Last night I was at a wedding, and when I stood up as the bride was passing by on the way to the Chuppa, a fellow in all seriousness told me "It is not proper and a lack of Tzniyus to stand up for the bride". I told him that I am certain that there is a valid source for doing so as we see that it is a Minhag Yisroel that people stand up when the bride passes by. What is the source?

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    haprozdor.blogspot.com/2007/08/… Commented Jun 22, 2012 at 14:55
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    Is there any source for there being a tzeniyut issue in standing up for the bride? I'd say that tzeniyut-wise, if standing up for her is problematic, so is her being there at a public event in the first place; have separate parties for the men and the women, and have her send a shaliach (e.g. her father) to the chuppa!
    – Isaac Moses
    Commented Jun 22, 2012 at 17:04
  • Neither Taame Haminhagim nor Nit'e Gavriel mentions rising for the bride as she passes, as far as I see.
    – msh210
    Commented Jun 22, 2012 at 17:14
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See Halachically Speaking (Volume 4, Issue 12, Page 8) where the author brings that many poskim [see footnote 108 for names] actually say to stand the entire Chuppah. (One reason given is because the Chosson is doing a Mitzvah, so we stand in his honor). Common custom however, is not like that.

He then goes on to say:

It is customary to stand when the chosson and kallah walk down the aisle. Some say this is out of respect for the chosson and kallah.

He brings Knesses Hagedolah E.H. 62[:2] as a source for that last reason [though the Knesses Hagedolah is referring to standing for the Chuppah Berachos].

So there you have it: a source.

  • @msh210 I haven't read the entire thing (the copy you linked to is pretty bad), but towards the end of [:2] he does write בשעה שמברכין לכלה. Or it could be from somewhere else in the Siman...
    – yydl
    Commented Jun 22, 2012 at 22:08
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    You're using Halachically Speaking's observing a common custom to justify the common custom?
    – Double AA
    Commented Oct 8, 2013 at 21:55
  • @DoubleAA True. I was bringing a source for it being a valid custom though. And he himself does at least partially bring a source.
    – yydl
    Commented Oct 9, 2013 at 2:49
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    Just because someone doesn't actively protest something doesn't mean he finds any value in it.
    – Double AA
    Commented Oct 9, 2013 at 2:50

I have heard it comes from the mishna (Bikurim) that says people in Jerusalem would stand and greet people bringing bikurim, on which the g'mara (Kidushin) says chaviva mitzva b'sha'tah, a mitzva at its right time is beloved [and we stand up for the one doing it].

However, I'll have to find the source that connects that to a bride (and groom).

See also the comments on this answer.

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    Did you see the post joshwaxman linked to?
    – Double AA
    Commented Jun 22, 2012 at 17:22
  • @DoubleAA, now I have. Thanks. He mentions, but cites no source for, the Bikurim connection. The PDF he links to, from a R' Zev Cinamon, indicates that R'ZC could not find an old source for the connection. This answer may be worth deleting.
    – msh210
    Commented Jun 22, 2012 at 19:13

The Jewish Press of the week of January 9, 2016, brings a small piece by Rabbi Soleveitchik saying the tzibbur stands when the chassan and kallah walk down the aisle to honor the parents that are bringing their children to do the mitzvah of kiddushin. I think he also mentions the mishnah in bikkurim as a source to why we stand to honor the parents in this case

  • can anyone verify this?
    – pine5900
    Commented Jan 13, 2016 at 4:02

Quotes from two of Rabbi Leib Tropper's Shoel Umaishiv emails:

Dec 24, '15:

Rav Moshe [Feinstein], zt'l took the position that the choson only earns the status of 'Choson' after the chupah.‎ Therefore if after the Choson's Tish people would daven mincha he would also say ‎'Tachnun'. He would not stand up for the Choson or the Kalah as they walk to the Chupah since they do not have the status of Choson & Kalah until after the chupah.

Nov 19, '12:

Maran Harav Moshe [Feinstein], zt'l did not stand up for the choson & kallah as they walked to the chupah. Rav Moshe's position is that they are not a Choson or Kallah until after the chupah.

He also did not exempt the choson from tachnun at mincha before the Chupah as he is not considered a choson until after The chupah.

There are other poskim who concur with this psak.

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