Sometimes, in order for one to learn, one must experience the failure of the ideas one believes to be true which are, in fact, not true. If the student in this process is a child or someone under the care of another, this process can sometimes be called "tough love."

Are there any Jewish teachings on this topic?

So, true love is often tough.


Proverbs 13, 24:

יג,כד חוֹשֵׂךְ שִׁבְטוֹ, שׂוֹנֵא בְנוֹ; וְאֹהֲבוֹ, שִׁחֲרוֹ מוּסָר. ‏

He that spareth his rod hateth his son; but he that loveth him chasteneth him betimes.

חושך שבטו. מי שהוא מונע שבטו מהכות בנו ליסרו הוא שונאו כי מפני זה יהיה באין מוסר ומי שהוא אוהבו שחרו מוסר בקטנותו לחנכו במוסר על פי דרכו: (רלב"ג) ‏

Gershonides explains that a father who refrains from punishing his son, this father hates his son because the child will become rude.

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