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Is there a place I can get the prayers that we say at a funeral online so I can print it out. It's an Ashkenazi funeral also if anyone has one with both Hebrew and English that would be amazing.

  • Welcome to Mi Yodeya salsa! Sorry you need to ask about this rather than happier things. Customs may vary among different groups. Consider clarifying which group you are asking about: e.g. Ashkenazi / Sephardi. Thanks. – mevaqesh Nov 6 '17 at 2:11
  • I added some more information in my answer with a link. – sabbahillel Nov 6 '17 at 13:06
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Chabad.org has The Basics of the Jewish Funeral

The Burial ("Kevurah"). We return the body to the earth that is its source. This is our final act of caring, and it is considered a great mitzvah to physically participate in the burial. Ideally, the whole grave should be filled in, by hand, by fellow Jews. Where this is not possible, at least the coffin should be completely covered with earth. At this point, Tzidduk Hadin is recited--a series of verses acknowledging G‑d's just ways even as we confront tragedy. We then recite the Kaddish and the El Malei Rachamim memorial prayer. (Click here for the texts of Tzidduk Hadin, the Kaddish and El Malei Rachamim)

Chabad.org also says that at the Burial

The casket is carried from the hearse to the gravesite by Jewish men, usually by the Chevra Kaddisha, with the decedent's feet facing the front. It is customary that direct descendants of the deceased do not touch or carry the casket.

During the procession, Psalm 91 is recited seven times. Beginning from a short distance from the grave (approximately thirty feet), it is customary to halt the procession every few feet and repeat the Psalm, pausing at certain words in the final verse and reciting again from the top.

Before the casket is lowered into the grave, it is fitting to part with the deceased and, if one has not done so earlier at the memorial service, ask for forgiveness (and to forgive) for any pain or hard feelings that might have come between them.

Following the recitation of certain Psalms and prayers, the casket is laid in the grave by the Chevra Kaddisha. It is set in the direction so that the deceased's head rests where the tombstone will be erected, and the feet are positioned to the front of the grave. It is then covered with earth and the grave is filled until a small mound is formed on top. This is followed by the recitation of "Tziduk Hadin," and the Mourner's Kaddish.

The Chevra Kaddisha sprinkles earth from the Land of Israel into the grave, as the land is holy. All the men present then fill the grave with earth, beginning by covering the upper part of the casket. The men can take turns, but the shovel must not be passed directly from one person to the next. Instead, it is placed face down on the ground, and the next person takes it, to show that this is not "regular" work.

Some have the custom that members of the Chevra Kaddisha begin the filling of the grave by scooping earth in their hands and delicately placing it on the casket until it is completely covered, followed by everyone else with shovels.

As one fills the grave with earth, recite the following verse three times:

והוא רחום יכפר עוןולא ישחית והרבא להשיב אפו ולא יאיר כל חמתו

He, being compassionate, pardons iniquity, and does not destroy; time and again He turns away His anger, and does not arouse all His wrath.

It is highly preferable for Jewish men to fill in the grave. In the case where there are not enough men for this task, the casket must be at least completely covered with earth before allowing cemetery workers to finish the job.

Tziduk Hadin & Psalm 49

Once the grave is completely filled with earth and the top is in the shape of a small mound, a marker is placed on the grave with the name of the deceased and date of passing. The prayer of "Tziduk Hadin" is then recited. With this deeply meaningful prayer the mourners declare their acceptance of G‑d's decree and pray to G‑d to have mercy upon those who are living.

(If Tachnun is not recited on that day, we omit "Tziduk Hadin," and proceed directly with Psalm 49. This also applies for a burial on late Friday afternoon, or on Erev Yom Tov -- a day leading into a Jewish holiday.)

Aramaic and transliteration The Graveside Mourner's Kaddish

Aramaic and translation into English Burial Kaddish (Ashkenazim)

יִתְגַּדַּל ‏[‏נ״א׃ יִתְגַּדֵּל‏]‏ וְיִתְקַדַּשׁ ‏[‏נ״א׃ וְיִתְקַדֵּשׁ‏]‏ שְׁמֵהּ רַבָּא

Exalted and sanctified be His great name

הקהל׃אָמֵן

בְּעָלְמָא דִּי הוּא ‏[‏נ״א׃ דּהוּא‏]‏ עָתִיד לְאִתְחַדְתָּא

וּלְאַחֲיָאה מֵתַיָּא

congregation responds:Amen

In the world that in the future [will] be renewed,

and [where] He will revive the dead,

‏ ‏יש מוסיפים׃ ‏[‏וּלְאַסָּקָא יַתְּהוֹן לְחַיֵּי עָלְמָא‏]‏

לְמִבְנָא קַרְתָּא דִּי יְרוּשְלֵם וּלְשַׁכְלְלָא הֵיכָלֵהּ בְּגַוָּהּ

‏ ‏נוסח אחר׃ ‏[‏וּלְשַׁכְלְלָא הֵיכָלֵהּ ולְמִפרַק חַיַיָא וּלְמִבְנָא קַרְתָּא דִּירוּשְלֵם‏]‏

וּלְמֶעֱקַר פּוּלְחָנָא נוּכְרָאָה מִן אַרְעָה וּלְאָתָבָא פּוּלְחָנָא דִּי שְׁמַיָּא לְאַתְרָהּ וְיַמְלִיך קוּדְשָׁא בְּרִיךְ הוּא בּמַלְכוּתֵה וִיקָרֵהּ

‏ ‏נוסח אחר׃ ‏[‏וּלְמֶעֱקַר פּוּלְחָנָא נוּכְרָאָה מִן אַרְעָה וּלְאָתָבָא פּוּלְחָנָא קַדִּישָה דִּשְׁמַיָּא לְאַתְרֵהּ‏,‏ וֵזִיוֵהּ וִיקָרֵהּ וּשְׁכִנְתֵּהּ‏]‏

some add: [and raise them up to eternal life]

rebuild the city of Jerusalem and establish His Temple in it;

alternatively: [and establish His Temple, deliver life, and rebuild the city of Jerusalem]

uproot alien worship from the world and restore the service of Heaven to its place, and may the Holy One Blessed is He reign in His sovereignty and His splendor

alternatively: [uproot alien worship from the world and restore the holy service of Heaven to its place, along with its radiance, glory and holy presence]

‏ ‏יש מוסיפים׃ ‏[‏וְיַצְמַח פֻּרְקָנֵה וִיקָרֵב מְשִׁיחֵהּ׃

הקהל׃אָמֵן‏]‏

בְּחַיֵּיכוֹן וּבְיוֹמֵיכוֹן וּבְחַיֵּי דְכָל בֵּית יִשְׂרָאֵל‏,‏ בַּעֲגָלָא וּבִזְמַן קָרִיב ‏-‏ וְאִמְרוּ אָמֵן׃

some add: [and may He bring forth His redemption and hasten the coming of His Messiah.

and congregation responds:Amen]

in your lifetime and in your days and within the life of the entire House of Israel, speedily and in the near future - and let’s say to it, Amen.

‏ ‏הקהל עונים׃ אָמֵן‏,‏ יְהֵא שְׁמֵהּ רַבָּא מְבָרַךְ לְעָלַם וּלְעָלְמֵי עָלְמַיָּא׃ יש מוסיפים׃ ‏[‏יִתְבָּרַךְ‏]‏ ויש ממשיכים עד ‏[... ‏בְּרִיךְ הוּא‏]‏

‏ ‏האבלים ממשיכים׃ יְהֵא שְׁמֵהּ רַבָּא מְבָרַךְ לְעָלַם וּלְעָלְמֵי עָלְמַיָּא׃

יִתְבָּרַךְ ‏[‏נ״א׃ יִתְבָּרֵךְ‏]‏ וְיִשְׁתַּבַּח וְיִתְפָּאַר ‏[‏נ״א׃ וְיִתְפָּאֵר‏]‏ וְיִתְרוֹמַם וְיִתְנַשֵּׂא וְיִתְהַדָּר וְיִתְעַלֶּה וְיִתְהַלָּל שְׁמֵהּ דְּקֻדְשָׁא בְּרִיךְ הוּא׃

congregation responds: Amen, May His great name be blessed forever and ever! some start next paragraph: [Blessed] and some continue until [... blessed be He]

mourners continue: May His great name be blessed forever and ever!

Blessed and praised, glorified and exalted, uplifted, honored, elevated and lauded be the name of the Holy One, blessed be He.

הקהל׃בְּרִיךְ הוּא נוסח אחר׃ ‏[‏אָמֵן‏]‏

לְעֵלָּא מִן כָּל בִּרְכָתָא

congregation responds:Blessed be He alternatively: [Amen]

beyond any blessing

‏ ‏בעשרת ימי תשובה יש אומרים׃ ‏[‏לְעֵלָּא ‏(‏נ״א׃ וּ‏)‏לְעֵלָּא מִכָּל בִּרְכָתָא‏]‏

וְשִׁירָתָא‏,‏ תֻּשְׁבְּחָתָא וְנֶחֱמָתָא‏,‏ דַּאֲמִירָן בְּעָלְמָא ‏-‏ וְאִמְרוּ אָמֵן׃

הקהל׃אָמֵן

between Rosh HaShanah and Yom Kippur some substitute [far beyond any blessing]

and hymn, praise and consolation that is ever spoken in the world - and let’s say to it, Amen.

congregation responds:Amen

[During a Siyum / סיום, the Rabbis' Kaddish segment is inserted here.]

יְהֵא שְׁלָמָא רַבָּא מִן שְׁמַיָּא

וְחַיִּים יש מוסיפים׃ ‏[‏טובים‏]‏ עָלֵינוּ וְעַל כָּל יִשְׂרָאֵל

May there be abundant peace from Heaven

and life some say: [good life] for us and for all Israel

‏-‏ וְאִמְרוּ אָמֵן׃

הקהל׃אָמֵן

  • and let’s say to it, Amen.

congregation responds:Amen

‏ ‏פוסעים שלוש פסיעות לאחור ואומרים׃ עוֹשֶׂה ‏ ‏בעשרת ימי תשובה יש מוסיפים׃ ‏[‏הַ‏]‏שָּׁלוֹם בִּמְרוֹמָיו

הוּא יש מוסיפים׃ ‏[‏בְּרַחֲמָיו‏]‏ יַעֲשֶׂה שָׁלוֹם עָלֵינוּ וְעַל כָּל יִשְׂרָאֵל ‏-‏ וְאִמְרוּ אָמֵן׃

הקהל׃אָמֵן

mourners take 3 steps back, and say: He who makes between Rosh HaShanah and Yom Kippur some add: [the] peace on high,

may He some add: [in His mercy] make peace for us and for all Israel - and let’s say to it, Amen.

congregation responds:Amen

  • Is there other Psalms and other prayers we say? – salsachips44 Nov 6 '17 at 3:02

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