At every wedding I have attended, I have seen that the Chattan (groom) arrives at the chuppah before the kallah (bride).

Is this a halachic requirement? Please provide both a source as well as the reason for this.

  • Note that a lot of things we do at weddings are minhag and not halacha.
    – ezra
    Feb 21, 2017 at 22:05
  • @ezra Even more of them are neither minhag nor halacha, just people do them because it's socially expected or they've never thought about it.
    – Double AA
    Feb 21, 2017 at 22:08
  • In מהרי"ל הלכות נישואין it describes it that way. It is not concrete proof, as it was done in the Synagogue after davening, so it only makes sense to be done in that order.
    – lionscribe
    Feb 22, 2017 at 6:53

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The Rama (Even HaEzer 55:1) quotes the Ran that the Chuppa is the bride going into the domain of the husband.

So it makes sense for the husband to be there first, so the Chuppah could rightfully be called "his house"

The Nitei Gavriel Nisuin 1 (17:5:11) also quotes the Likkutei Maharich that it's to make it clear that the Kallah realizes who she's marrying.

The Likkutei Maharich also quotes the Zohar which mentions Gershon's answer (that it's derived from the verse "I gave my daughter to this man").

  • So it makes sense for the husband to be there first, so the Chuppah could rightfully be called "his house" Do you have any evidence that simply being there first makes it 'rightfully be called "his house"'?
    – mevaqesh
    Feb 22, 2017 at 5:28
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    @mevaqesh no, that's why I said "it makes sense" - When you take someone into your house, you tend to be there first. Feb 22, 2017 at 6:41
  • What does the order they arrive in have to do with free choice?
    – mevaqesh
    Feb 22, 2017 at 6:43
  • @mevaqesh If she came first, she can claim later than she never intended to get married to this groom. Feb 22, 2017 at 6:49
  • Then why did she accept kiddushin from him?
    – mevaqesh
    Feb 22, 2017 at 6:51

A reason I have heard is that similar to the Chupa of Adam and Chava like is explained in more detail by Rabbi Bernie Fox with the Orthodox Union.

In context, the Torah says that Chava was brought to Adam.

Breishis 2:22

And the Lord God built the side that He had taken from man into a woman, and He brought her to man.


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