Questions tagged [children-parenting]

Questions relating to children vis à vis their parents in Jewish law or Jewish thought. Also questions relating to parenting approaches and advice in Jewish thought.

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Tehillim for success in child-rearing

I have often been given the parenting advice, in addition to everything else done to care for and teach a child, to pray for the successful raising of the child to be righteous. As Tehillim is often ...
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Do women need to cover their hair if they have had children without being married?

Do women need to cover their hair if they have had children without being married? Some explanations for hair covering relate it to modesty in light of the supposed attractive power of hair, which ...
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Can a mother taste her own breastmilk?

Can a mother drink/taste her own breastmilk? I know theres an issur for a non-baby to drink directly from the breast; but, what about from a cup? Further, if it is indeed assur (even from a cup), ...
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Are you yoitze the Mitzva of Pirya Verivya with children born out of wedlock

I know there is a machlokes Rishonim (rambam / Rosh) if Kedushin is a Mitzva or Hecsher Mitzva for Pirya Verivya. Say one has children out of wedlock, is that Mitzva fulfilled or do we say its a ...
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What do children own?

Is there truth to the saying I heard in orthodox houses, namely that if the parents support the children (even after 13/12) everything belongs to them? What is the source of this (truth or falsehood)?...
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Can a grandparent name a child differently than the parents?

We all know that Moshe Rabeinu had 7 names and was called Moshe which was the name Basya gave him. Recently I was in a Shul and there was a fellow there that had a grandaughter the previous week. The ...
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Is there anything in the Tanakh or Talmud about a woman that raises her children alone?

I just lost my grandmother. She raised her 5 children alone. I am looking for things in the Tanakh or Talmud to cheer my dad up. Is there anything in the Tanakh or Talmud about a woman that raises her ...
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Is there no such sin as a wayward daughter? If so, why not?

The mitzvot and sins are not equal in their distribution. Some are only applicable to men, some to women, some to Kohanim, to Kings, etc. In the case of a wayward (or rebellious) son who is described ...
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Name two kids the same name?

Is one allowed to name two of his children (of the same sex) by the same name, so that the entire Jewish name of one child is the same as that of the other? I have never heard of any prohibition. On ...
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What does it mean for atheists to raise their children 'Jewish'?

I was reading the book Battle Hymn of the Tiger Mom by Amy Chua. In this book she mention that her Jewish husband is not religious in the slightest but still when they got married insisted that the ...
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Child from the relations Yael had with Sisra

According to Shoftim 5:27, per the explanation found in Yevamos 103a (in the name of רבי יוחנן), Yael had relations with Sisra. אמר רבי יוחנן שבע בעילות בעל אותו רשע באותו היום שנאמר בין רגליה כרע ...
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How do I explain my heritage to my son? (as someone who has left Judaism at a young age)

My mother was raised as Jewish, and I was given a Bris as a child and was exposed to some culture in the form of songs and food and celebrating Jewish holidays (mainly at home or with my more ...
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Religiously sensitive guidance on when to tell your child about human reproduction

A boy in cheder who has no internet at home, no tv, etc, is not exposed to human reproduction in the way that others are. It's therefore up to the parents to explain to him how children are born. ...
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Are there any sources that prohibit childhood vaccinations?

The consequences of depressed childhood vaccination rates in some American communities, in the form of a building measles outbreak, have been in the news lately. All public schools and most private ...
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Does baby toothpaste need a hashgacha?

According to Rav Yisrael Belsky (and based on the reasoning of Rav Yaakov Kaminetsky) toothpaste which contains non-kosher ingredients (such as animal-derived glycerin) is only kosher when the ...
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Books or Shiurim on practical divorce law/practice

What books (seforim) or lectures (Shiurim) (audio/video recordings) have practical "get" information? — not only how it is written and given but also how the estate (money (ketuba) and children) ...
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Can a Zerah Yisrael that converts use his father's Hebrew name for aliyot?

If boy was born to a Jewish father and a non-Jewish mother and later converted in his life, would he obliged to call himself "ben Avraham" when called up for an aliyah, or would he be allowed to take ...
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Children saying Divrei torah at the Pesach seider [duplicate]

Are there any Gedolim who oppose the concept of children saying Divrei torah to their parents at the Pesach Seider?
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Can one adopt a non-Jewish child and not convert him/her?

Take this hypothetical situation: A Jewish couple which has fulfilled the requirements of peru urevu wants to adopt an additional child but (perhaps due to the immense cost of Jewish day school) does ...
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Should one make a bracha on food if only a child is eating?

I think it is common to make a bracha (blessing) when giving a small child food so that they learn the common brachot and learn to say "amen". Is this appropriate to do if you are not eating the food ...
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Parents teaching children or children teaching parents?

Regarding והגדת לבנך, and you shall tell to your children (Shemos 13:8), on Pesach night: 1) What is the mitzvah of והגדת לבנך and how does one fulfill it according to halacha? 2a) Why do yeshivos ...
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Mother was adopted into Jewish family and raised Jewish, and she raised me as a Jew… Will my children be Jewish? [duplicate]

My mother was adopted, raised as a reform Jew and became Bat Mitzvah, continued with her Jewish studies through Confirmation...but I do recall her finding out one day that her parents never officially ...
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What is the parent's role in Jewish tradition on the matter of raising a child? [closed]

The Jews are known to have a culture that places great emphasis on learning and scholarship, and the children are taught to value learning and read books since young. In this regard the Jews are quite ...
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What is the prayer uttered by Michael Ginberg's dad in Mad Men?

In the second last scene of episode 5x03 of Mad Men, Michael Ginsberg (one of the Jewish characters on the show) comes back home from the grocer's to be greeted by his dad. The latter encourages ...
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Daddy, is this story true?

My daughter was reading a parsha book and came across a certain medrash which seemed unbelievable prompting her to ask me 'daddy, is this story real?' Being that she is only nine I took the cheap way ...
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Is a convert obliged to honor his parents?

Is a convert obliged to honor his parents? I understand that a convert loses all halakhic relationship to his parents upon being "reborn." Therefore, does the mitzvah of kibud av va'eim still apply?
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How to teach the Purim story to children?

As a parent raising a small child, I find it difficult explaining the story of Megillat Esther. Are there any methods (rabbinic precedence or otherwise) of explaining to a young child the violent ...
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Recomendation for Good Books To Read to a 2-Year-Old Child

Any recommendations on books I can read with my 2 year old to help introduce her to Torah or other Judaism concepts? She can't read, but she copies everything I say and shows me things so I think ...
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what is the mother's obligation to raise children (if she is not obligated to educate (chinuch) them)

igres moshe 4.49 כי סתם נשים בעולם אינם עשירות ועליהן מוטל גידול הילדים והילדות translation from link the average woman is not wealthy and has responsibility to raise sons and daughters. but ...
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Is “peru eruvu” a mitzva that means to specifically include a male and female child?

There is a commandment of "Peru urevu," which can be fulfilled (or the person made exempt) by having "two children." Does that mean that one must have a male and female child, or is it any 2+ number ...
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Requirement to Divorce an Infertile Wife or Marry a Second Wife

In the Mishneh Torah הלכות אישות פרק טו, ב Rambam requires a man to who hasn't had a male and female child and whose wife has not given birth for ten years since their marriage to either take a second ...
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What side is a newborn supposed to nurse from first?

I have heard that there is a gemara that discusses what side a newborn is supposed to breastfeed from first. If this is true, where is this gemara and what's the idea behind it?
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How do you explain tzniut to a little girl?

Some Jewish schools have attire guidelines starting in first grade. What is the best way to explain the concept of tzniut to a very young (say first grade) girl without explaining sexuality? Please ...
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Covering eyes when saying Shema for children

When a child is too young to say the bed-time Shema for himself, the custom is that parents say it for them as they go to bed. Should the parent cover their own eyes, the child's eyes, or perhaps ...
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If a woman converts to Judaism while pregnant, will her child be a Jew?

If a woman converts to Judaism while pregnant, will her child be a Jew once born?
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Woman Bringing their little girls to shul

The Birkei Yosef states (regarding bringing children to shul) that “It’s prohibited [for a father] to sit his young child in front of him during tefillah [davening].” (Mishnah Berurah 96:4) Why does ...
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Explaining Providence and Prayer to Children

When a young child is sick or in pain, and they say something like, "I prayed to HaShem to make it better but he didn't do anything" what's a good way to answer that kind of question?
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Shul, Children and Chinuch

Someone once told me parents should not bring their children (i.e. that are below chinuch – they are not capable of being quiet on their own) to shul if they are going to disturb. It is also better ...
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Can one carry a child outside an eruv on Shabbat?

If one is on a walk on Shabbat with a small child in an area without an eruv, and the child gets tired, is one allowed to carry the child? For the purpose of answering this question, assume that the ...
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Ayin hora - evil eye

I have observed a Phenomenon among older Eurpoean Jewry ( i.e. Yiddishe mammes and bubbes) not to display pictures of their children or grandchildren ( eineklach) in open areas for fear of ayin hora. ...
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What options are there for chanukiah lighting in southern latitudes?

What options are there for lighting chanukiyot in southern latitudes where younger children will be going to bed well before sunset? Adults may stay up for lighting chanukiyot but what options are ...
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Discipline of children

When we have to administer a spanking to our seven year old, does Halakha demand an actual Rod? My husband and I use the palm of the hand on his bare behind.
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Can a Jew name a child after a (deceased) non-Jew (non-relative)?

Can a Jew name a child after a (deceased) non-Jew (non-relative)? Is there any prohibition against it?
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Ben Sorer U'moreh - is anyones future doomed?

the Gemara (Sanhedrin 71a) writes that a Ben Sorer U'moreh never took place. I would like to suggest that the Gemoro is teaching us that it never happened that a Jewish child - however bad he may be - ...
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Tribe of the son of a Kohen and a convert

Kohanim are not allowed to marry a convert. However, if such a case happens (where there is a fully valid conversion), what is the status of the child? On one hand, they would be chalal, but would ...
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Naming Kids Similar to Living Relative

In Ashkenazik circles, can a child be named similar to a living grandparent? How close is too close? Examples: David & Davida Mira & Meira Chana & Chanan Gila & Gilaad Misha & ...
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Sleeping Music during the Three Weeks

During the three weeks, may parents put on music that helps their children sleep? Perhaps there is a difference between before Rosh Chodesh Av and after Rosh Chodesh Av.
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Holding a child during bentching,kiddush,havdallah

Is there any reason to say that its problematic to hold a child during bentching and so on... because one is thinking about not dropping what he is holding,like by Shmoneh Esrei (96:1) one should not ...
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Shehecheyanu at a Graduation

I recently attended a college graduation, and one of the parents decided to recite shehecheyanu to celebrate the occasion. I have never heard of someone doing this -- is there any basis for saying it?
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Are children adopted by Jews Jewish?

I was adopted around the time I was three months old by my parents who are both Jewish. I do not know what religion my biological mother was, in fact I have very little detail about her at all. I was ...