Questions tagged [children-parenting]

Questions relating to children vis à vis their parents in Jewish law or Jewish thought. Also questions relating to parenting approaches and advice in Jewish thought.

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Parents of old age and children of 'disability' [closed]

While working I saw an old lady being aided by her daughter and grandson. I stood out of respect. Then it hit me. My last job before lunch was a mother of a son who was a quaddraplegic. I know the ...
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Halachic sources for not using the first names of your parents?

I understand that it's a common understanding that as part of the mitzvah of respecting one's parents one shouldn't use their first names. See e.g. Can an adopted child call birth parents by first ...
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Honoring a parent vs. Shalom Bayit - which has priority?

Let's say one has an emotionally abusive parent. When the parent visits someone, she is emotionally abusive to her son and daughter in law. The abuse is so harsh that it affects Shalom Bayit in the ...
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what is the source that a parent carries the sins of their children when the children are minors?

As a child I learned that a minor is not culpable for his or her sins and that any negative effect from those sins is borne by the parent (I don't recall if it was specifically the father). I would ...
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What is the number one or the most recommended Talmud/Gemara passage for a child to begin studying?

What is the number one or the most recommended Talmud/Gemara passage for a child to begin studying? I understand that the number one or the most recommended Torah passage for a child to begin ...
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The father has the obligation of chinuch until what age

Until what age is the obligation on the father to train his children to do Mitzvot? I see contradictory sources please clarify, or bring more accepted sources No limit. http://halachipedia.com/...
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Origin of using priestly blessing on Friday night

I know why we use Ephraim and Menashe when blessing the children on Friday nights, (see: Why Does Hashem Bless Us Like Efraim And Menashe?) but why do we use Birkat Kohanim? Is there any specific ...
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Why isn't Peru URvu one of the 7 Noahide Laws?

The commandment to "Be fruitful and multiply" was given to Adam HaRishon. Why, then, is this not included in the Sheva' Mitzvoth Bnei Noaḥ?
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Is the father responsible to clothe and room his older children

Until the age of 6 the father is obligated to feed, clothe and room his children. And it is enforceable. Then until 13/12 he should still do it. But after 13/12 he is only obligated to do it as ...
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Marriage of a Cohen to a woman with a non-Jewish father: Are the sons Cohanim?

Asking because it is not answered here: If, as suggested in the linked question, a Cohen may b'dieved (but not l'chatchila) marry a woman whose father is a non-Jew, will the sons from such a marriage ...
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Sources for supporting a married couple

The way I understand, it has become common in recent times for the parents of the girl, to offer a monthly stipend for a period of time after marriage. Is there a source for doing this?
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Must a Reform convert raise prior children Jewish?

I am contemplating joining a Reform synagogue up the street from where I live. I have been once before and would like to start attending though I'm not sure yet about conversion. I am agnostic but ...
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Neder of 11 year old girl

An 11 year old girl made a neder that if she finds a certain object that she had lost then she'll give to tzedeka 20 agarot (which is today around 5 cents) every week (for the rest of her life.) Does ...
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Promised to name son Shimon - now husband is Shimon?

A woman who desperately wanted to get married traveled to Meron, the burial place of Rebbi Shimon bar Yochai, and vowed that if she found her match, she would name her first son Shimon in his merit. ...
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Is someone required to ask forgiveness if he causes tangential discomfort to another?

My son relayed this to me a few days ago. When he was in yeshiva high school, the principal would enter each classes a few days before Yom Kippur and tell all the students that he was sorry if he may ...
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Explaining to children why we don't celebrate Halloween

Without delving into the Pagan origins of Halloween (or even discussing it altogether - as it may not be allowed l'halocho), how would you encourage Jewish children who've celebrated Halloween in the ...
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Should a child wash his hands before eating on Yom Kippur?

I know that you're not allowed to eat or wash on Yom Kippur. But suppose a child (not obligated to fast) is going to eat bread - should he wash his hands before eating it?
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Did Ishmael receive “שְׁנַיִם, בְּכֹל אֲשֶׁר-יִמָּצֵא, לוֹ” like a firstborn does?

Did Ishmael ben Avraham receive a double-portion in accordance to the rights of the firstborn? Or did he forfeit them because he was estranged from the family? I know that the law of the double ...
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Why doesn't Deuteronomy 13:6-10 list that the is father liable to get the death penalty for committing the act of apostasy?

Why doesn't Deuteronomy 13:6-10 list that the is father liable to get the death penalty for committing the act of apostasy? "If thy brother, the son of thy mother, or thy son, or thy daughter, or the ...
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Giving maaser money to parents

If one is working part time and his / her parents whose financial state is really not great (their balance is negative), is s/he allowed to give his / her maaser money to them even though they support ...
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Hitting vs rape/seduction of a young girl who gets the money for the damages

It seems that: When a girl is damaged by someone hitting her, at least part of the damages go to her Halacha 14 here and HM 242.6 But if she was raped/seduced ALL the damages go to the father Halacha ...
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Eating in a non-kosher household [duplicate]

I am a converted Jew (mother is not Jewish, father is) who has recently began keeping Kosher. My mother is an excellent cook, and I greatly enjoyed eating what she made growing up. I still would like ...
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Was Baal worshiped via child sacrifice?

I heard Glenn Beck, on the radio today, saying that the "Old Testament" false god Baal was worshiped via child sacrifice (among other things). Is there any evidence of that from Tanach itself (i.e. ...
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Parent/child relationship : how does adoption compare to geirus?

Take a father and daughter who both underwent geirus. Now take a Jewish man who adopted a baby girl of unknown (Jewish) parents. In both situations, the father raises the child since birth. Are the ...
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Parents mix in to marriage until 24 years old

I was once told that parents have a bigger say regarding who you (maybe only male) marry before you are 24 years old Is this true? if yes sources please (The only thing I saw that changes after the ...
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Teaching Jewish morals/ethics to children: books and other aids

Looking for books with ethical and moral dilemnas (scenarios) that can serve as starting points for discussions with kids 7 year old and older to explore Jewish moral and ethical values and laws. Not ...
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Can a man miss tefilah with a minyan because his wife is overwhelmed with the children?

Assume a scenario where a man's wife requires extra help at home during a busy part of the day and requests that her husband skip minyan (and daven alone) in order to help her. (For example, let's say ...
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How can God be just in light of Deuteronomy 23:3?

Deuteronomy 23:3: A bastard shall not enter into the assembly of the LORD; even to the tenth generation shall none of his enter into the assembly of the LORD. I asked a similar question here - ...
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Walking around indoors without shoes

Does anyone know of a source for the practice of not walking around indoors without shoes? (I am seeking an actual source, not speculation)
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Is an asexual person obligated in Pru Urvu?

Asexuality is a sexual orientation characterized by the lack of sexual attraction towards people in general. Asexuals may or may not be interested in romantic relationships, but are not physically ...
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Negel vasser after touching shoes

A person must perform a ritual hand-washing after the completion of certain activities, including upon arising in the morning; before eating bread; after shaving, haircutting, clipping one’s nails,...
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Discovered my Jewish heritage at 61 yrs old; now what? [closed]

For my entire life I believed I was of 100% Italian heritage; typical Neopolitan roots from grandparents who came in the 'big wave' of Italian immigrants in 1900-1910. I've traveled to Italy and am a ...
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The Mitzva of Peru U'Revu (Reproduction) - when does it start?

The first commandment in the Torah is Peru U'Revu, the commandment to "be fruitful and multiply" (Bereshit 1:28). When does the obligation to fulfill this commandment begin? Does the Mitzva of Peru U'...
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Most children in sefer B'reishit are named by women or God; why does Yehudah name Er?

I noticed in B'reishit 38 that Yehudah names his first son Er, but his wife bat Shua names the other two. Yaakov's wives name all of their children (except that Yaakov changes Ben-oni to Binyanim). ...
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Why was Pharaoh displeased?

In Parshas Mikeitz (Beraishis 41), Pharaoh receives an interpretation for this two dreams from necromancers. Rashi (41:8) says that they told Pharaoh that “You will beget seven daughters, and you will ...
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New Name for parent [duplicate]

My father is very ill and they have given him an additional name. Does this new name that he was given a few weeks ago alter the way that I get called up for an Aliyah going forward, both while he is ...
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Matrilineal Descent

I have heard that matrilineal descent (i.e. having Judaism passed down through the mother) comes from the Roman period when women were raped by Roman soldiers and the babies were then said to be ...
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Shemona Esrei - why do we not Daven anywhere for our children?

In Shemona Esrei we Daven for Da'as - understanding, Teshuva, Geula - redemption, Refua - health, Parnassa - livelihood, etc. Yet nowhere to my knowledge do we Daven for our children. Is there perhaps ...
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Who should walk the Chosson and Kallah to the Chupa?

At the Chuppah in some weddings I've been to, the father and father-in-law escort the Chosson and the mother and mother-in-law escort the Kallah. In others, the mother and fathers each escort their ...
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Does taking money from government programs change the Halachic status of the family structure?

Does taking government subsidies such as Section 8 and Food Stamps in a situation where the government subsidy is specifically providing money for food per child (Food Stamps) or money for an extra ...
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Why two genders?

Why did G-d make it that all animals need both genders to procreate? Couldn't He just make one kind of animal per species and give it the ability to produce children on its own?
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At what age should we start teaching the distinction between Midrash and Text?

At a very early age children learn the history of the world and the Jews through the enthralling stories found in many varied sources. They learn that the world was created in six days; that ...
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can a parent confiscate his dependent child's property?

If a child is over bar mitzva and dependent on the parent, may the latter confiscate his child's possessions as a form of punishment or would this be considered damage/theft I am not asking on ...
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If your parent changes their name, does your name change too?

Imagine your parent changes his or her (Hebrew) name--either by converting to Judaism and getting a name, by taking on a second name, or simply changing his/her name for whatever reason. (Not sure ...
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Are there any sources for parents respecting children

BSD Are there any sources in any Torah literature of the importance of a parent respecting their child. I am referring to a parent understanding their child. For example a parent not caring about his ...
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Teenagers and Modesty [closed]

I am the mother of three girls, the two oldest are 12 and 14. The youngest is 6 months of age. They're into wearing what the other girls wear. My 12 year old girl gives me heart attacks. She's very ...
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Mom And Baby Talk

What do other Jewish moms do with their babies? I have a six month old baby. I want her to learn Torah from the first words she speaks. I don't live around other Jewish people, we've only been ...
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The custom of adding a candle for each child

Many people, including myself, added or will add a candle on Friday night for each child that is born. Where and when did this custom originate?
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Non-Jewish father: son of whom for an aliyah? [duplicate]

Let's say there is a person born of Jewish mother, but not a Jewish father. To further complicate things, the mother was raised secular and at a later point converts to Christianity. Does her change ...
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Who picks a yeshiva for a son or daughter, the mother or the father

Which of the parents has a halachic obligation to pick the religious institution a son or daughter goes to - the father or mother of the child?