If the Torah tells us to love the stranger, וַאֲהַבְתֶּם, אֶת-הַגֵּר is there a command to love one's husband/wife?

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    I see these as two separate commandments, as the answers seem to indicate. Starting your question with "If" applies a causal relationship, which I don't think applies, here. Your wife is not a "stranger" - at least I hope, not!
    – DanF
    Aug 21 '17 at 14:13

ואהבת לרעך כמוך includes loving ones wife. (See Rabbi Samson Refael Hirsh on the Pasuk). There reason a convert is written separately is people may not include a convert in ואהבת לרעך כמוך.

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    If the Torah tells us וַאֲהַבְתֶּם, אֶת-הַגֵּר , then is there a command to a wife to love her husband?
    – ninamag
    Aug 20 '17 at 16:04
  • @ninamag: I would think that ואהבת לרעך כמוך includes loving ones husband also. Aug 20 '17 at 18:17
  • @Gershon_Gold I would think so, too, but I would like to know if any of our sages said the same thing.
    – ninamag
    Aug 20 '17 at 20:34
  • @Gershon_God please teach me how one would point רע (of לרעך) in the feminine and in the masculine? Thanks in advance.
    – ninamag
    Aug 29 '17 at 5:32

The Gemara in Kiddushin (beginning of the 2nd chapter) takes it for granted that the Mitzva of וְאָהַבְתָּ לְרֵעֲךָ כָּמוֹךָ - love your friend as yourself refers to one's spouse, which is why it is forbidden to marry somebody before seeing them.

אסור לאדם שיקדש את האשה עד שיראנה שמא יראה בה דבר מגונה ותתגנה עליו ורחמנא אמר ואהבת לרעך כמוך

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    +1 Is it not sposificly the male seeing the female?
    – hazoriz
    Aug 20 '17 at 15:19
  • Consider one of the Sheva Brachot's phrasing - . שמח תשמח רעים האהובים - the term is referring to husband and wife.
    – DanF
    Aug 21 '17 at 14:11
  • @Danny-Schoemann is רֵעֲ (of לְרֵעֲךָ) pointed in the feminine? If yes, how does one point it in the masculine? (I ask this grammar-related question regardless if your answer is, it does not matter if it is in the masculine or feminine.)
    – ninamag
    Aug 29 '17 at 5:28
  • @ninamag - Hebrew grammar is not my forté, unfortunately. Aug 30 '17 at 9:49

BTW there is a Rabbinic commandment to love ones wife as oneself (some people explain that it means not more then oneself(since there already is a commandment to love all Jews))

It is brought in the Rambam ishut 15:19

Similarly, our Sages commanded that a man honor his wife more than his own person, and love her as he loves his own person....

The Rambam's source (acording to magid Mishnah) Talmud Yevamot 62b

About love Rambam De'ot 6 Halachah 3

Each man is commanded to love each and every one of Israel as himself as [Leviticus 19:18] states: "Love your neighbor as yourself." Therefore, one should speak the praises of [others] and show concern for their money just as he is concerned with his own money and seeks his own honor.

Halachah 4

Loving a convert who has come to nestle under the wings of the Shechinah [fulfills] two positive commandments: one for he is [also] included among the "neighbors" [whom we are commanded to love] and one because he is a convert and the Torah (Deuteronomy 10:19) states: "and you shall love the converts.".
[Thus, God] has commanded us concerning the love of a convert just as He has commanded us concerning loving Himself as [Deuteronomy 11:1] states: "and you shall love God, your Lord." The Holy One, blessed be He, Himself, loves converts as [Deuteronomy 10:18] states: "and He loves converts."

Chinuch mitzva 431 love a ger.
Mitzva 243 love a jew

  • If the Torah tells us וַאֲהַבְתֶּם, אֶת-הַגֵּר , then is there a command to a wife to love her husband?
    – ninamag
    Aug 20 '17 at 16:04
  • @ninamag the command to love her husband is ואהבת לרעך כמוך your quote is not connected
    – hazoriz
    Aug 20 '17 at 16:05
  • @ninamag unless her husband is a ger
    – hazoriz
    Aug 20 '17 at 16:06
  • the command of veahahavto lereacho comocho written in Kiddushin 41a is clearly deoraita and according to Hillel is the cornerstone of the entire torah
    – user15464
    Aug 20 '17 at 18:27
  • @user15464 I was referring to an additional commandment ,( I think the Rambam saw kidduchin 41a and still wrote what he wrote in ishus 15.19)
    – hazoriz
    Aug 20 '17 at 18:31

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