What is the Jewish position regarding the status of the beginning of a marital relationship? Should you look for the person with the greatest possible affinity with you or should the component of passion not be discarded? I see rabbis advising people to look for spouses through ideological and religious affinity against that modern idea of "love at first sight" or something deeper that ignores every context you find yourself with that person. So what does Judaism actually work for? Is passion a bad adviser? Or should the cold and calculating search for a spouse prevail over the deepest feelings?