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What is a common blessing given to the bar mitzvah boy when attending his bar mitzvah?

What is a common blessing given to the friends and family of the bar mitzvah boy when attending a bar mitzvah?

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    Mazal Tov? (15 char) Feb 11, 2016 at 14:24
  • Survey says...?
    – Y K
    Dec 8, 2016 at 14:48
  • Boruch shepaterani? Dec 8, 2016 at 14:53

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Mazal Tov, may you give your parents much nachas, May you have a lot of nachas from your son, In Chabad: may you grow to be a chassid, yorei shomayim v'lamdon

Or you can make your own unique brachah. No one's judging you

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    Also Chabad: May you grow to be a חי''ל.
    – ezra
    Apr 7, 2017 at 17:29
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Keep in mind that there is no halachic requirement to make any type of celebration for a Bar Mitzvah. The day comes, and, the boy is now obligated to perform all mitzvoth and becomes responsible for his actions. Technically, no one needs to even "cheer" about it in any way, though, of course it is a nice action. That's from the halachic view.

In my shul, the Rabbi does the following:

He reads a blessing that I believe is found in a book called "Hamdrich" a.ka. the Gabbai's Guide (I'll try to get you the exact title and publisher in a day or so),

Essentially, the blessing wishes that the boy mature in Torah learning and the performance of good deeds. He should be an asset to his parents, friends and the Jewish community. He then concludes with the Priest blessing (from Bamidbar).

There is no blessing to the parents. I think that the blessing given to the Bar Mitzvah boy, esp. the part that he becomes an asset to the parents IS a blessing to the parents, in a sense. However, the rabbi asks the parents to say Shehechiyanu.

As for the friends, family and guests, as well as the Bar Mitzvah boy and parents, the rabbi makes 3 blessings for them to which they answer "Amen":

  • Borei pri Hagefen (Shabbat Kiddush)
  • Al Netilat Yadayim (washing hands)
  • Hamotzi Lechem min Ha'aretz (before cutting the challah)
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    FWIW I rarely see Challah at a Bar Mitzva.
    – Double AA
    Feb 11, 2016 at 16:13
  • @DoubleAA What can I say? We have a "fancy" shul. Keep in mind that it's for Shabbat "lunch", so the challah makes sense. It's more for Shabbat than it is for the Bar Mitzvah. Unfortunately, about 98% of it gets dumped. It's mainly for show.
    – DanF
    Feb 11, 2016 at 16:21
  • @DanF "I believe is found in a book called "Hamdrich" a.ka. the Gabbai's Guide (I'll try to get you the exact title and publisher in a day or so)". My question: Is this the exact title? Where can one get this? Who is the author?
    – ninamag
    Aug 30, 2018 at 4:25
  • @ninamag I'll try to remember to ask the rabbi. Though, I sense that a Google image search will find it, as well.
    – DanF
    Aug 30, 2018 at 14:23

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