I've seen prayer shawls for girls available on the internet e.g. for Bat Mitzvah. I'm not sure what to think of it or if I'm comfortable with it. Can a woman wear a prayer shawl, and if so under what circumstances?

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    Hello Sternchen and welcome to Mi Yodeya. I've made an edit to your question to make it more objectively answerable (as opposed to an opinion poll, which doesn't fit the Stack Exchange format). If I've inadvertantly changed your intent, please edit further. Thanks. Oct 4, 2013 at 13:00
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    related: judaism.stackexchange.com/q/28676/472 Oct 4, 2013 at 14:04
  • related: kolech.com/show.asp?id=18650 Oct 4, 2013 at 16:28
  • @CharlesKoppelman That author doesn't seem to know her stuff. The Bavli mentions the opinion of the Tanna Kama from the Yerushalmi on Menachot 43a, and her questions about ksut layla and lav hanitak le'aseh are dealt with already by many rishonim (see Tosfot Erchin 3b and Menachot 40b to start). Very unimpressive scholarship.
    – Double AA
    Oct 4, 2013 at 16:48
  • @DoubleAA, re: "Very unimpressive scholarship," I was going to refer you to this ToI opinion and the linked essay, but it appears that's not the problem in this case.
    – Seth J
    Oct 4, 2013 at 18:04

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The Torah commands to attach tassels (or "fringes") to the edges of any four-cornered garments we must wear; however this only applies during the day, not night. This makes it a "yes-do" command that's limited in time. The rule of thumb for this category of commandments (which also includes shofar, lulav, and the like) is that women aren't obligated in them; however it would be meritorious for them to choose to do so. Sephardic women do not recite a blessing on such actions, Ashkenazic women do.

When it comes to prayer shawls, however, there was one opinion from the Talmudic era that because it's an item of clothing, it inherently becomes "a man's garb" and prohibited for women to wear. (The Torah prohibits cross-dressing.) We generally don't follow that opinion, but it is a cautionary note. Many are of the opinion, however, that the standard black-and-white model may be problematic as "men's garb", so something more feminine-looking is preferable.

The biggest issues are what we'd call the "meta" concerns. Is a woman wearing this saying "G-d I'm not actually obligated to do this, but I like doing something extra", as part of a well-balanced range of religious activities, or is this a big political statement to show everyone else that there are no differences between men and women?

In short, if a woman wants to wear a prayer shawl:

  • Don't make a blessing on it if you're Sephardic.
  • A feminine-looking shawl is better than the standard kind.
  • Think about how it fits into your general religious life.
  • Wearing it in private is probably best; you won't ruffle any feathers that way, and it will challenge you to ask yourself to what extent you're doing this for the sake of being seen by others.
  • It would be best to stipulate "I am not pledging to do this on an ongoing basis." (If I establish a regular pattern of meritorious activity, that could be construed as pledging to G-d to continue it, unless I specify otherwise.)

Good luck!

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    Do you have a source for the recommendation to wear it in private or is it just sensible advice?
    – WAF
    Oct 4, 2013 at 10:07
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    @WAF I recall Rav Moshe Feinstein discussing the no-political-statement point, but I think the in-private is just advice given today's environment. I can't think of a source off-hand.
    – Shalom
    Oct 4, 2013 at 12:46
  • No such opinion exists in the Talmud. However, I can't think of any reason the black stripe version is not for sure a man's garb and prohibited.
    – Double AA
    Oct 4, 2013 at 13:52
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    @DoubleAA It's the Targum Yonasan Deut. 22:5: לא יהיה גוליין דציצית ותפילין דהינון תקוני גבר על איתא . Thank you, I've changed it from "A Talmudic opinion" to "An opinion from the Talmudic era." ("From the folks who brought you the Talmud"?)
    – Shalom
    Oct 4, 2013 at 14:08
  • @Shalom Indeed it is. Definitely don't use "From the folks who brought you the Talmud". It's highly unlikely those folks would have approved of that commentary much. cf. judaism.stackexchange.com/a/10977/759
    – Double AA
    Oct 4, 2013 at 14:14

I've shared your reaction in the past. Interestingly enough, it seems that Posekim in the last century (who disapproved of women wearing one at all) preferred that if a woman were to wear one, she wear one that is distinctively feminine in its design.

I cannot pull all the necessary sources at the moment, but the basics are as follows:

The Shulhan 'Aruch writes that:

Women and slaves are exempt [from wearing tzitzit] because it is a time-dependent commandment.

The RaM"A adds:

And if they wish to wrap [in tzitzit] and say the blessing on them it is up to them to do so as with all time-dependent commandments (Tosafot and the Rosh and the Ran, Chapter 2, Rosh Hashanah, First Chapter of Kiddushin). Unless they are doing it to appear more observant than others in which case they may not wear them since they are not required as men are (Agur Section 27).

This point about false piety is taken very seriously by R' Moshe Feinstein, who stated that there are clearly multiple issues at play. Since women are exempt, their decision to adopt the Mitzvah needs to be done for the sake of the Mitzvah, not for the sake of being like a man. In a similar vein, since women are exempt, the very nature of the act of donning a garment for a Mitzvah in which only men are obligated kinda makes that garment a masculine garment by definition. As such, a truly pious woman, who decides to do the Mitzvah for the sake of Heaven, ought to wear only a garment that is clearly feminine in its design.

RM"F comes down strongly against women doing it at all, since most women who did so, by and large, were part of movements pushing women's egalitarianism, while at the same time pushing aside most Torah observance that was actually required; today, I personally still think he would oppose women's performance of the Mitzvah (except, perhaps, in exceedingly rare instances), even among women who keep Halachah, since, again, most women who want to do it are doing so in an effort to push egalitarianism much more than for the sake of the Mitzvah. But, again, if a woman were to do it, he'd require her to wear a feminine-looking garment.

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    I recommend de-jargonifying, especially given the jargon level in the question.
    – Isaac Moses
    Oct 4, 2013 at 14:59
  • I would change "appear" to "feel".
    – Double AA
    Oct 4, 2013 at 15:05
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    Although your analysis of Rav Moshe's opinions were he alive today may be true, I think the underlying assumption that most women who want to do it are doing so in an effort to push egalitarianism much more than for the sake of the Mitzvah is entirely inaccurate. (However, that may be an accurate description of the revived Rav Moshe's perspective.) Oct 4, 2013 at 15:50
  • @IsaacMoses, ok. Gimme a little time to come back to this...
    – Seth J
    Oct 4, 2013 at 15:54
  • @DoubleAA, I lifted the translation (almost) verbatim from Wikisource.
    – Seth J
    Oct 4, 2013 at 15:55

Minhagim, are not halachos, but there are as strict and well guarded as halachos and laws. It's been the minhag for ages for women not to wear tzitzis or talisim, so I and many others cling to the idea that women should not wear talisim. It is not discriminating women. Women have a more special connection with Hashem, and so by wearing tzitzis a women is almost denying her special connection. Women have many other obligations. Hope this helps, -Ezra

  • "but there [sic] are as strict and well guarded as halachos and laws" This is obviously not true...
    – Double AA
    Dec 17, 2014 at 23:58
  • "by wearing tzitzis a women is almost denying her special connection" This would only possibly be true if she thought she was obligated like men...
    – Double AA
    Dec 17, 2014 at 23:59
  • "Special connection" therefore they can't do the mitzvah? What kind of new-age non-sense is this?
    – Yehoshua
    Mar 6, 2016 at 0:01
  • Minhagim become as strong as halacha if they are followed for a long time. Oct 10, 2016 at 21:19

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