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If I am a guest at a big Shabbos dinner at which the host makes kiddush out loud at the head of the table, but does not pass wine from his cup or bottle, what should I do in order to be yotzei the kiddush? Should I:
- Pour my own cup before he starts saying the blessing, say "Amen" in response to his blessing, and then drink from my cup?
- Pour my own cup before he starts saying the blessing, say my own kiddush over my own cup, and then drink from my cup?
- ...Would it be l'chatchila acceptable to pour a cup (from wine on the table) after he has finished saying kiddush and I have said "Amen," and drink from that without making a new blessing?
- When I pour my cup, does it need to contain a full revi'it?
- Does any of this change if I am a single woman?