Questions tagged [children-parenting]

Questions relating to children vis à vis their parents in Jewish law or Jewish thought. Also questions relating to parenting approaches and advice in Jewish thought.

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Did Ishmael receive “שְׁנַיִם, בְּכֹל אֲשֶׁר-יִמָּצֵא, לוֹ” like a firstborn does?

Did Ishmael ben Avraham receive a double-portion in accordance to the rights of the firstborn? Or did he forfeit them because he was estranged from the family? I know that the law of the double ...
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Why doesn't Deuteronomy 13:6-10 list that the is father liable to get the death penalty for committing the act of apostasy?

Why doesn't Deuteronomy 13:6-10 list that the is father liable to get the death penalty for committing the act of apostasy? "If thy brother, the son of thy mother, or thy son, or thy daughter, or the ...
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Giving maaser money to parents

If one is working part time and his / her parents whose financial state is really not great (their balance is negative), is s/he allowed to give his / her maaser money to them even though they support ...
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Hitting vs rape/seduction of a young girl who gets the money for the damages

It seems that: When a girl is damaged by someone hitting her, at least part of the damages go to her Halacha 14 here and HM 242.6 But if she was raped/seduced ALL the damages go to the father Halacha ...
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Eating in a non-kosher household [duplicate]

I am a converted Jew (mother is not Jewish, father is) who has recently began keeping Kosher. My mother is an excellent cook, and I greatly enjoyed eating what she made growing up. I still would like ...
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Was Baal worshiped via child sacrifice?

I heard Glenn Beck, on the radio today, saying that the "Old Testament" false god Baal was worshiped via child sacrifice (among other things). Is there any evidence of that from Tanach itself (i.e. ...
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Parent/child relationship : how does adoption compare to geirus?

Take a father and daughter who both underwent geirus. Now take a Jewish man who adopted a baby girl of unknown (Jewish) parents. In both situations, the father raises the child since birth. Are the ...
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Parents mix in to marriage until 24 years old

I was once told that parents have a bigger say regarding who you (maybe only male) marry before you are 24 years old Is this true? if yes sources please (The only thing I saw that changes after the ...
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Teaching Jewish morals/ethics to children: books and other aids

Looking for books with ethical and moral dilemnas (scenarios) that can serve as starting points for discussions with kids 7 year old and older to explore Jewish moral and ethical values and laws. Not ...
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Can a man miss tefilah with a minyan because his wife is overwhelmed with the children?

Assume a scenario where a man's wife requires extra help at home during a busy part of the day and requests that her husband skip minyan (and daven alone) in order to help her. (For example, let's say ...
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How can God be just in light of Deuteronomy 23:3?

Deuteronomy 23:3: A bastard shall not enter into the assembly of the LORD; even to the tenth generation shall none of his enter into the assembly of the LORD. I asked a similar question here - ...
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Walking around indoors without shoes

Does anyone know of a source for the practice of not walking around indoors without shoes? (I am seeking an actual source, not speculation)
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Is an asexual person obligated in Pru Urvu?

Asexuality is a sexual orientation characterized by the lack of sexual attraction towards people in general. Asexuals may or may not be interested in romantic relationships, but are not physically ...
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Negel vasser after touching shoes

A person must perform a ritual hand-washing after the completion of certain activities, including upon arising in the morning; before eating bread; after shaving, haircutting, clipping one’s nails,...
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Discovered my Jewish heritage at 61 yrs old; now what? [closed]

For my entire life I believed I was of 100% Italian heritage; typical Neopolitan roots from grandparents who came in the 'big wave' of Italian immigrants in 1900-1910. I've traveled to Italy and am a ...
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The Mitzva of Peru U'Revu (Reproduction) - when does it start?

The first commandment in the Torah is Peru U'Revu, the commandment to "be fruitful and multiply" (Bereshit 1:28). When does the obligation to fulfill this commandment begin? Does the Mitzva of Peru U'...
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Most children in sefer B'reishit are named by women or God; why does Yehudah name Er?

I noticed in B'reishit 38 that Yehudah names his first son Er, but his wife bat Shua names the other two. Yaakov's wives name all of their children (except that Yaakov changes Ben-oni to Binyanim). ...
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Why was Pharaoh displeased?

In Parshas Mikeitz (Beraishis 41), Pharaoh receives an interpretation for this two dreams from necromancers. Rashi (41:8) says that they told Pharaoh that “You will beget seven daughters, and you will ...
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Are there any teachings about “tough love?”

Sometimes, in order for one to learn, one must experience the failure of the ideas one believes to be true which are, in fact, not true. If the student in this process is a child or someone under the ...
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New Name for parent [duplicate]

My father is very ill and they have given him an additional name. Does this new name that he was given a few weeks ago alter the way that I get called up for an Aliyah going forward, both while he is ...
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Matrilineal Descent

I have heard that matrilineal descent (i.e. having Judaism passed down through the mother) comes from the Roman period when women were raped by Roman soldiers and the babies were then said to be ...
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Shemona Esrei - why do we not Daven anywhere for our children?

In Shemona Esrei we Daven for Da'as - understanding, Teshuva, Geula - redemption, Refua - health, Parnassa - livelihood, etc. Yet nowhere to my knowledge do we Daven for our children. Is there perhaps ...
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Who should walk the Chosson and Kallah to the Chupa?

At the Chuppah in some weddings I've been to, the father and father-in-law escort the Chosson and the mother and mother-in-law escort the Kallah. In others, the mother and fathers each escort their ...
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Does taking money from government programs change the Halachic status of the family structure?

Does taking government subsidies such as Section 8 and Food Stamps in a situation where the government subsidy is specifically providing money for food per child (Food Stamps) or money for an extra ...
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Why two genders?

Why did G-d make it that all animals need both genders to procreate? Couldn't He just make one kind of animal per species and give it the ability to produce children on its own?
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At what age should we start teaching the distinction between Midrash and Text?

At a very early age children learn the history of the world and the Jews through the enthralling stories found in many varied sources. They learn that the world was created in six days; that ...
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can a parent confiscate his dependent child's property?

If a child is over bar mitzva and dependent on the parent, may the latter confiscate his child's possessions as a form of punishment or would this be considered damage/theft I am not asking on ...
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If your parent changes their name, does your name change too?

Imagine your parent changes his or her (Hebrew) name--either by converting to Judaism and getting a name, by taking on a second name, or simply changing his/her name for whatever reason. (Not sure ...
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Are there any sources for parents respecting children

BSD Are there any sources in any Torah literature of the importance of a parent respecting their child. I am referring to a parent understanding their child. For example a parent not caring about his ...
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Teenagers and Modesty [closed]

I am the mother of three girls, the two oldest are 12 and 14. The youngest is 6 months of age. They're into wearing what the other girls wear. My 12 year old girl gives me heart attacks. She's very ...
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Mom And Baby Talk

What do other Jewish moms do with their babies? I have a six month old baby. I want her to learn Torah from the first words she speaks. I don't live around other Jewish people, we've only been ...
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The custom of adding a candle for each child

Many people, including myself, added or will add a candle on Friday night for each child that is born. Where and when did this custom originate?
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Non-Jewish father: son of whom for an aliyah? [duplicate]

Let's say there is a person born of Jewish mother, but not a Jewish father. To further complicate things, the mother was raised secular and at a later point converts to Christianity. Does her change ...
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Who picks a yeshiva for a son or daughter, the mother or the father

Which of the parents has a halachic obligation to pick the religious institution a son or daughter goes to - the father or mother of the child?
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Understanding derivation of rule that “פרו ורבו” is mandatory only for men?

The Gmara (Yevamot 65b) says that the reason why men are the only ones that have to keep "פרו ורבו" is because right after it its written "וכבשוה" (the human has to take over the world), and men are ...
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How could Yaakov make Menashe and Efraim like his sons?

We find in the last part of Bereshit that, just before Yaacov Avinu passed away, he blessed Yosef sons and made them his sons. How do we understand that a grandson becomes a son? Can we apply it in ...
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Does marrying the woman one got pregnant before the baby is born make a difference?

The non-Jewish world considers any child born out of wedlock a bastard. As such, there is often a rush to get married before the baby is born, once the child is conceived out of wedlock. In Jewish ...
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Is it permissible to name one's child with a name from the opposite gender?

Is a person allowed to name a boy with a girl's name and vice versa? I remember seeing that one musn't, although in Nach one finds these things a lot. I understand it is not best practice for ...
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What are traditional Jewish symbols of fertility?

What are some traditional Jewish symbols of fertility? (with biblical, talmudic, medrashic or kabbalistic sources) Specifically, I am wondering what ideas/things are associated with fertility and ...
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What teshuvot address educating children on inappropriate touch? [closed]

A friend of a non-observant family shared a story which inspired this question. Two cousins were playing together. The boy was about 7 years old. The girl was about 3 years old. Early on, the mother ...
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What is mandatory for the second seder?

I have tried looking up the answer to this question, I hope someone here can give me an answer! My mother-in-law had heard somewhere that because the second seder outside Israel is of rabbinic ...
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Touching a Stepson [closed]

As an orthodox Jew, I married another orthodox Jew. This is a second marriage and he has a son. Am I allowed to touch the boy, as his stepmother, after he reaches the age of 9?
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Halakhot of raising babies

I don't think I've ever encountered halakhot that pertain to interacting with newborns, but as any new parent knows, such interactions take up a great deal of one's time, during the day, at night, ...
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Liven up the seders with photos?

Has anyone tried making the seders more attractive to kids by use of photos? If so, what did you try and how did it work? Update: I have found photos of: breaking a matza, locusts, a seder plate, ...
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Why did David ask Uriah to go back to Betsheba?

David had relations with Bathsheba. Bathsheba got pregnant. David then told Uriah to return to Bathsheba. Uriah refused and latter David technically lawfully kill Uriah. See II Samuel 11. A rabbi ...
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Can a parent “victim” forgive a child due the death penalty?

There are two capital offences against parents: cursing a parent or striking a parent (and causing an injury). If someone did this in front of 2 witnesses with a warning etc. so they were due the ...
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Mitzvah for fathers to buy things for dating-age daughters?

I heard that men whose daughters are dating have a mitzvah to supply them with things that will help them, i.e. dresses, jewelry, etc. Is there a source for this?
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Do the Nine Measures Apply to the Woman?

Nedarim 20b discusses nine mannerisms which a man should avoid whilst being intimate with his wife. The Talmud says that practicing these nine mannerisms can lead to having obstinate, rebellious ...
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Where does Chassam Soffer say Hillel needed a job

I recall seeing a Chassam Soffer who explained that Hillel Hazakein was allowed to lead a life of poverty for Torah only as long as he had no children. Up untill then it was a lifestyle that his wife ...
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Guide to being a good father?

Are there any halachic guides to being a good father? Beyond that, a list of well established principles rooted in halacha?