A friend stumped me with this question: What is the earliest reference to the custom of having newlyweds dip their hallah in honey? My guess is that it's an extension from the custom of honey on Rosh haShana... Any ideas?

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    Such a practice (if it's at all widespread) doesn't have any basis in Judaism, TTBOMK. Do you have any reason to think this is a "custom" which would achieve reference in any work?
    – Double AA
    Feb 11, 2016 at 23:25
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    @DoubleAA lots of people do it.
    – Daniel
    Feb 12, 2016 at 14:20
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    @DoubleAA If it's widespread among (some communities of) observant Jews, that's sufficient reason to investigate whether it's grounded in sources. That's a component of the Aruch Hashulchan's approach, isn't it?
    – Isaac Moses
    Feb 12, 2016 at 14:21
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    I have never heard of this custom, and can not even find a current reference for such. Feb 12, 2016 at 15:13
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    @IsaacMoses I didn't say the question is bad, though it could use support for how we know it's at all common (eg. "I saw this a few times"). I said I'm pretty certain the answer it has nothing to do with Judaism. See too this question judaism.stackexchange.com/q/22158/759 which is a valid question with an answer that says "this has nothing to do with Judaism".
    – Double AA
    Feb 12, 2016 at 15:34

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I checked through the Nitei Gavriel on Nisuin and there is no mention of such a Minhag. I personally have also never heard or seen such a custom.

The closest I found is the Rokeach 353 who mentions that after the Brachos of the Chuppa they give the Chassan and Kallah honey and cheese to eat based on the verse (Shir Hashirim 4:11) "Devash Vchalav Tachas Lshonaich" דבש וחלב תחת לשונך

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