I am not sure if this question is appropriate for this site. It is not exactly an academic issue. Let me know if it is not appropriate. I started to become religious about 8 years ago. I started giving significantly more charity than I had in the past about 4 years ago. I have a question. I don't know how to handle it. A rabbi, I guess I should say my rabbi, asked me to donate to a project. I wasn't sure it was in my budget but I decided to do it. I didn't give it all at once but within 2~3 months I did (I think). I asked if there could be a memorial placard for someone and they said yes. I visited the schul for a couple of years and always looked to see if this project had been completed but never saw it. Finally I asked about it. I live very far from the schul and cannot attend more than a few times a year so I asked for a picture. They said it wasn't cleaned up yet but it would be. Finally they sent a picture but there was no memorial. I asked about it and they said of course they were going to do it. But I never heard back and I asked a few times after that but it didn't get resolved. I checked and to make a memorial placard would cost virtually nothing (maybe a hundred dollars at the most). I feel unsettled by all this. Does anyone have some way I should think about it? Some perspective on it?