Has anyone heard of a custom to light a yahrzeit candle not on the eve of the actual yahrzeit, but on the eve of the preceding Shabbos? I know that there are other customs for the preceding Shabbos, such as saying kaddish, davening for the amud, possibly saying Kel Malei Rachamim, etc.--but is burning the memorial candle over that Shabbos also a tradition by anyone? (By whom?)

Motive: I am trying to find out if it could be my family's actual custom to do so, or if a relative instructed me to do this based on a misunderstanding.

  • Kel Maleh Rachamim is often said on the Shabbat before simply b/c that may be the closest Torah-reading day to the yahrtzeit, and this prayer must be said when the Torah is read. As for Kaddish - are you sure it's not simply b/c the person saying it can't come to shul on a weekday? Davening for the amud - I have to check if that's even common minhag. Usually, on Shabbat, someone who has yahrtzeit is not allowed to daven for the amud. – DanF May 22 '17 at 16:34
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    I looked at some sources about yahrzeits and could not find such a custom (though that's not a definitive proof that it doesn't exist; it may just mean it's not popular or well-known). Maybe contact that relative and try to get more clarity? – Jay May 22 '17 at 17:03
  • @Jay I might. It sounds like he misunderstood. Although I do feel like I see a lot of yahrzeit candles lit along with Shabbos candles... – SAH May 22 '17 at 23:10
  • Related: judaism.stackexchange.com/a/75/1516 – SAH Dec 23 '18 at 0:06

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