My brother an I have studied the laws of the Omer from rabbis and sites like http://www.torahmusings.com/2011/05/music-during-sefira/ and we have an accepted practice of not listening even to recorded music during the Omer.

However, he is observing the first "half" of the Omer this year and I am observing the second half.

Because I am a younger brother, it is my job to be difficult and his job to be mean to me and this leads to fights. While we are arguing, I, during the first half of the Omer, turn the radio on because I know that music will give me joy and lead to dancing and will stop the argument.

Does he have an obligation to leave the room (to abide by his practice), or must I turn the radio off so I am not creating a michshol even though I am just following my practice?

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    Why are there mourning customs during the sefirah? - because the students of Rabbi Akiva did not show honour to each other. Please consider whether your (hopefully humorous) comment "it is my job to be difficult and his job to be mean to me" is in the spirit of the period. – Avrohom Yitzchok May 18 '17 at 11:31
  • Considering all the different exceptions: that one may turn on music for a second party to benefit (like playing the radio to help soothe a child), that one may play music for practice, the capacity to "vary" which half one is keeping, etc. It would seem like your brother could even turn on the music FOR you, since it would be acceptable for you to listen to. – Isaac Kotlicky May 18 '17 at 14:45
  • @IsaacKotlicky he could turn it on for me and then have to leave I guess. But if I turned it on, would he have to leave? – rosends May 18 '17 at 14:54
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    There's no problem shopping in a store which has music playing during sefirah. Nor does one have to leave the room after turning on the music for a child. I don't see why your brother would have to leave - the music isn't for him. (unless you're deliberately being antagonistic and are only turning on the music to create conflict, in which case, shame on you?) – Isaac Kotlicky May 18 '17 at 14:59
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    so far, the only real answer I have received (offline) is naval b'reshut hatorah. – rosends May 19 '17 at 1:01

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