Black is always elegant. Always. Simple is best.
Infinity scarves come in a variety of materials but the easiest ones to use are the stretchy kind. I have a few hundred scarves and they stay in the drawer most of the time.
The only ones I actually wear all the time are believe it or not, from the dollar store.
I have a plain black cotton infinity scarf that I paid three dollars for and I can wear more than a few interesting ways.
Firstly it can be put over your head, turned once and looped over again to create an elegant look that leaves a little hair showing. This looks swoopy and has a lovely flowing look.
I also have wrapped it tight from that style into a turban like look just to get everything off my neck on a hot day.
Sometimes I will cover my head with the scarf and pull it tight around my bunned ponytail looping it like a scrunchie hair tie. It's not a fancy look but it's practical for covering everything nice and tight.
From doing this with a plain cotton scarf I then have the freedom to put a hat on as if the scarf were my own hair.
I have a few cute hats, a beret, a saucy little derby and one little felt cap that has some pretty little feathers and a bow but honestly let's be real I actually throw on my camouflage ball cap when we go hiking with this style most often.
Tying on a stretchy infinity scarf gives you the same hat options you have without the cover because it acts like your own hair.
Back to the first way of wearing the scarf, sometimes I wear two. For example I do the third style with plain black and then I have a gorgeous long flowery looking scarf I casually wrap around not worrying about what shows because I have the black one on under it. I also have a collection of super cute non stretchy infinity scarves including one full of stars that I absolutely adore.
But my best advice is just play with it. Have fun. Go get some scarves that are neutral and match your favorite clothes. Play with your look until you love it and own it.
Really what you feel good in is the best way for you to go.
If you can't get the hang of infinity scarves don't worry, I also went to an African store which surprisingly sold very cute kippot that fit my son and they often sell what looks like the knee to the thigh of a pair of stretchy slacks. These are my go to when I don't feel like messing around with scarves.
The reason why I'm telling you what they look like is that after buying every print they had I still didn't have a plain black one and plain black is my thing.
You can easily cut off the leg of a pair of tights and sew it at the knee and thigh to make this easy head cover.
I love to sew and maybe one day I'll whip out a pattern for sewing one from new materials.
I really wish I could show you pictures of all my styles and how easy it is to cover up and look smart.
Best of all aside from being modest and all the benefits of modesty, your hair will thank you. With less environmental toxins, sun bleaching etc. My hair is now healthy and starting to curl again naturally.
For all the efforts, time and money women put into their hair just to abuse it with blow-dryers, curling irons, straighteners, dyes, sprays and Junk it is just so much easier, fun and practical to cover with scarves.
This is my second year covering my hair every day, it takes a while to figure it out , just keep playing with your style, keep it simple, keep it modest. . . And if all else fails pins are your friend. An elegant broach will keep any unruly scarf in place especially on a windy day walking to the shul.
I've got one that says "Mother" and a lovely gold rose. Make your look your own. Don't worry about fitting in, you're Jewish be "Set Apart" and be yourself.
Hope you have fun trying out some of my scarf styles yourself !