Theoretical halachic question:

Can an orthodox Jew attend the wedding of a gay couple?

Does it matter if they are family?

Does it matter whether they are male or female?

Does it matter if they are otherwise observant of mitzvot or not religious?

Why or why not?

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    It is at least as bad as the "wedding" of a Jew and a non-Jew. – sabbahillel Aug 13 '17 at 15:43
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    When you say "wedding" do you mean a secular ceremony, another religion's ceremony, or something represented as Jewish (kiddushin)? – Monica Cellio Aug 13 '17 at 15:45
  • @MonicaCellio if there's a halachik distinction, both. – Yehuda Aug 13 '17 at 15:46
  • Dupe? judaism.stackexchange.com/q/12713/9643 – Ploni Aug 13 '17 at 16:24
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    We evaluate duplicates on the question, not the answers. Even though in both this case and that of an intermarriage the answer will include "it's not halachically a marriage", I don't think that warrants marking this as a dupe. – Monica Cellio Aug 13 '17 at 17:51

You have an obligation to go only if you think they or other attendants at the wedding will listen e.g close family who respect your opinion. You should protest (see source below) what is is being before or during the "wedding", in an informative non aggressive way by first mentioning that G-d bestowed so much good to them in form of health wealth happiness etc.,and we should thank him by following his ways and not transgressing the mitzva of "A man you shall not sleep with like a woman"(leviticus 18, 22). also mention hiv and other deseases caused by such unions. Also tell them that G-d will bless them to find true happiness with a woman spouse if they take upon themselves just this one mitzva of sanctity that separates us from the other nations. this is with regards to 2 men.

while 2 women is not a prohibition as severe as 2 men which is Chayav sekila -death by stoning, it is still a unity of disgust as said in the Shulchan aruch even haezer 20, 2 נשים המסוללות (פירוש המשחקות והמתחככות) זו בזו -- אסור, וממעשה ארץ מצרים שהוזהרנו עליו, וראוי להכותן מכת מרדות הואיל ועשו איסור. ויש לאיש להקפיד על אשתו מדבר זה, ומונע הנשים הידועות בכך מלהכנס לה ומלצאת היא אליהן: women who have a unity is prohibited and is under the category of "Don't do like the actions of the Egyptians"(vayikra 18, 3), and they are fitting to be lashed rabbinic lashes since they have sinned. So the same degree of action should be taken just quoting the relavent source.

the source of reprimanding someone who misconducts himself. is in the torah Vayikra 19,17 הוכח תוכיח את עמיתך ולא תשא עליו חטא see sefer hachinuch 239 and rambam sefer hamitzvos asei 205:להוכיח אחד מישראל שאינו מתנהג כשורה בין בדברים שבין אדם לחברו או בין אדם למקום, שנאמר (ויקרא יט יז) הוכח תוכיח את עמיתך ולא תשא עליו חטא. ואמרו בספרא (קדושים פרק ד מ"ח) מנין אם הוכחתו ארבעה וחמשה פעמים ולא חזר, שאתה חייב לחזור ולהוכיח? תלמוד לומר הוכח תוכיח. ועוד אמרו זכרונם לברכה בגמרא (ב"מ לא א) הוכח תוכיח אפילו מאה פעמים. ואמרו שם בספרא יכול מוכיחו ופניו משתנות? תלמוד לומר ולא תשא עליו חטא. וזה מלמד שבתחלת התוכחה שראוי לאדם, להוכיח בסתר ובלשון רכה ודברי נחת, כדי שלא יתביש, ואין ספק שאם לא חזר בו בכך, שמכלימין החוטא ברבים ומפרסמין חטאו ומחרפין אותו עד שיחזר למוטב.

Sotah 3a is specifically written with regards reprimanding in a case of pritzus. תנא דבי רבי ישמעאל אין אדם מקנא לאשתו אא"כ נכנסה בו רוח שנאמר ועבר עליו רוח קנאה וקנא את אשתו מאי רוח רבנן אמרי רוח טומאה רב אשי אמר רוח טהרה ומסתברא כמאן דאמר רוח טהרה Rashi there says רוח טהרה - ששונא את הפריצות:

I pray to Hashem that they should change their ways as EVERY JEW that keeps ANY MITZVA is crucial for the continuity of this world

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    Do you have any sources for your bold assertions in this answer? – Yehuda Aug 17 '17 at 21:22
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    Do note that the passuk you quote only prohibits “relations” with another man; there is no passuk that prohibits “marriage” with another man. – DonielF Aug 17 '17 at 21:43
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    And you can lessen the confusion by translating them while you’re at it – DonielF Aug 17 '17 at 21:44
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    Assuming they would listen, are you really advising protest at the wedding, when the discussion and any resulting cancellation would be public and embarrassing? – Monica Cellio Aug 18 '17 at 14:44
  • if they accepted it in public all the more kidush Hashem people will be inspired to keep mitzvos, see ray Amnon Yitzchak videos of men cutting their long hair in public and accepting mitzvos – user15464 Aug 18 '17 at 14:46

If both parties are non Jewish and female there seems to be no problem to attend (just from a Jewish prospective it is not a wedding just a party celebrating a leagle agreement for leagal purposes (taxes, imigration...) And nothing more)

If they are men or they are Jewish for you to attend it seems that your are obligated to clarify that you only support the leagle agreement for leagal purposes (for taxes and imigration...) but are against any sexual relations (which seem secendary or not necessary fot for the amrican marriage)
(maybe with the exception of non Jewish men to perform Fellatio or other relation with out penitration of the anus (which might be pirmited for them to do))

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