I know that there are many explanations as to why many Jews have this custom (to commemorate the fire at har sinai, etc.), but where is the original source? Where originally did it come from?

I have heard that it is an import from Christianity, but would love to see some actual sources on this.


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The earliest source that I have found of carrying lights at a wedding, is in the Sefer Ha’Aruch, by Nathan ben Yechiel of Rome (c. 1035-1106), under the entry "לפד" (torch), who mentions a custom “in the land of Yishmael”, of carrying TEN torches before the bride.

מנהג בארץ ישמעאל, שמוליכין הכלה מבית אביה לבית בעלה קודם הכנסתה לחופה, ומוליכין לפניה בעשר קונדסין של עץ, ובראש הקונדס כעין קערה של נחשת, ובתוכה חתיכת בגד ושמן ועיטרן, ומדליקין אותן ומאירין לפניה

Mateh Moshe (published in Kraków in 1591) is a highly cited halakhic work by Rabbi Moshe ben Avraham of Przemyśl.

In his section a marriage customs (3:2) (London 5718, p. 344) he suggests reasons for carrying TWO candles, based on the numerical value of the Hebrew word נ"ר “Ner” (250).

ונראה לי הטעם לשני נרות אלו, כי לאשה יש לה רנ"ב אברים, ולאיש רמ"ח, ובדבוק איש ואשה הם ת"ק, ב' פעמים נ"ר

ועוד, ב' פעמים נ"ר בגימטריא פר"ו ורב"ו, הוא סימן שיהיו פרין ורבין

2 x 250 = 500, corresponds with combined number of organs of a male and female, who are now uniting in marriage.

In addition, 2 x 250 = 500, corresponds to the “gematria” of פר"ו ורב"ו (be fruitful and multiply), which is symbolized by the two candles.


The Sefer Edus Yisrael brings many different sources ,and makes mention that this is a very old minhag and is already mentioned in the Rokeach.

Text of the Edus Yisrael:

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  • ...or since they’d customarily have the ceremony at dawn (“כעלות השחר”) the candles were simply needed for light.
    – Oliver
    Jan 18, 2019 at 17:59
  • @Oliver Do you have any information, though, on its connection to it being popular at Christian weddings etc? Specifically would like to see that discussed, if you know of anything.
    – WhoKnows
    Jan 20, 2019 at 1:39
  • @WhoKnows I don’t know of its place at Christian weddings, sorry.
    – Oliver
    Jan 20, 2019 at 1:52

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