Can someone please provide a list of all the kibbudim (honors) available at a Jewish wedding - from the beginning to end, in order.

  • Does signing tenaim count? I don't consider that a kibbud. I think of it more as a waste of everyone's time. – Double AA Nov 13 '16 at 16:33
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    Most consider being the groom to be the highest honor. He's really the center of attention. – Double AA Nov 13 '16 at 17:03
  • Some context judaism.stackexchange.com/questions/66604/… – Double AA Nov 13 '16 at 17:09
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    @MarkA. At the risk of being overly pedantic, divorcing the question from any issue of halakha, mahashava, history of Jewish practice, etc. Potentially reduces it to a question about Jews; not Judaism. These may be interesting, but are not necessarily on topic. – mevaqesh Nov 13 '16 at 19:35

Here's a list based off of personal experience from attending Orhodox weddings. I'm making this a "community wiki" post, so it's easier for others to add to (and, incidentally, so I get no points from votes on it).

  • m'sader kidushin, the (usually) rabbi who runs all the halachically relevant aspects of the wedding and says the kidushin blessing
  • witnesses
    • to kidushin
    • to nisuin (yichud, and in some cases bedekin as well)
    • on the k'suba
    • on the t'naim, if any
  • kohen to bless the couple
  • someone to speak about the couple under the chupa
  • someone to say the sheva b'rachos at the chupa
  • someone to lead birkas hamazon and the sheva b'rachos after the meal
  • someone to read the k'suba (and/or t'naim, if any)
  • someone to walk the person getting married to the chupa, if the parent is unable
  • people to walk to the chupa or stand under/near it

If needed there can be room to split up certain jobs (such as reciting the various sheva b'rachos, the various readings, and even using more than two witnesses at a particular point). You should speak with your rabbi if you seriously need more spots.

  • Oh, oops. The question requested them in order. – msh210 Nov 13 '16 at 21:32

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