Say there is another Jew who is being a bully, a mean person or just plain spiteful and angrily argumentative...

I read that harmful or useless speech is a more serious sin than murder yet we all do it at some point.

I have heard anger compared to idolatry as well, if someone is intentionally and with anger or malice speaking to or about a fellow Jew is that like murdering and worshipping idols?

Likewise if a person who claims to be Jewish harassed or has taken joy in belittling or hurting the feelings of another human being, how then should we deal with such a person?

Sometimes we can't avoid people like this, they show up everywhere and there is always one in every crowd.

How then does one handle the situation appropriately and decently when faced with such people?

How can we help people who act this way to grow past their anger and stop hurting others when all they do, sometimes everything that they do or say makes people seriously upset or angry?

How do we ourselves avoid falling into the trap of sinking to the levels of doing such things like this ourselves when faced with a mean, angry, spiteful, lying or back stabbing individual?

When someone hurts us and we want to take the eye for an eye what do we need to know as Jews to be a bigger person so that instead of yelling at someone for yelling we can make better choices about how to handle these things?

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    הֱוֵי מִתְפַּלֵּל בִּשְׁלוֹמָהּ שֶׁל מַלְכוּת , שֶׁאִלְמָלֵא מוֹרָאָהּ, אִישׁ אֶת רֵעֵהוּ חַיִּים בָּלָעוּ.
    – user6591
    Aug 24, 2016 at 23:38
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    I think this question would be a great deal more answerable if you'd edit it to be sharper. "How bad is it," by itself, is pretty much impossible to answer definitively, since readers don't know on what scale of "badness" to judge. The following yes/no question about whether it's equivalent to idolatry and anger is much sharper; that part could be improved if you'd add in more about what you mean by "Idolatry Bad like being angry is," preferably by describing your source for that concept.
    – Isaac Moses
    Aug 25, 2016 at 17:07
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    If the goal of this post is to advance a point rather than to ask for information, as the language "isn't that ..." and some of these comments seem to indicate, then it won't work well as a productive question post. I encourage you to take a look at judaism.stackexchange.com/help/dont-ask for some general points on what types of posts don't work well as question posts.
    – Isaac Moses
    Aug 26, 2016 at 1:52
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    @IsaacMoses I think the question is too broad at this point.
    – Double AA
    Aug 26, 2016 at 4:37
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    @RebeccaBurns can you pare this down to one clear question that's clearly about Judaism? I understand that it can be frustrating to go through many edit cycles, but what we're all trying to do is to work together to make sure that we end up with a clear, answerable question that will then attract clear, useful answers, all of which will be maintained permanently on Mi Yodeya as a resource for others on the Internet who are interested in similar issues. This tour might be useful in describing the Q&A rubric Mi Yodeya is built on.
    – Isaac Moses
    Aug 26, 2016 at 5:01


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