I have been looking at the halachot for a son who is the gabbai and who calls his father up for an aliyah here and I know that there was a question about it, but my question is about after the aliyah. When making the מי שבירך afterwards, one often includes the name of relatives. How does the gabbai refer to himself if the father wishes to give a bracha to his children? The gabbai adds in something like "avi umori" out of respect, so he probably doesn't need to add "achi" if his brother and family get the מי שבירך but does he refer to himself and his children in the third person?

  • I have seen gabbais mentioniong themselves on occasion, and in my experience, usually they just say "oti, vishti, etc."
    – Daniel
    Commented Jul 30, 2012 at 1:58
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    Like @Daniel, I've generally heard "v'osi" (except by one gabay whose command of Hebrew was, apparently poor, who said "v'es osi").
    – msh210
    Commented Jul 30, 2012 at 3:33

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I've seen the Gabbai Sheni say it instead, to avoid the distasteful move of calling out "God bless me!"


I have been a gabbai and my sons are gabbaim. My sons refer to their brothers as 'Ploni ben Avi Mori' and their sons as 'Bni Ploni' without using their own names. I think that they would also refer to their wives as 'Ishti Plonis bas Ploni' and that is often how I would do it when I was gabbai.

Note that we would first check with the rav of the shul to make sure what the minhag was before doing this. This was not just something that we came up with on our own.

  • Are you or your sons respected halachik authorities that we should care what you have chosen to do? Were your decisions based on some other authority that you can cite? After all, we don't know you.
    – Double AA
    Commented Apr 2, 2014 at 18:38
  • @DoubleAA I was giving the minhag as my LOR and the rabbonim at the shuls that my sons are gabbaim have explained to us what to do. This includes the bais medrash at YU where one of my sons served as gabbai when he was there (before he got semicha). Commented Apr 2, 2014 at 23:55

My son is gabbai and asked our Rav what to do.

He calls me up and refers to me in the brocho afterwards as אבי מורי הכהן. In the brocho afterwards he refers to all other family members as he would for anyone else, i.e. אשתו, בניו, בנותיו etc and not אמי, אחי, אחיותי

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