one of the reasons for lighting shabbos candles is "peace in the home"

shulchan aurch harav 263.1 explains "peace in the home" that not to stub you foot on wood or stone

the mishna torah megila 4:14 seems to hint that "peace in the home" is peace between husband and wife,
and it is used as a saying for this until today

is there a connection between these to?
please explain
sources appreciated

Where do the words sholom bayis come from?
How did the term "Shalom Bayit" come to mean "matrimonial harmony"?

related end of halacha 5 here http://www.chabad.org/3447016/
and https://www.sefaria.org/Mishnah_Berurah.250.5/

  • Thats Mishneh Torah, as in Deut. 17:18. – mevaqesh Aug 29 '17 at 15:55
  • When you stub your toe, you get unhappy. (Or ח"ו if you trip, which could also be what the Shulchan Aruch Harav means, you could break your leg and get even more unhappy.) This makes tensions build. "Why did you put that chair there, you know I always trip over it??!!" Then they could potentially get upset at each other over other minor things. This isn't a stretch, I can easily imagine it happening. Part of the solution is they should be more calm, but removing little things that can make people upset goes a long way. – Heshy Aug 29 '17 at 15:58
  • @Heshy very nice , a source will make it an acceptable answer – hazoriz Aug 29 '17 at 16:06
  • @Heshy it seem the Rashash quoted in this answer judaism.stackexchange.com/a/56164/5120 says that he gets unhappy with her not because she put the chair but because she did not light the candles – hazoriz Aug 29 '17 at 16:17
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    @hazoriz I don't think talking about shalom bayis in terms of "obligated" and "can't be upset" is constructive. (Except for things that we are obligated to do, like lighting candles, which is a special mitzva miderabbanan.) The husband and wife are BOTH obligated to keep shalom bayis, which means not doing things that will make the other upset, and not getting upset. If one of them gets upset, they have failed, and they should BOTH work on making it better. – Heshy Aug 29 '17 at 18:00

Nice question. The Prisha in siman 263 s"k 2 quotes the Beis Yosef at the end of the siman who says that candles arouse feelings of joy and this is based on the gemorah in Shabbos 25a which quotes a verse from Eichah (Lamentations) 3:17- וַתִּזְנַ֧ח מִשָּׁל֛וֹם נַפְשִׁ֖י -"And my soul is far removed from peace" and the gemorah says that this verse is referring to shabbos canles and the Ra"n explains that this is because the people in the house don't enjoy (suffering) being in the dark. The Beis Yosef says that the more light there is the more Shalom Bayis and joy there will be because of the light in all the corners of the house.

(I don't know if this is allowed on this website but The Huffington post had an article about this on 02/24/2014 called "How The Light In A Room Could Affect Your Emotions").

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