Questions tagged [children-parenting]
Questions relating to children vis à vis their parents in Jewish law or Jewish thought. Also questions relating to parenting approaches and advice in Jewish thought.
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מורה vs. הורה - Implication in difference of the word
It seems that the hebrew words for Teacher and Parent are the same root which means to teach.
I am looking for what the מ (מורה) and (הורה) ה do to the words that help define their roles.
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Are we children or servants of HaShem?
HaShem teaches us to serve Him (Shemot 23:25), because we're His servants (Vayikra 25:42, 25:55), HaShem also teaches that we're His children (Devarim 14:1).
There is a long explanation about these ...
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Is self-sacrifice acceptable to save one's child? [duplicate]
Generally speaking, Judaism doesn't take the same mindset for self-sacrifice as modern society. While we can have great respect for individuals who have given up their lives to save others, Jewish ...
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What is the best haggadah to prepare/use in a Seder with 6-12 year old kids?
There are a literally a million Hagaddos out there, but i need something that helps me explain Magid to young kids in a way that gives over sipur yetzias mitzayim, not nice vertilach.
The past couple ...
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what is the mother's obligation to raise children (if she is not obligated to educate (chinuch) them)
igres moshe 4.49
כי סתם נשים בעולם אינם עשירות ועליהן מוטל גידול הילדים והילדות
translation from link
the average woman is not wealthy and has responsibility to raise sons and daughters.
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Are there any teachings about “tough love?”
Sometimes, in order for one to learn, one must experience the failure of the ideas one believes to be true which are, in fact, not true. If the student in this process is a child or someone under the ...
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Saying Baruch Shepatrani for a girl
Do you say Boruch Shepatrani for a girl at her Bas Mitzva? If not, why not?
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How can I redeem a wasted youth?
I wasted my youth. I am 35 years old. I had a toxic relationship with my parents, especially my mother. My career never started, and I am still looking for a fresh start and finding it humiliating at ...
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Bonim Talmidei Chachamim
The Gemara is Shabbos(Chuf gimel amud beis) says:
Haragil Bner Havin Lei Bonim Talmiday Chachamim
(very loosely translated) A person who is studious with the mitzvah of lighting will have children ...
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Should one make a bracha on food if only a child is eating?
I think it is common to make a bracha (blessing) when giving a small child food so that they learn the common brachot and learn to say "amen". Is this appropriate to do if you are not eating the food ...
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Must a parent vaccinate her child?
Is a parent compelled by Halacha to vaccinate her child if it can be statistically proven that, without the vaccine, the likelihood of the child contracting the disease that he is being vaccinated for ...
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Paternity of Peretz, with regards to Yehudah's act of “Yibbum”
In Parshat Vayeishev, the Torah records the lineage of Yehudah. Er, his eldest, is married to Tamar and then dies without offspring. The same occurs with Onan. Yehudah then has children with Tamar (...
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What specifically was the ancient Jewish practice of rubbing an infant's throat?
The Jewish Encyclopedia article on "Consecration" says that the later "rubbing on" of oil aka "anointing" has roots in the practice of rubbing an infant's throat in preparation for receiving a mother'...
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Can a single-parent father be exempt from time-bound mitzvot?
Rabbis such as Abudraham have explained a woman's exemption from positive time-bound commandments (mitzvot shehazman grama) in terms of a woman's ongoing and preliminary role in supporting her ...
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What does it mean “a man leaves his father and mother”?
Please help me understand the meaning of this phrase (Gen 2.24:
עַל־כֵּן יַעֲזָב־אִישׁ אֶת־אָבִיו וְאֶת־אִמּוֹ וְדָבַק בְּאִשְׁתּוֹ וְהָיוּ לְבָשָׂר אֶחָד׃
Hence a man leaves his father and ...
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Crying when reading about Aaron's sons' deaths
The machzor (prayer book) that I used this Yom Kippur has this to say immediately before the morning Torah reading:
עֶס שְׁטֵייט גֶעשְׁרִיבֶּן װֶער עֶס לָאזט טְרֶערִין מִיט דֶעם גַאנְצֶן הַארְץ ...
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Child from the relations Yael had with Sisra
According to Shoftim 5:27, per the explanation found in Yevamos 103a (in the name of רבי יוחנן), Yael had relations with Sisra.
אמר רבי יוחנן שבע בעילות בעל אותו רשע באותו היום שנאמר בין רגליה כרע
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Child of a Levi and an Egyptian convert
From my comment here
If a Levi illegally marries an Egyptian or Edomi convert, what's the status of their children?
They're second generation Egyptians, so they can't marry most Jews. (But their ...
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Can a father transfer rights to his daughter for gain?
In most western democracies a parent has obligations to the care of their children; they are not property in that their care cannot be transferred for personal gain, a child cannot be rented, sold, or ...
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Are dolls/stuffed bears/action figures forbidden due to the fact they might be considered idols? [duplicate]
It's not uncommon for children to play with dolls. Girls with "American Girl" dolls and baby dolls while boys typically have action figures and the like.
Do these not violate the rules on idols ...
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Naming your baby - does the name influence the child?
Inspired by this question: Is there any significance to the name you choose to give your child? Does the name have any influence over the child? Is there any reason to choose to name your son after ...
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Gender Choice in Halacha
Is it Halachicly allowed to chose the gender of your child or does Halacha frown upon this practice?
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Could there be a Halachik issue with using a DNA kit such as 23andMe?
Besides learning fun facts about one's DNA and ancestry, there's a lot of good that can come out of using one. For example: people of Ashkenazi Jewish descent can learn if they're predisposed to BRCA1 ...
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Transmitting bad traits
IIRC, there was a statement made that a person who fixes their bad trait before their child is born, will not pass that trait along to their child.
I'm trying to locate this, but I'm not having any ...
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Must a couple get divorced if they have no children after 10 years?
I recall learning, but am unsure of the source, that a couple who has been married for 10 years but has no children either should get divorced. What is the source and reason for this? Is it an ...
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Do fathers revoke all their daughters' vows right before they turn 12.5?
Nedarim 10:4, dealing with a case where a father has used his authority to marry off his 12-12.5 year old daughter through eirusin and is now finishing the marriage through nisuin, says:
דֶּרֶךְ ...
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Is there anything in the Tanakh or Talmud about co-wives helping raise the child of other co-wives upon widowhood (or absence of husband)?
I just met an Israeli woman, who said that she became a widow when her first and only child was five years old.
She said that if it wasn't for her husband having more than one wife, with whom she ...
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List of people who lose a child in תנ"ך
Any other cases of people who lose a child in תנ"ך? I have a few ideas but am looking for a fuller list, though let's keep it to Pshat reading of the text, not Midrashim.
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Are there situations where a child is permitted to refer to their parent by their first name?
(This question addresses the prohibition of referring to your parents by their first name)
Other than emergency situations (medical, hospital etc) are there instances where a child is permitted to ...
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Why are future generations still paying for the sin of the Golden Calf?
Parshas Ki Tisa recounts the episode of the golden calf, and the immediate punishment that was meted out for the sin. In addition to this, Rashi on Shemos 32:34 (quoting Sanhedrin 102a ) writes:
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Choosing name for our children
Is there a comprehensive list which we can pick names from? I’m looking for all traditional names, not names that are modern creations or not Jewish originally.
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Should parents honor their children?
What responsibility do parents have to their children vis a vis Kavod? General Kavod HaBerioth? Some level of relational Kavod like spouses have or like children have to their parents, only to a ...
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Enforcing halacha on children
People are not required to observe commandments until they become bar/bat mitzvah. But to what extent should the parents enforce halacha on them? If they write on Shabbat, stop them? If they scream ...
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Children's “Little Gemarah”?
My family enjoys this English language Little Midrash series.
Does something like an English language 'Little Gemarah' (ie introduces reasoning logic) exist for children 6-12 years old?
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Halachic status of ישמך אלקים כאפרים וכמנשה
Yaakov blessed Ephraim and Menashe by stating that future generations would bless their children by saying "ישמך אלקים כאפרים וכמנשה" - "God make you like Ephraim and Manasseh" (Gen. 48:20). Was this ...
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Is it okay to enjoy Christmas lights?
My daughter is always talking about how she hates everything Christmas, including the lights on the houses. I am trying to encourage her that she can like non religious things like the lights, so ...
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How Jewish Sex Education is done?
What are the Jewish customs on sex education of children or teens? How is it done, and at what age?
Or is it completely avoided until marriage?
Are they taught what it means for example a man can ...
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Why are there no “deRabanan regulations” on the Ben Sorer uMoreh Mitzvah?
This is the first question in a series on Ben SU"M.
Let me recap on this Mitzvah (Rambam Mamrim 7):
A 13 to 13 and 3 months old boy that disobeys his father and mother in a very specific way of
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What problems are faced by children born out of wedlock?
I was previously under the impression that, since a man may acquire a woman with sexual intercourse (cf: Mishna, Qiddushin 1:1), if a couple have a son but no ketubah, the child still inherits his ...
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Should one reprimand a child if the parent might be embarrassed?
I was at shul on Sunday, not during a service, but during a meeting. A parent and child were sitting in front of me. The small child's legs were far too short to reach the floor, and her feet were ...
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Halachot of Naming (kids)
Has naming children ever formed systematized Halachot?
Or is it left as a sort of a prophecy to the parents?
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The 5th Commandment - Who should be financially supported first - children or parents?
During a recent Pirkei Avot shi'ur in my synagogue, our rabbi discussed two concepts.
Jewish Virtual Library citing of Talmud, Tractate Kiddushin 31B
Our Rabbis taught: What is "revere" and what ...
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Stealing in the House of your parents?
If a child lives in his parent’s home, and uses the stuff in the house, eats the food in the house, etc, what can be used to say that he is not stealing?
For example, how can a child live in his ...
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When did the switch to matrilineal descent occur?
Does anyone know when the switch the matrilineal descent took place? I've seen other information about the potential impetus, but when did it become so? Was there even a switch?
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Marriage and p'ru urvu
An answer here states:
The mitzva of Pru Urvu covers only marrying someone believed to be
fertile.
And one here:
"The mitzva per se of pru urvu means: "marry someone who is able to
bear ...
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How can I make my Judaism more enjoyable?
I really enjoy being Jewish, most of the time, but let's be honest, sometimes it can be difficult to enjoy Judaism. Sometimes it's the little things, like having to wait those extra minutes to eat ...
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How a father is allowed to cause embarrassment to his underage daughter?
In Ketubot 40b the Gemara says that we see that the father gets his daughters (child) embarrassment and degradation payments from the fact that he can marry off his daughter to someone horrible, ...
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Can a father marry off his daughter for nissuin or only arusin?
In the Torah a father is given the right to marry off his daughter before she's an adult. Does this work even for nissuin (the second stage of marriage) or only arusin?
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Parents of old age and children of 'disability' [closed]
While working I saw an old lady being aided by her daughter and grandson. I stood out of respect.
Then it hit me. My last job before lunch was a mother of a son who was a quaddraplegic.
I know the ...
