This is a hypothetical designed to investigate a subtlety of practice and understanding, not elicit a halachic ruling.

I will be attending a morning shiva minyan on Monday. The mourner is a kohen and will be the only kohen present at the davening. I don't know if in that case he is supposed to get the 1st aliyah, but I have read that "If he is called to the Torah by mistake, he may accept." So in this hypothetical, the gabbai mistakenly calls the mourner, who has the aliyah.

I also know that during a shiva, the tradition is not to open the conversation with the mourner or greet him: "A mourner is forbidden to say hello or goodbye; likewise we do not say hello or goodbye to a mourner. We do not say "shalom," or any other greeting" (cited from Shulchan Aruch, YD 385:1 here).

Generally, though, when someone receives an honor during services, such as an aliyah, it is proper to say Yishar Kochacha (or some variant, depending on tradition/pronunciation).

But is that, as a greeting, inappropriate during a shiva? Is the mourner still sitting shiva while he is participating in the service (on a non-Shabbat/holiday) or are the laws suspended (if he is accidentally called for hagbah, can he sit down with the torah in a regular chair)?

  • possible dupe judaism.stackexchange.com/q/60067/759 I see no reason the laws would be suspended during services. What sort of basis for that could there be? It's not Shabbat. Shiva doesn't just stop for no reason. – Double AA Sep 25 '16 at 15:30
  • Re your last comment, Shiva shouldn't be different from Tisha BAv ohr.edu/holidays/tisha_bav/poetry_and_riddles/1103 – Double AA Sep 25 '16 at 16:11
  • As to the first question about suspending shiva, once the person has taken the honor, he is doing something generally not done as part of the shiva and it is allowed. In a sense, some aspect of shiva has been pushed aside. And if he sits in a regular chair after hagba then, again, some element of shiva is not there. Does this same aspect include how one can greet/react to that aliyah? – rosends Sep 25 '16 at 16:56
  • It seems you have four different questions: "Is shiva suspended during weekday davening?" "is [YK], as a greeting, inappropriate during a shiva" "Is the mourner still sitting shiva while he is participating in the service" "if he is accidentally called for hagbah, can he sit down with the torah in a regular chair" I recommend canning the extended hypothetical and asking about each component individually. That way, you can feel confident your case is addressed explicitly, people have a manageable amount of material to cover, and you might find some of the extension questions just fall away. – Double AA Sep 26 '16 at 1:59
  • To start, why not just change this, to asking what the basis of the ruling of the Chabad article is and what the nature of the ability of the mourner's to accept the Aliyah is. Be sure to check out judaism.stackexchange.com/q/60067/759 first. – Double AA Sep 26 '16 at 2:00

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