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If a beloved one has passed away, is it allowed or prohibited to talk against this soul? For example is it allowed to say goodbey, or to say you will mis him/her? I know there is a prohibition against consulting or calling up the death (Devarim 18:11) but in the case of bereavement, grieving and mourning is it allowed to talk in such a way in order to process the loss?
Could it be possible there’s a difference between talking with and talking against a deceased person?