Are the halochos (laws) about observing mourning rituals for a relative (e.g., shiva, shloshim, etc.), affected in any way by the state of the relationship between the mourner and deceased before his death?

A particular case might be if the two had been estranged for many years before the death.

(Note: If such a situation affects you in real life, do not rely on any advice you read online. Instead, contact an Orthodox rabbi directly.)

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    Welcome to Mi Yodeya! Can you edit your question to make it less personal? We try to avoid practical halachic questions. You might also want to see "Why is it necessary to ask a rabbi?" for more info. We hope to see you around!
    – Scimonster
    Dec 25, 2014 at 16:44
  • I have seen people visit the grave of someone that they had a dispute with to daven for them and for resolution of the dispute. Even if you are in the right it is better to end the dispute before it is no longer possible. Consider that a kohen is required to be metameh for the seven immediate relatives. For those who are not yet in this situation please speak to a rav who can help. Dec 25, 2014 at 19:08
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    If he is he alive, no. You are not supposed to sit shiva for someone who is alive. Otherwise, yes.
    – Fred
    Dec 25, 2014 at 21:16
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    ...although you should of course consult a knowledgeable rabbi regarding the specifics of your case, since certain details could affect the law.
    – Fred
    Dec 25, 2014 at 21:55
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    – MTL
    Dec 25, 2014 at 23:33


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