B'H I'm getting married in a few months and my fiancée waits 3 hours between meat and milk and I wait 6.

In general, does a wife take on all the customs of her husband? In my example, would she have to take on the custom of waiting 6 hours too? Or can she maintain her custom and wait 3 hours between meat and milk?

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Rav Moshe Feinstein (Igros Moshe 1:158) rules that the wife takes the customs of the husband whether they are more lenient or more strict:

האשה צריכה להתנהג כמנהג הבעל בין לחומרא בין לקולא

This is the same as with anyone that moves to a different place and plans to stay there, that he keeps the customs of that place (Shulchan Aruch YD 214:2).

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