Questions tagged [children-parenting]
Questions relating to children vis à vis their parents in Jewish law or Jewish thought. Also questions relating to parenting approaches and advice in Jewish thought.
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Naming your baby - does the name influence the child?
Inspired by this question: Is there any significance to the name you choose to give your child? Does the name have any influence over the child? Is there any reason to choose to name your son after ...
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Gender Choice in Halacha
Is it Halachicly allowed to chose the gender of your child or does Halacha frown upon this practice?
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Could there be a Halachik issue with using a DNA kit such as 23andMe?
Besides learning fun facts about one's DNA and ancestry, there's a lot of good that can come out of using one. For example: people of Ashkenazi Jewish descent can learn if they're predisposed to BRCA1 ...
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Transmitting bad traits
IIRC, there was a statement made that a person who fixes their bad trait before their child is born, will not pass that trait along to their child.
I'm trying to locate this, but I'm not having any ...
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Child of a Levi and an Egyptian convert
From my comment here
If a Levi illegally marries an Egyptian or Edomi convert, what's the status of their children?
They're second generation Egyptians, so they can't marry most Jews. (But their ...
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Must a couple get divorced if they have no children after 10 years?
I recall learning, but am unsure of the source, that a couple who has been married for 10 years but has no children either should get divorced. What is the source and reason for this? Is it an ...
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Are we children or servants of HaShem?
HaShem teaches us to serve Him (Shemot 23:25), because we're His servants (Vayikra 25:42, 25:55), HaShem also teaches that we're His children (Devarim 14:1).
There is a long explanation about these ...
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Do fathers revoke all their daughters' vows right before they turn 12.5?
Nedarim 10:4, dealing with a case where a father has used his authority to marry off his 12-12.5 year old daughter through eirusin and is now finishing the marriage through nisuin, says:
דֶּרֶךְ ...
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Is there anything in the Tanakh or Talmud about co-wives helping raise the child of other co-wives upon widowhood (or absence of husband)?
I just met an Israeli woman, who said that she became a widow when her first and only child was five years old.
She said that if it wasn't for her husband having more than one wife, with whom she ...
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List of people who lose a child in תנ"ך
Any other cases of people who lose a child in תנ"ך? I have a few ideas but am looking for a fuller list, though let's keep it to Pshat reading of the text, not Midrashim.
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Are there situations where a child is permitted to refer to their parent by their first name?
(This question addresses the prohibition of referring to your parents by their first name)
Other than emergency situations (medical, hospital etc) are there instances where a child is permitted to ...
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Why are future generations still paying for the sin of the Golden Calf?
Parshas Ki Tisa recounts the episode of the golden calf, and the immediate punishment that was meted out for the sin. In addition to this, Rashi on Shemos 32:34 (quoting Sanhedrin 102a ) writes:
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Choosing name for our children
Is there a comprehensive list which we can pick names from? I’m looking for all traditional names, not names that are modern creations or not Jewish originally.
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Paternity of Peretz, with regards to Yehudah's act of “Yibbum”
In Parshat Vayeishev, the Torah records the lineage of Yehudah. Er, his eldest, is married to Tamar and then dies without offspring. The same occurs with Onan. Yehudah then has children with Tamar (...
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Should parents honor their children?
What responsibility do parents have to their children vis a vis Kavod? General Kavod HaBerioth? Some level of relational Kavod like spouses have or like children have to their parents, only to a ...
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Enforcing halacha on children
People are not required to observe commandments until they become bar/bat mitzvah. But to what extent should the parents enforce halacha on them? If they write on Shabbat, stop them? If they scream ...
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Children's “Little Gemarah”?
My family enjoys this English language Little Midrash series.
Does something like an English language 'Little Gemarah' (ie introduces reasoning logic) exist for children 6-12 years old?
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Halachic status of ישמך אלקים כאפרים וכמנשה
Yaakov blessed Ephraim and Menashe by stating that future generations would bless their children by saying "ישמך אלקים כאפרים וכמנשה" - "God make you like Ephraim and Manasseh" (Gen. 48:20). Was this ...
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Is it okay to enjoy Christmas lights?
My daughter is always talking about how she hates everything Christmas, including the lights on the houses. I am trying to encourage her that she can like non religious things like the lights, so ...
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How Jewish Sex Education is done?
What are the Jewish customs on sex education of children or teens? How is it done, and at what age?
Or is it completely avoided until marriage?
Are they taught what it means for example a man can ...
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Why are there no “deRabanan regulations” on the Ben Sorer uMoreh Mitzvah?
This is the first question in a series on Ben SU"M.
Let me recap on this Mitzvah (Rambam Mamrim 7):
A 13 to 13 and 3 months old boy that disobeys his father and mother in a very specific way of
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What problems are faced by children born out of wedlock?
I was previously under the impression that, since a man may acquire a woman with sexual intercourse (cf: Mishna, Qiddushin 1:1), if a couple have a son but no ketubah, the child still inherits his ...
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Should one reprimand a child if the parent might be embarrassed?
I was at shul on Sunday, not during a service, but during a meeting. A parent and child were sitting in front of me. The small child's legs were far too short to reach the floor, and her feet were ...
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Halachot of Naming (kids)
Has naming children ever formed systematized Halachot?
Or is it left as a sort of a prophecy to the parents?
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The 5th Commandment - Who should be financially supported first - children or parents?
During a recent Pirkei Avot shi'ur in my synagogue, our rabbi discussed two concepts.
Jewish Virtual Library citing of Talmud, Tractate Kiddushin 31B
Our Rabbis taught: What is "revere" and what ...
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Stealing in the House of your parents?
If a child lives in his parent’s home, and uses the stuff in the house, eats the food in the house, etc, what can be used to say that he is not stealing?
For example, how can a child live in his ...
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When did the switch to matrilineal descent occur?
Does anyone know when the switch the matrilineal descent took place? I've seen other information about the potential impetus, but when did it become so? Was there even a switch?
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Marriage and p'ru urvu
An answer here states:
The mitzva of Pru Urvu covers only marrying someone believed to be
fertile.
And one here:
"The mitzva per se of pru urvu means: "marry someone who is able to
bear ...
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How can I make my Judaism more enjoyable?
I really enjoy being Jewish, most of the time, but let's be honest, sometimes it can be difficult to enjoy Judaism. Sometimes it's the little things, like having to wait those extra minutes to eat ...
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Can a single-parent father be exempt from time-bound mitzvot?
Rabbis such as Abudraham have explained a woman's exemption from positive time-bound commandments (mitzvot shehazman grama) in terms of a woman's ongoing and preliminary role in supporting her ...
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How a father is allowed to cause embarrassment to his underage daughter?
In Ketubot 40b the Gemara says that we see that the father gets his daughters (child) embarrassment and degradation payments from the fact that he can marry off his daughter to someone horrible, ...
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Can a father marry off his daughter for nissuin or only arusin?
In the Torah a father is given the right to marry off his daughter before she's an adult. Does this work even for nissuin (the second stage of marriage) or only arusin?
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Parents of old age and children of 'disability' [closed]
While working I saw an old lady being aided by her daughter and grandson. I stood out of respect.
Then it hit me. My last job before lunch was a mother of a son who was a quaddraplegic.
I know the ...
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Halachic sources for not using the first names of your parents?
I understand that it's a common understanding that as part of the mitzvah of respecting one's parents one shouldn't use their first names. See e.g. Can an adopted child call birth parents by first ...
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Honoring a parent vs. Shalom Bayit - which has priority?
Let's say one has an emotionally abusive parent. When the parent visits someone, she is emotionally abusive to her son and daughter in law. The abuse is so harsh that it affects Shalom Bayit in the ...
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what is the source that a parent carries the sins of their children when the children are minors?
As a child I learned that a minor is not culpable for his or her sins and that any negative effect from those sins is borne by the parent (I don't recall if it was specifically the father). I would ...
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What is the number one or the most recommended Talmud/Gemara passage for a child to begin studying?
What is the number one or the most recommended Talmud/Gemara passage for a child to begin studying?
I understand that the number one or the most recommended Torah passage for a child to begin ...
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The father has the obligation of chinuch until what age
Until what age is the obligation on the father to train his children to do Mitzvot?
I see contradictory sources please clarify, or bring more accepted sources
No limit. http://halachipedia.com/...
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Origin of using priestly blessing on Friday night
I know why we use Ephraim and Menashe when blessing the children on Friday nights, (see: Why Does Hashem Bless Us Like Efraim And Menashe?) but why do we use Birkat Kohanim? Is there any specific ...
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Why isn't Peru URvu one of the 7 Noahide Laws?
The commandment to "Be fruitful and multiply" was given to Adam HaRishon. Why, then, is this not included in the Sheva' Mitzvoth Bnei Noaḥ?
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Is the father responsible to clothe and room his older children
Until the age of 6 the father is obligated to feed, clothe and room his children. And it is enforceable. Then until 13/12 he should still do it.
But after 13/12 he is only obligated to do it as ...
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Marriage of a Cohen to a woman with a non-Jewish father: Are the sons Cohanim?
Asking because it is not answered here:
If, as suggested in the linked question, a Cohen may b'dieved (but not l'chatchila) marry a woman whose father is a non-Jew, will the sons from such a marriage ...
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Sources for supporting a married couple
The way I understand, it has become common in recent times for the parents of the girl, to offer a monthly stipend for a period of time after marriage. Is there a source for doing this?
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Must a Reform convert raise prior children Jewish?
I am contemplating joining a Reform synagogue up the street from where I live. I have been once before and would like to start attending though I'm not sure yet about conversion. I am agnostic but ...
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Neder of 11 year old girl
An 11 year old girl made a neder that if she finds a certain object that she had lost then she'll give to tzedeka 20 agarot (which is today around 5 cents) every week (for the rest of her life.)
Does ...
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Promised to name son Shimon - now husband is Shimon?
A woman who desperately wanted to get married traveled to Meron, the burial place of Rebbi Shimon bar Yochai, and vowed that if she found her match, she would name her first son Shimon in his merit. ...
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Is someone required to ask forgiveness if he causes tangential discomfort to another?
My son relayed this to me a few days ago.
When he was in yeshiva high school, the principal would enter each classes a few days before Yom Kippur and tell all the students that he was sorry if he may ...
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Explaining to children why we don't celebrate Halloween
Without delving into the Pagan origins of Halloween (or even discussing it altogether - as it may not be allowed l'halocho), how would you encourage Jewish children who've celebrated Halloween in the ...
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Should a child wash his hands before eating on Yom Kippur?
I know that you're not allowed to eat or wash on Yom Kippur. But suppose a child (not obligated to fast) is going to eat bread - should he wash his hands before eating it?
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Did Ishmael receive “שְׁנַיִם, בְּכֹל אֲשֶׁר-יִמָּצֵא, לוֹ” like a firstborn does?
Did Ishmael ben Avraham receive a double-portion in accordance to the rights of the firstborn? Or did he forfeit them because he was estranged from the family?
I know that the law of the double ...
