It is a mitzvah to beg for forgiveness on the eve of Yom Kippur from those you have wronged in the previous year. As I understand it, this is necessary at once as a practical tikkun; as a necessary component of our teshuvah/atonement; and as a prerequisite to our forgiveness by G-d on Yom Kippur.
If it seemed (a) possible or (b) probable that asking someone in a particular case for forgiveness would result in shame to them, should one do it? I understand that doing so would undermine the first intended result of this mitzvah (that is, it would preclude ritzui and piyus on a practical level), but it might all the same enable fulfillment of the other two results--or simply be required by halacha anyway. Is it? Why or why not?
(I am leaving aside the fact that asking for forgiveness would in this case lead to other halachic violations in light of the principle that a positive mitzvah usually takes precedence over a competing negative mitzvah.)