Let's say I wanted to set up a kitchen/home that was kosher enough for most of the Orthodox spectrum to feel comfortable eating and staying in. (By "most," let's say the first two standard deviations of that spectrum, imagining for a second that it were a normal distribution.)* How would I go about doing that? What types of special considerations would there be?

Some I can think of:

  • Possibly keeping cholov stam and/or non-Chabad* meat and/or pas palter and/or non-"big five" hechshers out of the kitchen (not sure which of these, if any, are necessary)
  • Possibly keeping countertops and fridge shelves separate for milk/meat (not sure if necessary)
  • Not having pets (not sure if necessary but probably helpful)
  • Having separate beds in the bedrooms, mezuzos on all doors
  • Having negel vasser sets in the bedrooms
  • Not having obviously objectionable art/magazines/books or controversial seforim lying around

Secondarily: Would there be halachic grounds for them to take my word that I had done all this? (Assume I am a shomer Shabbos, shomer kashrus adult Jew.)

Related: What is the basis for eating in someone's house without a kashrut certificate?


*Put another way, I would like to be able to host Lubavitchers and some other Hasidim--not the strictest in either group, and not during Pesach--for Shabbos, for example. (If you wonder why I didn't just ask, "How can I make my home kosher enough for Lubavitchers to eat and stay in?," it's not because that's not functionally equivalent, but because that wording doesn't as accurately reflect my goal. Additionally, I think the question as titled is of more general interest.)

closed as too broad by sabbahillel, Isaac Moses, rosends, DanF, Gershon Gold Jun 28 '16 at 20:57

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    If you use Chabad meat, people who hold mainly like the Star K won't eat by you AFAIR. I believe that R' Heinemann doesn't like to rely on Chabad hashgachot as they may be lenient on meshichists, whose shechita he is said to hold to be treif. – Noach MiFrankfurt Jun 28 '16 at 3:29
  • The question is very difficult. The question is what will lead Orthoprax people to trust the place. Some people wand garantie, mashgiach. They do not know who was here before them. If they has trust in you, so they believe that you are already all Kasher. In dmay, there are some mishnayot on this topic. May be good to edit. – kouty Jun 28 '16 at 5:47
  • It's hard to understand the question. If you are Shomer Shabbos and Shomer Kashrus, people will trust you, and you can ask them for any specifics they personally require (e.g special hechsherim). If you are not, then halacha doesn't trust a person and then buying in special products/ changing your home will not help. – Miriam Jun 28 '16 at 15:08
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    I went with the consensus to VTC as "too broad". General suggestions, though - Separate the food concerns from the lodging concerns when you discuss "kosher". Also, concentrate on the group of people you will invite for a particular meal. Ask them, in advance what foods / kashrut, etc. they like, and shop for just that occasion. Your use of another kashrut standard (assuming that it's SOME reliable kashrut) does not traif up your home, no matter what any of your guests might say. If they don't want to come despite your invite, you can't force an invitation. Find someone else who is happy. – DanF Jun 28 '16 at 16:58
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    @SAH I have to trust your stats. It's been a long time since I took a statistics course, so I don't recall well enough how standard deviations work. BTW, I'm not discounting your concerns. I am well aware that people fuss about where and with whom they eat, and I validate their concerns, even if I may disagree with the particulars. From my experience as a "chef" and host, it is almost impossible to accommodate everyone or even most, regardless of what you do, and I also don't think the effort is worthwhile. Most food stringencies can be accommodated a few days before guests' arrival. – DanF Jun 30 '16 at 15:11