Rabbis for a class they are giving. My question is: Is there a particular program that is recommended to use for creating a sourcesheet? Also, is there any ...
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How do people with overwhelming financial difficulties convert? [closed]
I have a sincere desire to convert Orthodox with my family and don't have the financial means to do so. My main question is how do people in these circumstances handle all the extra duties that are ...
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Meaningful ways to spend Tisha b'Av?
I am struggling a bit on Tisha b'Av to find meaningful ways to spend the day. I am looking for advice on meaningful activities that fulfill the intent of the day (mourning for Jerusalem and the ...
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Seeking tips for removing wax from candle sticks, yahrzeit glasses
Removing wax from candlesticks and yahrzeit glasses is difficult for me. For example, if I put a yahrzeit glass into hot water, the wax floats to the top and then I have to try to separate the wax ...
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Good dimensions for a Shulchan (Reading Table)
I would like to build a Shulchan (Reading Table) for my local Chabad House.
I'm wondering how tall it should be at the end where one stands, and at what angle the top should be?
Suggestions ...
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Foods for the family before Pesach, when pesadika? [closed]
As challenging as it may be to feed a family with kids of all ages during Pesach, it is harder in the days before Pesach when the kitchen is hametz-free and matza sandwiches, matza pizza, matza ...
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Keeping tzitzit knots from coming undone
The last knot on the tzitzit on my talit keep coming loose. I pull the string to tighten the knot, and three days later it starts to unravel again. Any ideas on how I can make the knots stay tight and ...
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My Adult Conversion
I’m seriously interested in converting from Baptist to Judaism. I am aware of the local synagogues in my area, but I’m unsure on which to approach and any protocols.
For example; should I go during ...
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What is a permissible and effective way to keep one's belongings while praying amidah at the kotel?
What is a permissible and practical way to keep an eye on one's belongings while davening amidah at the kotel, without using lockers etc? I am wondering about both men that have pockets and Women who ...
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How to study Chol or Kodesh?
I remember that Harav Kook (הראי״ה) had in Orot Hakodesh a 10 steps for how to study something new, though I couldn't find it.
What are the acceptable/recommended ways to study either Torah or ...
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What is the best way to correct someone who has unwittingly violated halacha in public?
At a recent shul kiddush on shabbat I witnessed someone perform a melacha seemingly on purpose two or three times. It was clear to me that this person was unaware of a certain halacha. I did not know ...
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How much can you wipe your muddy shoes on a doormat on Shabbos?
I intend to ask this question in light of all Shabbos prohibitions, including carrying (insofar as deliberately removing something may bear, retroactively I guess, on its חשיבות), as well as dosh, ...
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Learning Chabad Sichos
My 13-year-old son wants to start learning Chabad Sichos. I'm looking for advice.
How do we decide which sichos to learn?
Do Lubavitchers generally learn the sicha of the current parsha, but ...
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Where is there a discussion about it being okay to put non-kosher animal products into one's human body?
Where can one find the earliest rabbinic discussion about it being okay to put non-kosher animal products into one's human body, as long as it is not in a digestive manner?
I would like my question ...
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Will non-Jews be welcome in a Jewish neighborhood? [closed]
We are considering buying a house in a suburban Philadelphia neighborhood that has a large Jewish population (we are not Jewish)and are wondering if we would be welcome there. Are there special ...
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Where do you put a lit match on Yom Tov?
Since you can't extinguish it, what do you do with it so that it won't burn or damage anything?
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How to explain the Talmud to someone who hasn't ever opened one?
To those who are in Yeshiva, learning Gemara for three sedarim a day is often a regular sight. To those who are actually learning it, it's often an extremely rewarding experience, and one in which ...
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How do I build a cheap metal pole sukkah?
Trying to build a metal pole sukkah... I was wondering if anyone had experience building one from scratch using stuff from a local Lowes or Home Depot. I was going to use PVC piping but that sways and ...
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How to tell if a tree branch overhangs a Sukkah site
I'm trying to think of a practical and inexpensive way to tell at what point tree branches overhang our patio to know which parts can be used for a sukkah. The best ideas I've come up with that seem ...
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Check out of hotel after shabbos
I am going to be traveling for a wedding soon and I will probably have to stay in a hotel in the local Jewish community over shabbat (they don't have capacity to host). I have a place to stay the ...
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Rosh Yeshiva - how? [closed]
Can anyone provide sources that delineate the path on how to become a Rosh yeshiva?
Please limit questions to sources (not opinions) based on Torah mekoros, biographies (of Roshei Yeshivas) or other ...
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How to sit on the floor comfortably
On tisha bav it is forbidden to sit on a chair (until the afternoon). During shiva mourning sitting on a chair is similarly prohibited. What is a comfortable way to sit on the floor for a long time (...
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Is there a special hadran on Yerushalmi?
Inspired by DoubleAA. Is there a special text one should say on finishing a Masechta in Yerushalmi?
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The Interface at HebrewBooks.org [closed]
When I load a page at Hebrew Books, the text appears on screen, for less than one second, in a computer font which is then replaced by an image of the printed page in which the characters coincide ...
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How to get an urgent answer if your local rabbi isn't reachable
I think many frum people have been in the situation of needing time-sensitive help with a halachic question, but not having access to their/any rabbi. What resources such as hotlines are available to ...
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Tips for sitting holding a Sefer Torah without hurting your shoulder?
I'm occasionally asked in shul to take out the second Sefer Torah, which also involves holding it until it's needed. I usually sit holding it with one eitz chayim resting on the chair between my legs,...
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Tucking in a shirt with tzitzis [duplicate]
I wear white dress shirts everyday, tucked into my pants. I've always tucked in the shirt and then pulled the tzitzis out so that they hang out from my beltline. However, this seems to make the shirt ...
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How does one perform an exorcism in Judaism
What are the steps one must perform in order to conduct a Jewish exorcism ritual?
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What's the best way to find a spouse? [closed]
My question
If you base your life on Jewish law and tradition, what's the best way to find a husband or wife?
You can recommend a process (e.g. "visit a matchmaker" or "ask a friend to recommend ...
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How to approach saying divrei torah at the shabbos table
I face a few difficulties with saying divrei torah at a Shabbos table and advice on how best to approach would be much appreciated.
People often seem uninterested, especially after they have just ...
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How can someone prove they converted without the original conversion document?
A parent and child converted many years ago but did not receive any documentation at the time. Since then the Rabbi they were in touch with had died. How could they obtain the appropriate ...
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Loosening Tefillin Retzuot
BH, I recently purchased a new pair of tefillin.
Does anyone have any tips for loosening new, stiff tefillin retzuot? Right now my retzuot practically cut into my skin. Over time, they will ...
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Washing Tallit Katan
One thing I never read about tallit katan is how to wash them? Does wool need to be dry cleaned? Cotton can be handwashed. I guess I could handwash wool as well, but doesn't seem as good an idea. Any ...
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Changing tefilin from left-handed to right-handed
My son's Bar Mitzvah is coming soon, and he's studying with a rabbi. When learning how to put tefilin, rabbi said that my tefilin is not good for him, because it's apparently for a left-handed person ...
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How to go about learning a Sugya הלכה למעשה
If I want to learn a Sugya in Gemarah all the way from the Daf to modern day Poskim, what has worked for you in order to accomplish this goal? Which Rishonim did you learn? Did you look at the Tur or ...
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How does one develop a Lev Tov
In Pirkei Avot 2:9 it's Rabbi Elazar Ben Arach who states that a Lev Tov (good heart) is the greatest good - the best "acquisition" - or best trait for a person to acquire, or which should be the goal ...
