My friend said he wouldn't marry multiple wives even though it is allowed because he didn't want to be "put in a harem." Personally, I don't see what's so bad about being put in a harem. I actually think I would like it. So what is so bad about a harem-- or, more likely, what is my friend's problem??
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Because unless his wives are in harem too, he can't have anything to do with them
Because once someone is in a (c)harem, they have to walk around barefoot all the time. Those extra wives get really makpid on mud and dirt.
He wouldn't want to be in a harem because that's where they put all the gross stuff!
וְכָל-הַמְּלָאכָה נְמִבְזָה וְנָמֵס, אֹתָהּ הֶחֱרִימוּ.
And all the junk and the gross stuff, they put in the harem.
I never visited a harem, so I can't comment from personal experience. But, from my understanding of the Megilla's description, it's a very smelly place.
Esther 2:12 says that before the girls would visit King Achashevrosh (the story sounds like the Persian version of "The Bachelor", BTW) they would steep themselves for 12 months in spices, perfumes and all types of cosmetics.
So, if your friend likes overly perfumed smelling girls, he would find the harem a nice place. Some people, like me, are allergic to perfumes, so they would find being a harem sickening.