I have a personal question for which I need the advice of a posek who is experienced in answering questions about Sholom Bayis and who has expertise with medical issues regarding sexual dysfunction. My personal rabbi does not understand these issues and I would prefer to speak with someone who does. To whom can I turn with my personal question?

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    @Daniel "are there sources for allowing cross dressing as a way to enhance marital relations" and/or "is cross dressing deoraita or derabanan" – andrewmh20 Jul 28 '15 at 14:24
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    "Because of the possibility of special leniency for the purpose of Sholom Bayis" That's exactly why asking someone who doesn't know you is a TERRIBLE idea. They have to know you to understand what is needed. Please please find a rabbi you know and trust so that they can help you. – Double AA Jul 28 '15 at 14:38
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    I'm very sorry you have to deal with such a struggle. It's is certainly essential to have a rabbi who is understanding of psychological issues. It is likewise essential to have a psychologist who is understanding of cultural issues. In fact, if they cannot be the same person, it would be good if they could be able to communicate effectively with each other. I can't say that I can personally recommend anyone off hand. Can I suggest getting in contact with figures in the rabbinic-psychology world... – Loewian Jul 28 '15 at 15:49
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    @Alan If your personal rabbi isn't qualified to answer he will direct you elsewhere. And he should stay in contact with the 'elsewhere' to help the 'elsewhere' fully understand the particulars of your situation. There's no reason to ever cut him out of the loop. – Double AA Jul 28 '15 at 15:55
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    Moderator note: I have put this question on hold temporarily until @Alan returns and comments on the changes to the question. Alan, if you agree with the change to a "how do I find?" question, just say the word and the first moderator who sees it can reopen. If, instead, you want to ask about the halacha of the specific issue you raised, please edit accordingly and the community will review. I'm sorry for the extra hassle; before people start posting answers we want to make sure they're answering the question you want to ask, hence putting on hold temporarily. – Monica Cellio Jul 29 '15 at 15:27