I have been told that there are good books for helping understand how to improve the respect I can give my significant other. I have found a few online stores, but was wondering what sort of books I should be looking for?
When I was engaged, I read R' Volve's מאמרי הדרכה לחתנים and R' Chaim Friedlander's וידעת כי שלום אהלך. I re-read both of them after being married, and gained much more from them at that point. They address your topic of respect, as well as other important fundamentals of being a good husband. If you're up for Hebrew reading, they are both great places to start.
Here are three books on Jewish marriage and respect between spouses which I would recommend, out of many I read
- Made in Heaven: A Jewish Wedding Guide by R Aryeh Kaplan -- in my view the best guide to a Jewish wedding and through this to building the foundations of a strong Jewish couple
- The Jewish Way in Love & Marriage by R Maurice Lamm which also available online here -- very accessible
- Dear son: a father's wise guidance for wholesome human relationship, a happy marriage, and a serene home by Eliyohu Goldschmidt -- written by a father for his son (the same exists for a woman, called Dear daughter)
There are several. Some of the best probably are the following:
The Menuchah Principle in Marriage: The Pathway to Shalom Bayis (Judaica Press, 2010) by Shaya Ostrov
The Garden of Peace: A Marital Guide for Men Only (Diamond Press, 2008) by Rabbi Shalom Arush
A Man's Responsibility: A Jewish Guide to Being a Son, a Partner in Marriage, a Father and a Community Leader (Jewish Lights, 2008) by Rabbi Joseph B. Meszler
Shalom Bayis For The Jewish Husband by Rabbi Jeff Forsythe (online here)