As far as I can tell from experience, common wisdom, common sense and perhaps my Torah learning, it seems quality time spent talking, playing and generally interacting with one's parents is like oxygen for a child.

This makes me wonder, does the Torah place any form of obligation on parents to spend time with their children beyond the simply "veshinantam levanecha"? A schedule of any sort? X hours per day per child?

I understand I am not articulating this question well so please help me refine it. It is important. Shavua tov.

  • In Hayom Yom, the Rebbe writes: "so too is it an absolute duty for every person to spend a half hour every day thinking about the Torah-education of children" (Teves 22). Is this what you mean?
    – Shmuel
    Mar 11, 2023 at 19:59
  • @Shmuel no but wow thanks incredible. How much time actually spent interacting with children? Age by age
    – Rabbi Kaii
    Mar 11, 2023 at 20:00
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    in the words of my Rabbi "as much as the child NEEDS" - it is also healthy for a child to be left alone. Part of the attachment is they feel safe being without the parent. Mar 11, 2023 at 20:27
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    I don't think there is a prescribed amount as every child is different and has different needs. It is very much a case of chanoch lenaar al pi darko. It is definitely important to spend time with the child in a non-learning capacity. Even R Chaim Kanievsky zt"l relates how his father the Steipler zt"l would make time to walk with him on Shabbos afternoon when it got too dark to learn.
    – Dov
    Mar 11, 2023 at 20:55
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    Jewish life is Torah.
    – The GRAPKE
    Mar 12, 2023 at 9:07


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