My husband is muktzeh (he was born in the eighth month and is now nineteen). Our marriage is going well. However, sometimes on the three-day Yom Tov it becomes difficult that neither I nor anyone else can p̶a̶s̶s̶ ̶h̶i̶m̶ ̶t̶h̶i̶n̶g̶s̶ pass him to things at the table. Is there any solution for this?
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3 days of no passing seems not too bad compared to Niddah...– Double AA ♦Mar 11, 2016 at 5:31
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@DoubleAA Right but it's not only me! No one can pass anything to him! He sits alone.– SAHMar 11, 2016 at 5:31
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1ask him to pass to you– rayMar 11, 2016 at 12:01
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2I think this is misrepresenting the Halacha. Because he's muktzeh you can't move him, but you still may pass him items without physically moving his hand. In PTIJ, everything but the subject of the joke should be accurate. Perhaps it's your three year old who's muktzeh and likes to tantrum ; )– LN6595Mar 11, 2016 at 20:27
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3@SAH You can touch muktza if you don't move it (eg. a very big heavy item)– Double AA ♦Mar 11, 2016 at 20:56
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From RaMBa"M's Hilchot Milah - Chapter 1
Halacha 13
Nevertheless, if such an infant remains alive for thirty days, he is considered to be a child who will live and is governed by all the same rules as other infants.
From this, I gather that since your husband is muktzeh, he must be younger than 30 days old (your question says he's 19, so I'm assuming you mean 19 days old). Since you are implying that you are not muktzeh you must be older than 30 days old, but I will assume that you are also somewhere close to this age range so that things aren't as creepy.
As it turns out, since your husband is so young, you can't really be married after all. While the kiddushin can happen at a very young age, the minimum age for a marriage to take effect is 13 for boys and 12 for girls. So simply don't worry about it. Go play with your mommy and daddy for a few more years and then you can safely marry your husband when he turns 13 without any concern for him being muktzeh.
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Rashi: "It is necessary to wait twenty years in order to determine that the person is fit to live and that he is not a Nefel, a stillborn."– SAHMar 11, 2016 at 20:12
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(Trust me, if there were any doubt about it, my husband would be circumcised by now.)– SAHMar 11, 2016 at 20:19
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@hazoriz Yes, note what I said in the answer. You can do kiddushin at a very young age, but she is not considered married until the age of 12. At that time, she has the option of selecting mi'un and the marriage is retroactively annulled.– DanielMar 1, 2017 at 19:45
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If someone that is not her husband has relations with her (I guess after she is 3) does he not get killed? (But if she was not married then he does not)– hazorizMar 1, 2017 at 19:46
As someone who was born on the 9th day of the eighth month of the seventh year (of this century) of the sixth millenium (9 Cheshvan, 5707) I can understand your problem. Even if your husband is muktzah you do not have a problem.
First, being muktzah just means that you would not be allowed to move him from one place to another. Thus, you would not be allowed to pick him up and pass him to someone else. You would be allowed to pass to him other items at the table or to put something down next to him so that he can pick it up.
Second, since the two of you are married, he is a Kli shemelachto l'heter. Thus it is mutar to move him letzoraech gufo or letzorech mekomo. You would also be allowed to move him letzorech mitzvah. Thus oneg shabbos or oneg yom tov would also be allowed. This allows any of the things that are part of the oneg including those actions that require you to move or touch him.
answered Mar 11, 2016 at 21:19
