What are the three items in which one must listen to his wife (because it's divinely inspired)? I forget what they are but I heard them in a shiur. I think it's sourced in the gemarah.

Something like where to live, business and a third item?

  • This reminds me of the line you hear in some Jewish schools: "In our culture, every day is Mother's Day and Father's Day."
    – Isaac Moses
    Jun 1, 2016 at 0:45
  • isn't it the opposite? - 3 things you should not listen
    – ray
    Jun 1, 2016 at 11:06
  • I'm surmising that one of them is regarding when someone is a bad influence on your child. Per Sarah's advice to Abraham to chase out Hagar and Ishmael, to which G-d says, listen to Sarah.
    – DanF
    Jun 1, 2016 at 19:37

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Somewhat similar is in Gemara Berachot: The wife knows to diagnose

‏{‏ מלכים ב ד-ט ‏}‏ ותאמר אל אישה הנה נא ידעתי כי איש אלהים קדוש הוא א''ר יוסי בר' חנינא מכאן שהאשה מכרת באורחין יותר מן האיש.‏

And she said unto her husband: Behold now, I perceive that he is a holy man of God.

Rabbi Jose Berabbi Hanina said: You learn from this that a woman recognizes the character of a guest better than a man.'


another source Baba Mezi'a 59a

from which you can understand that 2 things might be regarding household affairs and/or secular questions

Rab also said: He who follows his wife's counsel will descend 14 into Gehenna, for it is written, But there was none like unto Ahab [which did sell himself to work wickedness in the sight of the Lord, whom Jezebel his wife stirred up].15 R. papa objected to Abaye: But people say, If your wife is short, bend down and hear her whisper! — There is no difficulty: the one refers to general matters; the other to household affairs.16 Another version: the one refers to religious matters, the other to secular questions.
14 Lit., 'fall'.
15 I Kings, XXI, 25; thus Ahab's downfall is ascribed to his action in allowing himself to be led astray by Jezebel.
16 A man should certainly consult his wife on the latter, but not on the former, — not a disparagement of woman; her activities lying mainly in the home.

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