It seems that all my local shadchanim require a shiduch "resume". I am really new to this concept, and so are my kids. I looked at some samples, and I don't understand some of the abbreviations, technical terms, etiquette and protocol involved in designing a shidduch resume. Has someone written a book or article that can guide me through this process?
One good website:
Writing a resume is not a perfect science; you can modify it to fit your personality, background, and hashkafic approach. In general, if you want to put something on the resume, you may; if you don't want to, you don't need to. It may be very helpful to get a hold of several resumes from friends who are similar to you and creating one off of those. People are generally happy to email their resumes when asked.
I also recommend you ask a friend who has a child (of the opposite gender) in shidduchim to look over the resume. She will probably be able to tell you what the profile means to a boy's/girl's mother.
If you have specific questions, such as definitions of key terms or abbreviations, please post them.
Great question! There's a lot of talk about and demand for the "shidduch resume" and it can be hard to figure the ins and outs.
My wife is an experienced dating coach and took it upon herself to write the most comprehensive article on the subject available online: https://d8gr8.com/shidduch-resume-ultimate-guide/.
Here's an outline of what's covered:
Shidduch Resume Outline, The 5 Critical Elements
While you want to make sure the entire resume is solid, the absolutely key areas to optimize are the picture, the demographics, and your bio. Many, if not most, people that see your resume won’t go beyond those. If these aren’t solid, readers are not likely to read the rest.
Best of success!!
I assume you've written the resume by now :) But just to add that I noticed a great blog about writing a shidduch resume, from Miriam Zeitlin - I found the examples really helpful, she shared a full resume for a boy and girl, with great pointers. May the process go smoothly for all!