I understand that a wife has a conjugal rights depending on the occupation of the husband (2 times a week, 1 time a week, on Friday night, one time a month, 1 time in 6 months, 1 time a year)

And that if she does not receive it she can demand a divorce

Does this include when the man gets old, (can not tie his sandal while standing on one foot) And physically can not perform his obligation.

Sources and/or details please, thank you

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    "can not tie his sandal standing on one foot". "can not tie his sandal standing on one foot". Nope. Repeating it doesn't help. – msh210 Oct 8 '15 at 2:16
  • @msh210 I do not understand? – hazoriz Oct 8 '15 at 2:19
  • a lead here. jewishvaluesonline.org/420 especially Rabbi Stuart Grant's answer – ray Oct 8 '15 at 6:00
  • @DannySchoemann Is there a difference between old and sick regarding this law? – hazoriz Oct 8 '15 at 12:15

Short answer: No, the wife of an old fellow cannot demand a divorce.

Sources and/or details

You are only quoting half the requirements - occupation. Health also plays a role. See Shulchan Aruch, Even HaEzer סימן עו - חיוב עונה for the full details.

א: עוֹנָתָהּ כֵּיצַד, כָּל אִישׁ חַיָּב בְּעוֹנָה כְּפִי כֹּחוֹ וּכְפִי מְלַאכְתּוֹ. וְהַטַּיָּלִים, עוֹנָתָם בְּכָל לַיְלָה

Conjugal rights: Each person's obligation depends on his health and his occupation. E.g. הַטַּיָּלִים - healthy, wealthy people who have nothing much to do all day except stroll around leisurely - their wives deserve their conjugal rights nightly.

My translation of הַטַּיָּלִים is per the באר היטב who clarifies as per the טור:

לילה. היינו אדם בטל שאין לו מלאכה והוא ברי' ומעונג ואינו פורע מס ואינו הולך בדרך

In other words, your first sentence should read: a wife has a conjugal rights depending on the health and occupation of the husband.

  • @doubleDD From doubleDD comment above I see that if he gets old and can not do once in 6 months then the wife can demand a divorce, is this correct? judaism.stackexchange.com/a/17461/5120 – hazoriz Oct 8 '15 at 10:07
  • @hazoriz - correct. I think this question is actually a dup of that one (judaism.stackexchange.com/a/17461/501) now that I have read it. – Danny Schoemann Oct 8 '15 at 12:08
  • So any old man's wife can demand a divorce (we can not say that it is usnal that he will loose his power when he gets older, and his wife was aware of this and agreed (forgave his responsibility (so she will not be able to demand a divorce)) to say married in such a case), so it is good advice that before a Jew gets married he makes the condition with his bride that if he gets older she will not demand a divorce? – hazoriz Oct 8 '15 at 12:14
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    @hazoriz No, it is not good advice. If she wants to leave, let her leave. That's good advice. – Double AA Oct 8 '15 at 13:42
  • @DoubleAA very nice, but money is an issue also (kesuba and maybe nedunya), the advice will help the man keep his money, since "she wants to leave" – hazoriz Oct 8 '15 at 17:13

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