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Questions about the the blessings of thanks recited after eating bread products. Hebrew: Bircat Hamazon. Also known as Grace After Meals.

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Why is G-d mentioned in the feminine sometimes?

In one part of the Birkat Hamazon we say "veal hakol... anu modim lach umevarchim otach". This is only one small example, and there are many others, but why is God being adressed in the feminine "...
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Why “מַה שֶּׁשָּׁתִינוּ יִהְיֶה לִרְפוּאָה”?

Some Sephardim have this toward the end of the after-meal prayer: מַה שֶּׁאָכַלְנוּ יִהְיֶה לְשָׂבְעָה וּמַה שֶּׁשָּׁתִינוּ יִהְיֶה לִרְפוּאָה In my own, loose translation: May what we ate be ...
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Birchat hamazon: Thanking Gd for feeding all when there is hunger?

The first bracha of the birchat hamzaon says, in part, "Who nourishes the entire world" ... "He provides food for all flesh" ... "we have never lacked and we will never lack ...
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(How) Should the wife of the ba'al habayit (homeowner) be mentioned in the call to recite grace after meals

As part of leading birkat hamazon (grace after meals) there is a custom for the leader to mention he has been given permission to lead by the male homeowner. I am wondering if there is any discussion ...
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Meaning of komemiyyut (קוֹמְמִיּוּת)

The word "komemiyyut" (קוֹמְמִיּוּת) appears only once in the Torah: אֲנִ֞י יְהוָ֣ה אֱלֹֽהֵיכֶ֗ם אֲשֶׁ֨ר הוֹצֵ֤אתִי אֶתְכֶם֙ מֵאֶ֣רֶץ מִצְרַ֔יִם מִֽהְיֹ֥ת לָהֶ֖ם עֲבָדִ֑ים וָאֶשְׁבֹּר֙ ...
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Sit for blessings after food?

Someone told me to sit for grace after meals (the series of benedictions recited after eating a bread meal). Is that true? I mean, is there such an halachic obligation? or is it, at least, a nice ...
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Why Shir HaMaalos on Erev Tisha B'Av?

The custom is some places seems to be to say Shir Hamaalos before bentching for the seuda mafsekes on Erev Tisha B'Av. Although we normally say Shir Hamaalos for bentching whenever we don't say ...
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Amen in Boneh Yerushalayim

In Birkat HaMazon, the one who is saying Birkat HaMazon answers amen to his own bracha during the third bracha, Boneh Yerushalayim, as required by the text. Why is it that here we say amen to our ...
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Source for Rav Shach story (bentsching from a book from age 100)

In Torah Tidbits, issue 1372, Rabbi Shalom Rosner wrote, in part: When Rav Shach turned 100, he told his students that he was going to accept upon himself a new resolution. The students were ...
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Grace after meals - mentioning one parents/spouse if no longer alive

In the bensching (grace after meals/birkat hamazon) we have the following verse among the הרחמן's: הרחמן הוא יברך את אבי מורי בעל הבית הזה ואת אמי מורתי בעלת הבית הזה אותם ואת ביתם ואת זרעם ואת כל ...
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Does one bentch on an achila gasa?

After eating an excessive amount to a point that would be termed achila gasa which I will leave undefined, does a person have an obligation to recite grace after meals (or another bracha achrona as ...
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Sinning from Joy

Berachot 46 tells us that the guest blesses his host: "may no thought of sin, iniquity, or transgression stand before him or before us from now and for evermore". I remember seeing that this is ...
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Is it permissible to say “Birshut Baalat HaBayit Hazeh” when saying the Rabotai Nevarech invitation?

Some people have a custom of adding “Birshut Baal Habayit hazeh” in the Zimun. Can the wife be included?
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Where does the tune for birkat hamazon come from?

It's hard to describe who's tune this is and I can only refer to it as the 'commonly used' or 'popular' tune for birkat hamazon. I seems like it is compiled of many unrelated tunes. At times there are ...
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Zimun over the phone [duplicate]

If one had a group call (perhaps with video) and during that call many participants had bread, could they make a zimun together? I know that you only need to be within earshot to answer for a zimun, ...
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Saying migdol on Purim

The book “Guidelines” on Purim by Rabbis Jaeger and Barclay quotes the Ben Ish Chai who says that we say migdol in the bentsching (grace after meals) on Purim. I don’t have the Guidelines book, so ...
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Would you say this phrase in bentsching while eating at a gentile’s house?

Someone ate their own kosher meal at a gentile’s house. Would they still say the following phrase? הָרַחֲמָן הוּא יִשְׁלַח לָנוּ בְּרָכָה מְרֻבָּה בַּבַּיִת הַזֶּה, וְעַל שֻׁלְחָן זֶה שֶׁאָכַלְנוּ ...
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Bracha Acharona after Hesech HaDaas

When eating a bread meal one makes the decision to end the meal, clears the table but then decides to continue eating. Question: Does this constitute Hesech HaDaas? And if so, when saying a bracha ...
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Why is the Mizbe'ach in Al Hamichya?

Why is the Mizbe'ach specifically mentioned in Me'en Shalosh blessing yet not particularly mentioned in benching which instead discusses the entirety of the Beis HaMikdash?
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Chabad nusach for Birkat Hamazon

I noticed that in the last part of Birkat Hamazon, at the level of the pesukim יראו את ה' קדושיו ... יְראוּ אֶת יְיָ קְדֹשָׁיו, כִּי אֵין מַחְסוֹר לִירֵאָיו. כְּפִירִים רָשׁוּ וְרָעֵבוּ, וְדֹרְשֵׁי ...
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Does birkat hamazon cover dessert (and other items requiring a separate bracha rishona during the meal)?

During a bread-based meal, but before bentching (i.e. reciting birkat hamazon), I eat something (e.g. fruit, dessert, etc.) that traditionally requires a separate bracha rishona. Must I say a ...
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Why does the request for sustenance go in the third section of Birkat HaMazon, with building Jerusalem?

Just realized -- the third segment of Birkat HaMazon looks like this: Hashem, please have mercy on Jerusalem and the Temple ... and rebuild Jerusalem speedily please. Fine. But in the middle of ...
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Is there such a thing as פת מדינה?

In Bereishit, Hashem said to Adam בזעת אפך תאכל לחם This would seem to imply that bread is universal to all people. We also know that bread has a particular definition: it has to be made from one ...
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Forgot if said birkas hamazon [bentching]

I was thinking that you would have to say it, since it's sofek d'oraisah. But then you there is a sofek d'oraisah of bracha l'vatallah and we have a rule of sofek brochos l'kullah. Anyone have ...
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Where is Maharshal's commentary on birkat hamazon printed?

I understand that Maharshal wrote a commentary on birkat hamazon - does anyone know if/where I can find it published?
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Bphi Kol Chai not Bphe

In SA Orach Chaim 187:1 in Mishnah Brurah Sif Beis, he writes that the phrase in Birchas Hamazon should be 'Bphi' kol chai and not 'Bphe'. Anyone have an idea why?
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Why no singular in birchat hamazon for “ours and all that is ours”?

Near the end of the birchat hamazon there is alternate wording for the beginning of a sentence for eating at your own table, or that of another person, but the end of that sentence is always in the ...
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Why no singular when referring to one parent in the birchat hamazon?

Near the end of the birchat hamazon there is wording for a sentence for eating at the table of one's parents. (See the left side of the quote below). That sentence refers to "them, their house, ...
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Shortened version of birkat hammazon

Anecdotally, I've eaten with people before who have recited birkat hammazon to themselves quietly and who are either record-breaking speed speakers or who are using a shortened version. I suspect the ...
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Can a husband and wife recite the Grace After Meals?

I was taught that Jews do Grace After Meals (birchas/birkat hamazon) and that it is only done if there are three or more men. But what if it’s just the husband and wife, in public or at home? Are we ...
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Mac or PC computer file Bencher in Hebrew and English

I would like to get (for free or for pay) a bencher in Hebrew and English, similar to Artscroll, one side Hebrew and one side English in pdf format that I can open on a Mac or a PC and do some changes....
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ashkenazi style melodies to mizrachi birkat hamazon?

My wife has an Ashkenazi background and loved singing Birkat Hamazon at the shabbat table with a traditional western melody (similar to http://www.chabad.org/multimedia/media_cdo/aid/692733/jewish/...
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Ideas for discovering the history of benchers

I'm thinking of making a "bencher museum". I'd like to gather some ideas from our readership for this project. I have a selection of old benchers from the 60's as well as a larger assortment of more ...
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Why is Birkat Hamazon said after eating just a small piece of bread?

Berachos 21a: Whence is it that Grace after meals is ordained by the Torah? As it is said, "And thou shalt eat and be satisfied and bless the Lord thy God" (Deut. viii. 10). The verse ...
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Why don't people bentch on a kos nowadays?

Bentching with a kos (recite Grace after Meals with a cup of wine) was clearly a popular thing to do in the times of the gemara. Additionally many Ashkenazi rishonim (Rosh, Ri, and many other ...
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Two groups split into 2 cars and eat bread while travelling. What type of zimun do they make after rejoining?

This article delves into some details on what constitutes "eating together" for the requirement of zimun. I see that there is a dispute regarding what happens when some people leave in the middle or ...
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Refusing Reshut at Benching

In a zimmun, the leader asks permission from the others (BiReshut...) What is the procedure for refusing this permission? Must I outrank him in some way, or does anyone have the privilege of refusing ...
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Is there anything wrong with not eating bread to avoid reciting Birkat Hamazon?

Is there anything wrong with not eating bread during the weekdays to avoid reciting Birkat Hamazon?
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Shir Hama'alos in “Barech”?

Among the many hagada versions in use at the seder I attended this year, some of them included Shir Hama'alos before birkas hamazon in the "Barech" section and others did not. Is there any reason to ...
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“Praiseworthy is he who will clutch and dash your infants against the rock”?

I do not understand the last lines of psalm 137 ("By the rivers of Babylon"/"Al naharos bovel," the psalm recited before Birkat Ha-Mazon on weekdays. [It includes the famous lines &...
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“I never saw a tzaddik be abandoned…” - how do we understand this?

At the end of bentching we say that "I was young, and I also became old, and I never saw a righteous person be abandoned, and his children asking for bread" (Tehillim 37:25). How do we reconcile that ...
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Eating treif b'shogeg [duplicate]

If I ate a hamburger that I thought was kosher and after I finished it I found out it was not kosher, where does that leave me halachikly speaking. I know in Mishnah Torah it says (Blessings 1:19) ...
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On what days do we say shir hamalos before birkat hamazon?

Concerning saying shir hamalos before birkat hamazon, I have seen three different instructions in various bentchers: On days when we say musaf One days we do not say tachanun When we are celebrating ...
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Which sources deal with someone who said “bayom Chag haSukkos Hazeh” in “Yaaleh veyovo” in Grace after Meals on Shemini Atzeres

In Grace after Meals on Shemini Atzeres, someone said “bayom Chag haSukkos Hazeh” instead of “bayom Shemini Chag Hoatzeres Hazeh” in “Yaaleh veyovo”. My LOR told me that a man has to go back whereas a ...
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Repeating if one skipped Al Ha Nissim on purpose

If someone purposely skipped Al Ha Nissim on Purim or Chankah do they have to repeat the Amdiah/Bircas Ha Mazon? I'm aware that if it was on accident they do not have to go back and repeat it.
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if someone never eats bread during the week, only on Shabbos and he is not sure whether he said Retzai or not, does he repeat Birkhas Hamazon?

The Mishnah Berurah in OC 188:6:16 - קפח,ו,טז says that if someone said Birkhas Hamazon on Shabbos and he is not sure whether he said Retzai or not, he must repeat the Birkhas Hamazon because we ...
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Cut-off birkat hamazon

As a complement to this question on Shortened Birkat Hamazon, I would like to better understand the practice I saw of stopping Birkat Hamazon after the fourth blessing on Shabbat and not saying the ...
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Shortened Birkat Hamazon

I see mentions of a short version of Birkat Hamazon ("Birkat Hamazon Hakatzar"). R Yitzchak Abadi wrote one "based on the Rambam and other Rishonim", R Yosef Eliyahu Henkin is mentioned here as having ...
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Why, in זימון, is it customary to change from “רבותי נברך” to “ברשות מרנן ורבנן ורבותי”?

Why, at the beginning of ברכת הזימון is it comon custom that the leader opens with "רבותי נברך" and later he continues with "ברשות מרנן ורבנן ורבותי" . Why, at the beginning does he only address ...
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Definition of “together” regarding zimmun

Brachot 45a says that 3 people who ate "as one" are required to do zimmun ("Rabbotai Nevarech", etc.) What constitutes "together"? For example, can any of these be done? There is a rule that if the ...