My boys are approaching the "shidduch" stage. I am very new to this area and other than the bits that I have red from various M.Y. questions and some items that I read in local Jewish papers, I profess huge ignorance regarding proper protocols and terminology.
Some things that I DO know within the Orthodox community in NY area (and I assume that other U.S. communities have little, if any, differences):
- Use of a shidduch "resume"
- "New" terminology (for me, at least) such as FTP and "in the parsha"
- A boy should not compliment the girl on anything during the shidduch (something I saw on a M.Y. question. I don't agree with it, but, I guess that's protocol.)
Has someone compiled a guide or manual regarding proper behavior / protocol for boys and girls? It doesn't matter if it's a paper guide (preferred) or online source. However. I'd like it to come from reliable source(s), based on halacha from a respected rav - not merely hearsay or something coming from a shadchan, I haven't heard of.
I'd prefer a compilation rather than having to hunt through a number of sources all over the web.