I'm surprised the Chofetz Chaim doesn't discuss this:

If me and my friend saw someone do something bad or embarrassing, are we allowed to discuss it between ourselves?

I'd appreciate your thoughts, and sources even more.

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    It's definitely forbidden to fill in what the other might have missed. And who's to say you both noticed the same details? If you did, there wouldn't be much to discuss.
    – shmosel
    Nov 17 at 7:41
  • @shmosel The situation that I'm referring to was a funny one, so we wanted to laugh about it.
    – ElonMusk
    Nov 17 at 7:46
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    @ElonMusk It is not permissible to mock or denigrate someone, even without sharing new information amongst yourselves (see, for instance, here).
    – Fred
    Nov 17 at 17:30
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    The sefer covers all sorts of examples of where there's a productive purpose or outcome. Is it that you just want a good laugh at someone? Then goodness no. If it's "hey, this authority figure did/said something kind of weird to me behind closed doors, was I making it up or the only one?" ... that's a different story. (And even then, think carefully about who the right people who could do something about it.)
    – Shalom
    Dec 4 at 9:53


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