Upon leaving a mourner (when one visits him / her during shiva), one says:

המקום ינחם אתכם בתוך שאר אבילי ציון וירושלים

"May G-d comfort you among the mourners of Zion and Jerusalem"

Since during Tish'a B'av, we are ALL mourners of Zion and Jerusalem, would or should we say this to any / everyone we meet?

I have not seen this done, so perhaps this is inappropriate or maybe there is some other reason why this is not commonly done. If this IS done, who / what group of people have this minhag?

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    Ashkenazim, at least, don't usually offer consolation (נחם) on Tisha b'Av till the afternoon, as we don't give consolation (including המקום...) to mourners while the deceased is still in front of them. – Double AA Jul 24 '15 at 18:13
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    @DoubleAA Wow! I didn't think of this excellent angle! If you can find a source to support this, please post as a great answer! "Hamakom Yenachem" to you (and us). – DanF Jul 24 '15 at 18:19
  • @DoubleAA True, but I haven't seen anyone say "Hamakom..." in the afternoon, either, AFAIR. – msh210 Jul 24 '15 at 19:14
  • @msh210 Me neither. I offered a partial explanation. – Double AA Jul 24 '15 at 19:15
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    @DoubleAA I remember seeing a comment that when two people are sitting shiva, one mourner does not say hamakom to one of the other mourners. The prayer of nachem in mincha is a request to Hashem by the mourner. As a result, we should not say hamakom to a fellow mourner. Since I do not have a source, I am leaving this a comment. – sabbahillel Jul 24 '15 at 23:14

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