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When can you shame someone on account of his handicap?

The Talmud tells this story: Rabbi Elazar... met an extremely ugly person and said to him: “Worthless person, how ugly you are! Are all the people of your city as ugly as you?” The man said to him: “...
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Shaliach Tzibur (Chazzan) who mumbles the words

What is the correct thing to do if you are in a minyan and the Shaliach Tzibur mumbles all the words together? I am talking about in the middle of davening and not afterwards which I think every Rav ...
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Lying to prevent offense

Is one permitted to lie to a woman by saying that he's a kohen and therefore unable to marry her, thus preventing him from offending/embarrassing her about the reason he refused her? Are there ...
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Should you always avoid embarrassing people?

Following up on a recent question here, if someone asks you a question in a large group setting and mispronounces a word, how should you pronounce that word in your answer? If you pronounce it right, ...
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What’s the source of not asking a question to a person that might not know the answer, so that they won't get embarrassed

BH Someone told me that you shouldn’t ask a question to someone who won't know the answer to what you're asking. What’s the source of this?
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Embarrassing people who sin as a deterrent

There is a social media personality called Mark Rober, and his thing is to find ways of publicly holding people accountable for misdemeanours, that generally are too petty for law to get involved. For ...
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The limits of shaming someone in public

We are told in strong terms: He who humiliates another in public, it is as though he were spilling blood. [Bava Metzia 58b] Now, if, while asking a question, someone mispronounces a word, do you, in ...
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Why did not Balaam's ass live to embarrass that evil man?

In Bamidbar 22 (33) Rashi explains that Hashem killed Balaam's ass in order that people should not be able to say: This is the animal that silenced Balaam by its rebuke, so that he could not reply. ...
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Why do kohanim always chant in a terrible monotone? [duplicate]

I am not sure if it is just me, but it seems that there is never a melodious chanting of birchas kohanim, but rather is always a mixture of many toneless voices, as if they are tone-deaf. Is this for ...
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Is heckling considered shaming the performer?

Is booing, expressing disapproval or dislike of the performance, and similar gestures, considered shaming someone in public, or does it “come with the territory”?
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Understanding the split payments for embarrassment in Kesubos 6:1

Kesubos 6:1 says: מְצִיאַת הָאִשָּׁה וּמַעֲשֵׂה יָדֶיהָ, לְבַעְלָהּ. וִירֻשָּׁתָהּ, הוּא אוֹכֵל פֵּרוֹת בְּחַיֶּיהָ. בָּשְׁתָּהּ וּפְגָמָהּ, שֶׁלָּהּ. רַבִּי יְהוּדָה בֶן בְּתֵירָא אוֹמֵר, בִּזְמַן ...
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Benefit of the doubt that a person is a Jew? [duplicate]

If a person in conversation makes a brief reference to the fact that they converted through Rabbi ___ (and there is a person with that name who is a reform "rabbi" in that region), is it permitted to ...
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If someone is about to commit a sin on purpose, should you stop him even if it'll cause embarrassment?

Imagine that someone is about to commit a sin on purpose (Torah or rabbinic); but you don't know that it was done on purpose, so I guess you give him the benefit of the doubt. Is it better to stop ...
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Blessing or no blessing before counting the Omer?

When you count the Omer during Maariv, you can say the blessing that precedes the count only if you have not missed a day of counting. If you missed a day, you can say Amen to the blessing said by ...
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Is a kohen who embarrasses someone publicly prohibited to duchen?

Since embarrassing one in public is considerred like murder and one should give up their life rather than transgress (Bava Metzia 59B, see Tosfas Sotah 10B on top), does this mean a kohen cannot ...
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Is one allowed to embarass idolaters and atheists in public?

From the story of Yehudah and Tamar, we know that it's better to die than embarass a fellow Jew in public. However, I've heard multiple times that Torah permits embarassing and insulting idolaters (...
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Embarrassing a Gentile

Is one allowed to embarass a Gentile? I have heard about the severity of embarrassing a jew. Leaving aside the chances of Khillul Hashem, Is there any sin regarding the embarrassment of Gentiles?
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Naming a Child an Embarassing Name

Would Halacha deem it appropriate to name a child with a weird name that would be embarrassing later on, and is not a classic Jewish name (would this fall under the category of calling one by a ...
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How does the Kohen determine if the Sotah's bosom is beautiful?

The Mishna in Sotah 1:5 states וְכֹהֵן אוֹחֵז בִּבְגָדֶיהָ, אִם נִקְרְעוּ נִקְרָעוּ, אִם נִפְרְמוּ נִפְרָמוּ, עַד שֶׁהוּא מְגַלֶּה אֶת לִבָּהּ, וְסוֹתֵר אֶת שְׂעָרָהּ. רַבִּי יְהוּדָה אוֹמֵר, אִם ...
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Embarrasing others (eternal gehinnom at face value?)

"The gemara says all who descend into Gehenna (hell) eventually leave. Except for one who publicly shames his neighbour" halachipedia Then it says the methods for atoning for such embarrasment. If ...
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Explaining Rash"i regarding Tamar's actions on Breishit 38:25 [duplicate]

I've been looking at Rash"i's explanations of Tamar's refusal to embarrass Yehuda after she was found to be pregnant and was sentence to burning. Rash"i says that from her actions, we learn that one ...
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Why was Adam Embarrassed

Genesis (3:7) states that Adam and Eve realised that they were naked so they made loincloths from fig leaves: וידְע֔וּ כִּ֥י עֵֽירֻמִּ֖ם הֵ֑ם וַֽיִּתְפְּרוּ֙ עֲלֵ֣ה תְאֵנָ֔ה וַיַּעֲשׂ֥וּ לָהֶ֖ם ...
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May coercion be used to facilitate halitzah?

From my understanding there are opinions that some form of coercion, such as public embarrassment, may be used to facilitate a recalcitrant husband giving his estranged agunah (bound) wife a get/...
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Count someone in a minyan or embarrass them?

Theoretical question. Yankel is a born Jew, and he marries a giyores, Shprintze. The two of them live a happy life together, and Shprintze eventually gives birth to a son, Berel. Decades go by. ...
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Lying to avoid embarrassment

Say a person overslept and missed Shacharis, and someone asked him what happened. Is he allowed to lie and say that he Davened somewhere else. Say someone's caught doing something embarrassing in ...
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Should you ask someone for forgiveness before Yom Kippur if doing so might embarrass them?

It is a mitzvah to beg for forgiveness on the eve of Yom Kippur from those you have wronged in the previous year. As I understand it, this is necessary at once as a practical tikkun; as a necessary ...
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Is it forbidden to embarrass a non-Jew?

The prohibition to embarrass another and its sources are discussed here and at more length here, with the stipulation that the mitzvah--and related issues of onaat devarim--apply to men and women in ...
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Ben Sorer U'Moreh and Embarrasment

Tosfos in the Gemarah Sota 10b writes that being מלבין את פני חבירו is a sin that one should rather give his life up for. Therefore, in the case of the Ben Sorer U'Moreh, why do we make such a big ...
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When one is home alone, does the Torah discourage the eating of bizarre food mixtures?

Note: If you're going to be eating a meal soon, you might not want to read this question, and you (especially) might not want to click through to the "Secretive food concocting" Wikipedia article. Why?...
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Does a teacher have to ask forgiveness for embarrassing a student after scolding him?

If a teacher/rebbi scolded a student for making fun of another student, and this rebuke was given in front of others, which embarrassed the student, does the rebbi have to ask that student for ...
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Can you embarrass someone privately if you think that the person MAY be embarrassed publicly?

Can you embarrass someone privately if you feel that not saying something may cause that person public embarrassment, i.e., s/he may be embarrassed by multiple people? The key word here is MAY, but ...
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embarassing an anonymous person online

There is a prohibition to embarass other people (Sanhedrin 99a). Does this apply also to anonymous online people despite that nobody knows their identity and therefore they should not feel embarassed ...
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